I hope for the best you as you visit him %26amp; try to patch up your cracked relationship. May be your presence may bring a change of heart %26amp; he start the same love %26amp; affection for you which he had when you married him. The things which you should keep in mind in during this visit is to avoid any talks with him that irritates him regarding his parents behavior towards you in his absence, also avoid reminding him regarding his avoidance during his stay abroad towards you. Just see how he behaves with you, in the beginning he may not feel comfortable by your presence, but after few days he may change his attitude %26amp; start enjoying your company there. These are all the positive things which I suggest you to do while you are next to him in a foreign country. In case he behaves rudely %26amp; try to give mental harassment by his words %26amp; behavior, make a note of all these in your mind, with details of days %26amp; time when he do any such act. In case you are being accompanied by some one else, then such a person should be made witness to all his behavior %26amp; attitude. In case he becomes physically violent towards you make a police complaint against him %26amp; get a true certified copy of such complaint. Do keep in touch with your relatives back in India %26amp; provide them with the latest information regarding his behavior %26amp; all his negative acts whether physically or mentally inflicted on you. These can be conveyed to them by email, which should be saved or by telephonic conversation which can be recorded here by them regarding whatever you tell them. All these will be the piece of evidence that will be required by you for any sort of litigation against him in case he doesn't change his attitude %26amp; behaves in a refined gentleman manner with you. What else legal option you have to get relief can be discussed once you find this cracked relationship with him failed to mend during your visit abroad. What I want that your side of case should be kept crystal clear during all this time you are alone with him abroad at the same time you should be able to collect evidence that may be required for any sort of litigation by you against him. Hope now you feel bit comfortable as you pack you baggage %26amp; prepare for this journey.Life is in a mess in my married life.. Need some good advice?
first of all I hope you did not give him money. If you did then you have been part of a scam and you should sue him!
Just leave him and be happy that you can start over again. Besides you don't need a man to be happy in life. Just focus on yourself for now and move on.
hate to say it but sounds like he's found someone else....and that's exactly what you should do AFTER you pick yourself up and get out on your own
do you have 'marriage certificate' with you... that is the most essential document for you...
what the heck is this? divorce the jerk if he's abandoning you. stand you for yoself woman!
if you are in India and you are american well you need to get to the embassay and tell them what happened and get divorced quickly!
He has some kind of hidden agenda. He is not to be trusted. Has he taken any life insurance policies out on you? A person who has treated you this way is a very cold and calculated person. Please stay away from him, because he does not mean you any good. Don't worry about the parents; because you married him, and you need to divorce him as soon as possible. Stop calling the parents, and definitely stop calling and writing him. If he wanted you, and if he loved you, he would be pursuing you, and you would believe in your heart that he loves you. Learn how to love yourself, and get some medical help for your depression, and I guarantee life will get better everyday.
Honestly speaking...ppl here on this segment who are married %26amp; answers regulary , they are mostly not sucessful in their married life ( most of them..so that reason might leads them to spend time here)...so they are not aligible to solve any prob which related to married life.....and rest of them , who answers here are unmarried so they are inexperianced with problems of married life...so they are also not going to helpful....so ..what do u say??..is it correct %26amp; appropriate place to seeking any solution regarding married life???...anyways ..keep on compromising at yr best in yr married life...best of luck!!
It's OK to get out of a bad marriage.
Your followup question -- compensation? I'd guess you would spend more money trying to pin him down than you would ever recover. You would need a lawyer, so you need to figure out how much money you can stand to lose, and when to cut your losses and move on.
what u will read may amaze u 4 a minute!
the whole thing is about him, and all what he is doing is to cover something mysterious, what i think is, he met another women and making an affair, cz he lost interest in u, and that means that he is in an affair, u may be a lot surprized when u go there to him! he will shout and hurt u more, but that doesnt mean not facing hin, u should face him and have courage for that, u cant live a life like this, so all what u can do is getting divorce cz he doesnt deserve u, u are a love giver, and he takes but without giving any of it back, u need to step forward and show him his mistake, BECAREFUL WITH EVERY STEP U ARE MAKING U SHOULDNT RUSH AND OVER REACT, BE WISE WITH UR WORDS AND ACTIONS.
hope u make it and am sure u will.!
I am sorry hon, but it sounds like your marriage is over.
Turn to JESUS though, HE loves you and will NEVER forsake you!
I am so sorry for you, it is so hard being away from someone you love, but it sounds to me that he has lost that loving feeling for you, he has been away from you for to long and mybe he has found someone that he can relate with that is closer to him,, Although if you love him, dont give up on him, try to go to him and then maybe the spark will come alive again, good luck to you.
its great that you are going there to visit him, but dont u think he will think you have spyied on him
It sounds like its going to end before it started. He is behaving like this in the beginning of your marriage. There is still long way to go. You cannot go-on compromising your whole life. It is better to get out of marriage and move on. One more thing what did you see in this man before marriage to fall in love with him. Poor thing you made a mistake in understanding him before marriage. Never do this mistake again in your life. Always think well before getting committed to anything. Now instead of patch-up get a divorce from him. He doesn't deserve you. It hurts, but Time is the best healer, you can overcome it. GOOD LUCK.
Hey I think that you will be given alot of advice from people here about your situation you are in.Mine advice is short and sweet .Please there is signs that things are going to become hard for you.He could be very controlling towards you.Make decisions early in the marriage and get out before it gets nasty if it is like this now.All the best.Also do not have his parents shout at you.
hi sweety...firstly nothing can be solved by crying and getting depressed....this way u wont be able to think right...i know it must really hurt to be betrayed by a person whom u gave urself to...but u have to get over it.Its time to take matters into ur hands and make a plan/goal for your life.There are mainly 2 things that u can do:
1.u can leave him,and start a new life
2.U can go after him over there and try to save ur marriage.
But let me tell u,do u really want a person like him?i mean,u sayy that this ws a love marriage,and see within a few months he has betrayed u...God knows wt he will do after a few yrs..the matter cd gt bad if chidren are invoved..so in a way it ws gd that u came to know his true colours bfr its too late...so ya pls leave him...this guy is not worth it...ul get mch better than this...jsut dont lose hope...and believe in urself.
p.s. pls do confide in ur parents...they have a right to know,and also u need their emotional support....and never ever take crap frm anyone...nt his parents or anybody else...always stand up fr urself and ur rights...remeber,wt dsnt kill u,only makes u stronger....all the best and take care of urself.
Wish you all the best in your endeavour and hope everything will settle for better.
I think people here have seen many phases of life. Its always worth taking advice. In this world every one has got their own issues, does not mean they cant help you. People here, they come to share everything which can give some light in their life.
Dear, I m an Indian. I can understand what you are going through. I would ask, do you really think he loves you? If yes, where is that love? Compromise and adjustments, we do, but when u r sure that he loves u. Then it worth compromising. Otherwise you are a slave. You are making some one happy at the cost of ur happiness. Life is one time. I know now u will have parents problem, they will try to make you two together blah blah, if not they wont be happy. I think if ur husband does not want u, and does not love you, be real strong and send the divorce paper. You dont have to beg. Suggest him if you two can talk and sort out the issues. If not go for a 'D'. Indian community needs to accept the fact of 'D' if the marriage does not work.
India, is what US was back 50 years. People has good values, but they also need to stop torturing them for reasons like society, family crap. DIVORCE him, get a good job. Be independent. But for this you shd make sure that he does not love you anymore and wants a D as well. Good luck. no need to get scared at all. Just be bold.
You are very much lucky friend that you havnt get pregnant when he was with you, there are a lot of persons whose are struggling with cruel world with their babies . Be get separated with that inhuman as soon as possible.
There are so many things to do to keep your mind fresh .
Just ignore your past %26amp; go ahead , a new World is waiting for you. Who knows that your real prince is waiting on the other side of the new World?!
Best of Luck!
time to get your self a divorce ...this looser doesnt love you...time to move on..you deserve better
Bleep him and his parents too!! Have your lawyer draw up the divorce papers and get rid of this loser!
I am so sorry that you are in pain. It sounds to me that he has started a new life. You can too! I know that you are so depressed right now but accepting that fact that it is over will do you good. It will hurt, but day by day it will get better. Thank God that you didn't have children with him! With that being said, you can sever all ties and try to start a new life for yourself. You deserve to be happy on this earth. Trust in God and he will guide you and give you strength.
Apply for mutual consent and get separated legally.Get the help of an advocate.
I am so sorry! Not much I can say! I hear of this a lot in Canada! Happened to one of my best friends here - her Indian husband just used her to get Canadian Citizenship - she was devastated! A lot of this goes on in your culture. So sorry!
You are going to have to face the fact that this marriage is over.
Once you have healed, life will get better. But you are going to have to ride the emotional roller coaster. Sorry. I wish I could ease your pain.
Good luck. I will pray for you.
Pray,pray,pray. That's the answer
well, theres not much you can do if he is shutting you out like that.....it sounds like he's had an affair.....maybe try to send him a letter and tell him you want to work on the marriage and see how he responds..
again..if he's not willing to save the marriage there is nothing you can do.....
i think he behaves so cause he does some things behind all of this....
hes cheating on u n wants da other girl instead of u im sorry but itz true trust me i kno these thingz bout men wen he starts actin like dat hes cheatin on u cuz he wants wat he wants but doesn't see wat good thing he has in front of him n datz u ur husband is a jerk n doesn't deserve u 1 day wen u have a man dat treats u rite hes gonna want u bac but u say no cuz wat hes doin is wrong his parents r in on it 2 start over get a job buy an apartment or house whichever n try 2 get over this ur heart will heal go 2 chruch read da bible pray hang out wit ur friendz n 1 day a guy is gonna see u n ya'll will hook up k don't worry everything is gonna b ok as long as u have God in ur life :)
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