Need advice on personal life? 14 years old...?

Okay, this might be a little long but it's a pretty interesting story. I'm fourteen and I've had a girlfriend for 11 months and around 10 months he had sex. I'm gonna get a little off topic here, but if you wanna tell me that is wasn't a good idea or that I'm very stupid; i already know! so just help me if you really want, i don't need to be yelled at...continuing, we happen to break up, i broke up because i didn't think it was working out and i just needed some time off. While we're broken up we're still very close and still love eachother, but we didn't talk as much because i need to figure out how i wanted my life to go, and i go to her house to see her and she starts crying about how she missed me and wants us to be together. I go home and find out she's been dating her ex for 1 week, the kissed and stuff. Now she told him that me and her did it and everyone's going to know, I need advice on how to deal with getting over her because i loved her so much with my heart. Please help me, i'm going through some hard stuff right now :/ Thanks...Need advice on personal life? 14 years old...?
Hi Peter,


One of the things psychologically successful people learn as they mature is to distinguish between the things they can change and the things they can't change. Then they concentrate on the former and let go of the latter. So, for example, you can't go back and change the fact that you had sex with your gf. You can't change the fact that she told her ex about the sex. It's also pretty likely that others will also learn about that. So those are things you can't change and need to let go of. A good way to let go is to focus on the future and make better choices based on what you learned from the past. That means not getting re-involved with you former gf. It also means recognizing that, at age 14 you're too young to engage in sex. You're experiencing some of the bad consequences of that choice. Fortunately, you don't have to deal with an unplanned pregnancy or VD. I recommend that you fill up your time with school stuff and extra-curricular activities you enjoy. Tell your ex that you're moving on and then stick by that if she tries to manipulate you into getting back together. When you begin dating again, keep it casual for a while. In time the hard stuff you're going through will fade and you'll be okay. Regards.Need advice on personal life? 14 years old...?
hello,, well first of all am not going to judge you.... but you're young and you have your life ahead of you.. so dont rush it, things happen you should go to school study your education and later worry about girlfriends, relationship, love etc...good luck,, just forget about her for now.. take care, you and the girl should be friends only
You're 14. You don't know what love is.
love?14?? focus on your school work
Dude, if you cant handle people knowing then you shouldnt have done it. loll, i agree with ^^^^ tht dude in that your 14, and you dont know what love is


seriously, dont worry about it, you'll get over it, ther are plenty of things in life that will be worse than this


just take your mind off it, go out with your friends, i duno, go out with sumone else, use them as a rebound person loll, its not very nice, but if you want help ther it is .
reight , 14 , CAN BE IN LOVE you dont have to be over a certain age to know what love is people,


and what i think you should do is sit down and talk to her about how you feel and if shes horrible or doesnt feel the same then you need to stop and realise that shes not the girl for you , youre onl young once so theres no point in feeling like this , thats why you need to tell her how you feel so you know where you stand xx
I'm fourteen and I never went on a date or had sex but I kind of know what that's like. If your girlfriend was still close to you and now she's dating her ex, she could be a player. Just move on. I'm not trying to be rude or anything; I'm just saying... you should not ';do it'; until you're married, and once you're married only do it to your wife.
Well tbh shes not worth is she.In a few years when your older you'll back on this and just remember her as a bit of a cow tbh when really you should remember her as your first love so shes basically wrecked that memory for you! but anyways.. If you wanna get over her keep your distance because you wont get over her if your constanly with her go out with other friends and have a good time! youll forget all about her soon enough dont you worrry ;)