L`m feeling so sorry 4 myself,any advice on my life?

right well l`m 31,got 2 boys 10 and 5 my 5yr old has special needs,l`ve just been to court to get an order to get their dad to stay away from us as he`s a voilient drunk who tried to kill me last week. Lucky the order has gone though,but on top of this l have no job,although l`ve tried,l live in a crap area full of werdos,my now boyfriend of 5 mths is going off me (or so l think) and l am actually in love with a man that l can`t have.


And l`m learning to drive but l`m crap at it, in debt up to my eyeballs. So please any advice on my life??????????L`m feeling so sorry 4 myself,any advice on my life?
Yes, I want through a time period such as yours. I had to sit down and really think about where my life was at and what I should do about it. First, you can't change it all at one time. You have to take it in steps. Make a list of the changes you need to make, then prioritize what you want to accomplish first. If you need to declare bankruptcy - do it. If you need Social services - go apply. If you need to get out of your neighborhood, see if Social Services can help find you subsidized housing and train you for a job. Do you have a church in your neighborhood? If so, and if you have faith, you will find that a positive place to go and may find people who are a support to you. Many times the clergy/ministers can help you in areas such as food, clothes or finding someone through the church to help you learn to drive. There are always things you can do - it may not happen overnight - but if you at least start to get the ball rolling - it will happen. Things don't stay the same forever. And one thing I did live by - TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME. Pray to God to help you get through things, he can make miracles happen that you cannot believe - He did for me! Take care.L`m feeling so sorry 4 myself,any advice on my life?
Do you know what's your purpose is in this life? Do you know why you are you and you are here? If not, that's your first step right there? You are here to do something special that only you can do. And most importantly you are here to be happy and bring joy to others. What are you doing about it? Your life is hard right now because it is merely a test of what you can do with what you've got. Go out and find where you can help this world and in turn the world will help you. Maybe your jobs did not work out simply because you're looking in the wrong area. It will behoove you to take a moment to yourself and let your intuition/creator guide you to what your next step should be. Follow your own truth and don't listen to anyone who thinks they know what's right for you. The sooner you start the journey to discovery the faster your life will change for the better. I believe you will find your answer.
Girl, you are 31, and it is time you TAKE charge! You want change? YOU change! Stop depending on MEN to meet your needs, Hon. Stop going from relationship to relationship until you are able to stand on your OWN two feet and can stand up for what you will and won't put up with . Not to mention what YOU really want and need. You are trapping yourself looking for what you can ONLY find inside...that is stability and love. You have to be the one to provide that not only for yourself, but for your boys! Find a friend to teach you how to drive! Get rid of the boyfriend, and every other man you think you ';love';. You cannot possibly know what's good for you when you are already scattered to the WIND! Get yourself a job, even if you have to work 3 part time ones ! Get a friend to teach you to drive....or something, but for God's sake do SOMETHING! You sound like me a few years ago. You have the same illness I had. It's called, ';I'mavictimitis';! You are NOT a victim. You are NOT helpless. You are strong and you are a MOTHER! Go to the state and get all the help they'll give you. I know a single mother with 8 children who became a nurse's aid doing the crappiest jobs....then put herself through nursing school, AND then went on to become a DOCTOR at 40 something because she'd HAD it with being a victim, and she went after it! We are more empowered than we think. It's NOT easy, but we are capable, when we stop feeling sorry for ourselves, and do some real inner inventory and MOVE on it. What's the worst thing that can happen? If you keep going this way, you are stuck forever in the same crappy life, and whether you want to believe it or not, it is ALL up to you...so Girl, WHAT are you gonna do?
Get a new one?
Hang in there.





Focus the energy you have on providing for your kids - keep dreaming of the day they walk across the stage getting their college diploma. Focus on that dream and the hug you will get after the fact.





Assess your strengths and what is available in your area and do your best to find a job that fits your needs.





Don't worry about men now, but the day may come that you will be in a better position to enter a relationship.





And pray to God daily.





Good luck