the only thing i can suggest is organization and the realization that u r only human and can only do so much ! while caring 4 ur twins make sure ur 20mnth old has something to keep them amused ( drawing, colouring, a special toy ) it's very difficult with twins and other children. or you could get your 20 mnth old involved in the care of the twins: getting mum the nappies or nappie wipes, helping with bathtime by getting the soap ready or the washers . even though 20 mnths is still very young by this age they also want your praise and attention .....this way they get your praise because they are helping mummy and they get to understand that once the babies are cared for then the older child can spend a lil time with mum .... if they help it gets done quicker and they get mums cuddles sooner .I need advice for newborn twins and a 20 month old, any suggestions to make life a bit easier, please...?
It sounds like you need help. Call on family and friends and try to keep the kids on a schedule as much as possible. This is a hectic time for you no matter what.
Maybe someone could keep the 20 month old for a few hours a day a few times a week.I need advice for newborn twins and a 20 month old, any suggestions to make life a bit easier, please...?
hire a nanny if at all possible.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
I'm stuck in a rut, advice on winning in life?
im 30, on 2 yrs.probabation, my license is revoked, i have trouble getting a good paying job, the only work experience I have is house painting, restaurant service, and auto parts selling and I hate them all. I done questionable things in my life but very much would like to please my parents and God- how do I make myself a winner???I'm stuck in a rut, advice on winning in life?
Look at things this way, you are on the way somewhere better, I don't mean heaven, I mean a better state in your life.
I know this because you are looking for it. 2 years ago I was a mess. I made a decision to get somewhere better in my life and now I have. But it's been hard work and it took the better part of those 2 years to notice anything had changed.
It'll be hard and it'll take time and it'll only get better by small steps, but in 10 years time or 2 years time or even a month or a week look back and see how far you've come. If you keep at it, you'll see a difference.
It might sound trite but have you thought of doing night classes or some sort of further education. There is bound to be something that you can learn that is free, or as near as, that will improve your lot.
I wish you well and hope things get better for you.I'm stuck in a rut, advice on winning in life?
you can't please anybody but yourself bro do what you have got to do and just work hard they will see that
Look at things this way, you are on the way somewhere better, I don't mean heaven, I mean a better state in your life.
I know this because you are looking for it. 2 years ago I was a mess. I made a decision to get somewhere better in my life and now I have. But it's been hard work and it took the better part of those 2 years to notice anything had changed.
It'll be hard and it'll take time and it'll only get better by small steps, but in 10 years time or 2 years time or even a month or a week look back and see how far you've come. If you keep at it, you'll see a difference.
It might sound trite but have you thought of doing night classes or some sort of further education. There is bound to be something that you can learn that is free, or as near as, that will improve your lot.
I wish you well and hope things get better for you.I'm stuck in a rut, advice on winning in life?
you can't please anybody but yourself bro do what you have got to do and just work hard they will see that
I need advice on my sex life. HELP?
O---k awkward...for some reason, i WANT to have sex with my husband, but my body doesn't respond the way I want it to. What gives?I need advice on my sex life. HELP?
Are you on hormonal birth control right now?
It's not unusual for some types of birth control to screw with a woman's natural sex drive and make it hard for her to, um, naturally lubricate herself.
My best advice would be to take it slowly when you're in bed with your husband -- don't rush into things, and make it clear to him that you want to relax and take it slow! Sometimes you just need to have a lot of foreplay before your body starts cooperating with you and getting ready for sex. If you find you're still having trouble getting wet, just buy some lubricant -- you can find a wide variety of lube at sex-toy shops, and most drug stores and supermarkets even sell it now (usually in the ';family planning'; aisle, near the condoms).
You might also want to try manually stimulating yourself or using a vibrator during sex to increase your pleasure.
Hope that helped!I need advice on my sex life. HELP?
It could be lots of things. I know that has happened to me with my hubby. I'm not on any meds. or anything so I write it off as me being stressed or having allot of other thing on my mind. Try lots of foreplay. Relax, have a glass of wine. If it's dryness, get some lube ( sorry one other way to put it). If it's because you don't get off, I got a vibrator that helps too...
i know what you mean. Although it is my boyfriend but when i have sex with him im turned on.. but i cant come or orgasm. its rather annoying.I know i didnt answer any questions just wanted to let you know your not alone
finally a question that involves a husband and not a boyfriend with their 14 year old girl friends!!!
Are you on hormonal birth control right now?
It's not unusual for some types of birth control to screw with a woman's natural sex drive and make it hard for her to, um, naturally lubricate herself.
My best advice would be to take it slowly when you're in bed with your husband -- don't rush into things, and make it clear to him that you want to relax and take it slow! Sometimes you just need to have a lot of foreplay before your body starts cooperating with you and getting ready for sex. If you find you're still having trouble getting wet, just buy some lubricant -- you can find a wide variety of lube at sex-toy shops, and most drug stores and supermarkets even sell it now (usually in the ';family planning'; aisle, near the condoms).
You might also want to try manually stimulating yourself or using a vibrator during sex to increase your pleasure.
Hope that helped!I need advice on my sex life. HELP?
It could be lots of things. I know that has happened to me with my hubby. I'm not on any meds. or anything so I write it off as me being stressed or having allot of other thing on my mind. Try lots of foreplay. Relax, have a glass of wine. If it's dryness, get some lube ( sorry one other way to put it). If it's because you don't get off, I got a vibrator that helps too...
i know what you mean. Although it is my boyfriend but when i have sex with him im turned on.. but i cant come or orgasm. its rather annoying.I know i didnt answer any questions just wanted to let you know your not alone
finally a question that involves a husband and not a boyfriend with their 14 year old girl friends!!!
HELP!! I'M SAVING THIS DOGS LIFE BUT NEED SOME ADVICE!!?
Ok here's the deal...I picked up this dog (';Bear';) yesterday from a local kill shelter on the day he was supposed to be put to sleep. He's a little over 1 year old and he weighs about 75 LBS. We're almost positive that he is almost ALL Rottweiler, or at least he looks like he is. The problem is this: I live in a condo (2-story, large backyard, and plenty of room for this type of dog), and Rottweiler's happen to be one of about 30 breeds of dog that are PROHIBITED as pets in my complex. This is not something that suprised me, and I am aware that rules like this are something you would find in MOST apartment/condo communities.
';Bear,'; however, is a pretty unique dog. I have had him for a day, and he already acts as if I've been the person raising him for the past year. Even though I'm no expert on animals, I know a LITTLE bit about dogs, just from my experience with my past two dogs. Therfore, I have a pretty good sense of ';Bear's'; temperment, and I have no worries. I trust him enough to risk my residency in these condo's and keep him, because I know he won't hurt anyone.
Now here's where I need advice...I need someone to look at these pictures of Bear and tell me what other breed or breeds look similar to him. I HAVE to fill out some paperwork with the leasing office at the condo's and let them know I just got a new dog. Otherwise, I would not only have to hide the fact that he's a rottweiler, but I would also have to hide the fact that I even have a dog. This would be tough, and I'd rather not. If there is any other breed that I could say he is, a mix that is actually believeable, PLEASE tell me. It would eliminate almost all my problems if I could just tell people that he is another breed, or that he is a mix. I don't know enough about dogs to determine what his looks are similar to.
Here are the only two pictures that I have:
http://photocache.petfinder.com/fotos/MI316/MI316.12026769-1-x.jpg
http://photocache.petfinder.com/fotos/MI316/MI316.12026769-2-x.jpg
As far as the condo's rules, a dog CAN be a mix with SOME blood from a ';restricted'; breed, as long as the dog doesn't LOOK like it is of a ';restricted'; breed. My friend who lives here has a Pitbull Terrier/ Lab/ Retriever, and it doesn't resemble a pitbull as far as looks. Allowing a mix such as my friends is about as far as the people in the leasing office will bend the rules. Anyways, thank you for helping, and I'm sorry about writing you a huge essay on my problem lol. I just really want to keep this guy and I need some advice on what breed i could say he is. I dunno about the whole ';point'; thing on yahooanswers, but I will give as many points that I possibly can to whoever comes up with an answer that would work (I RARELY use yahooanswers). THANKS AGAINHELP!! I'M SAVING THIS DOGS LIFE BUT NEED SOME ADVICE!!?
I didn't see Mutt listed as a prohibited breed. I think that you're safe.HELP!! I'M SAVING THIS DOGS LIFE BUT NEED SOME ADVICE!!?
I would say he could be mixed with lab his coat is a little longer than most rotties have and he does not have too much tan
Chocolate Lab mix.
He is beautiful and I have to guess pure Rott. But do ask the vet for their opinion and see if they think he's a mix breed. Good luck
Just say he is a Black and Tan Coon hound. ;)
That has to be the WEIRDEST list of prohibited breeds I've ever seen. Pulik? Aussies? Irish terriers? do they have some sort of reasoning behind this?
I would say your dog is not 100% Rottie. He has Rottie markings but doesn't look very much like a Rottie in build. I might consider listing him as a lab mix.
Bear is an all american breed. A mixed breed with several heritages. Put rotti/shepherd/hound mix....that should cover him. ;)
I have a dog that looks similar to yours. he is lab and black %26amp; tan coon hound. he definitely has roti, but black %26amp; tans have very similar color markings.
good luck!
I have to agree with a previous answer, he looks like Doberman/ Rottweiler to me. If you're unable to keep him, look into a Doberman or a Rottweiler rescue, good luck.
Your dog looks like a mix of German Shepard/lab/rot/ The only way to really tell would to bring him to a dog breeder or a vet. If you just want you could just say he is that kind of mix. Either way he does not look like he is 100% anything.
I would have said rott and german shepperd. I know some will probably disagree but I had one with this mixture and she looked a lot like bear. That would explain the longer hair than most rotts and also the longer snout. I agree with the going to the vet and have them tell you what they may think he is and have them put on his papers that he is a mix breed so that you have documentation to show your condo people.
Sorry, don't think you're going to fool anyone. He looks like a rot/dobi mix. And I'm sure if rots are on the forbidden list, dobis are too. You can always tell them he's a brown %26amp; black dalmation! Good luck, I'm glad you saved a life!
That's a Rottie with a capitol R. He looks just a tad on the thin side.
You kinda put the cart before the horse on ';saving'; him knowing your lease clauses.
I would call a Rottweiler rescue right away and relinquish him over to them before he ends up back at the kill shelter.
BTW... I am surprised the kill shelter let you adopt the dog without doing a background check on your living conditions.
He really looks like a rott wheiler, don't know what to tell ya, should have thought about that before you adopted him. But I'm glad you tried your best. Maybe if you get him in a very good obiedient class maybe they will let you keep him.
I have been raising and breeding rotts for 7 years. I'm sorry but that is most likely a pure bred rott. It sure looks like it!! He is absolutly beautiful! Now if the people in ur apt complex are stupid you can say Lab mix.... even tho u know he is a rott... If you take him to a vet and sweet talk to reception staff they my put lab mix on his papers insted of Rott..... then you can show the peper work to the office..... GOOD LUCK!!
I think he is a Doberman/Rottweiler/Lab cross,
Because he has the markings of a Rottweiler, The body of a Doberman, and the face of a lab.
That's what I think.
I would say he is a Lab, with a teeny bit of Rottweiler or Doberman
He's a nice little/Big dog. Good Luck.
Hope you get through there with Bear. I appreciate you adopting him so he wont get killed. He's saying Thank you.
I would say he looks more like a Doberman than a Rottie. His build is more slender than most Rotties that I know. Hopefully a Doberman is not on this list. Good luck.
I had at rot/dob for 14 years and she looked just like that. Sorry but he really looks rot/dob! Mine was a sweet heart wouldn't hurt a soul. oh and those breeds that they are prohibiting are pretty lame! Alot of those a wonderful dogs. i have 3 of the one's that are listed. I am a certified dog trainer and behavioral modification degrees in dogs. Most of which are wonderful dogs is raised properly. Good luck, keep him if you believe he is that wonderful!!
';Bear,'; however, is a pretty unique dog. I have had him for a day, and he already acts as if I've been the person raising him for the past year. Even though I'm no expert on animals, I know a LITTLE bit about dogs, just from my experience with my past two dogs. Therfore, I have a pretty good sense of ';Bear's'; temperment, and I have no worries. I trust him enough to risk my residency in these condo's and keep him, because I know he won't hurt anyone.
Now here's where I need advice...I need someone to look at these pictures of Bear and tell me what other breed or breeds look similar to him. I HAVE to fill out some paperwork with the leasing office at the condo's and let them know I just got a new dog. Otherwise, I would not only have to hide the fact that he's a rottweiler, but I would also have to hide the fact that I even have a dog. This would be tough, and I'd rather not. If there is any other breed that I could say he is, a mix that is actually believeable, PLEASE tell me. It would eliminate almost all my problems if I could just tell people that he is another breed, or that he is a mix. I don't know enough about dogs to determine what his looks are similar to.
Here are the only two pictures that I have:
http://photocache.petfinder.com/fotos/MI316/MI316.12026769-1-x.jpg
http://photocache.petfinder.com/fotos/MI316/MI316.12026769-2-x.jpg
As far as the condo's rules, a dog CAN be a mix with SOME blood from a ';restricted'; breed, as long as the dog doesn't LOOK like it is of a ';restricted'; breed. My friend who lives here has a Pitbull Terrier/ Lab/ Retriever, and it doesn't resemble a pitbull as far as looks. Allowing a mix such as my friends is about as far as the people in the leasing office will bend the rules. Anyways, thank you for helping, and I'm sorry about writing you a huge essay on my problem lol. I just really want to keep this guy and I need some advice on what breed i could say he is. I dunno about the whole ';point'; thing on yahooanswers, but I will give as many points that I possibly can to whoever comes up with an answer that would work (I RARELY use yahooanswers). THANKS AGAINHELP!! I'M SAVING THIS DOGS LIFE BUT NEED SOME ADVICE!!?
I didn't see Mutt listed as a prohibited breed. I think that you're safe.HELP!! I'M SAVING THIS DOGS LIFE BUT NEED SOME ADVICE!!?
I would say he could be mixed with lab his coat is a little longer than most rotties have and he does not have too much tan
Chocolate Lab mix.
He is beautiful and I have to guess pure Rott. But do ask the vet for their opinion and see if they think he's a mix breed. Good luck
Just say he is a Black and Tan Coon hound. ;)
That has to be the WEIRDEST list of prohibited breeds I've ever seen. Pulik? Aussies? Irish terriers? do they have some sort of reasoning behind this?
I would say your dog is not 100% Rottie. He has Rottie markings but doesn't look very much like a Rottie in build. I might consider listing him as a lab mix.
Bear is an all american breed. A mixed breed with several heritages. Put rotti/shepherd/hound mix....that should cover him. ;)
I have a dog that looks similar to yours. he is lab and black %26amp; tan coon hound. he definitely has roti, but black %26amp; tans have very similar color markings.
good luck!
I have to agree with a previous answer, he looks like Doberman/ Rottweiler to me. If you're unable to keep him, look into a Doberman or a Rottweiler rescue, good luck.
Your dog looks like a mix of German Shepard/lab/rot/ The only way to really tell would to bring him to a dog breeder or a vet. If you just want you could just say he is that kind of mix. Either way he does not look like he is 100% anything.
I would have said rott and german shepperd. I know some will probably disagree but I had one with this mixture and she looked a lot like bear. That would explain the longer hair than most rotts and also the longer snout. I agree with the going to the vet and have them tell you what they may think he is and have them put on his papers that he is a mix breed so that you have documentation to show your condo people.
Sorry, don't think you're going to fool anyone. He looks like a rot/dobi mix. And I'm sure if rots are on the forbidden list, dobis are too. You can always tell them he's a brown %26amp; black dalmation! Good luck, I'm glad you saved a life!
That's a Rottie with a capitol R. He looks just a tad on the thin side.
You kinda put the cart before the horse on ';saving'; him knowing your lease clauses.
I would call a Rottweiler rescue right away and relinquish him over to them before he ends up back at the kill shelter.
BTW... I am surprised the kill shelter let you adopt the dog without doing a background check on your living conditions.
He really looks like a rott wheiler, don't know what to tell ya, should have thought about that before you adopted him. But I'm glad you tried your best. Maybe if you get him in a very good obiedient class maybe they will let you keep him.
I have been raising and breeding rotts for 7 years. I'm sorry but that is most likely a pure bred rott. It sure looks like it!! He is absolutly beautiful! Now if the people in ur apt complex are stupid you can say Lab mix.... even tho u know he is a rott... If you take him to a vet and sweet talk to reception staff they my put lab mix on his papers insted of Rott..... then you can show the peper work to the office..... GOOD LUCK!!
I think he is a Doberman/Rottweiler/Lab cross,
Because he has the markings of a Rottweiler, The body of a Doberman, and the face of a lab.
That's what I think.
I would say he is a Lab, with a teeny bit of Rottweiler or Doberman
He's a nice little/Big dog. Good Luck.
Hope you get through there with Bear. I appreciate you adopting him so he wont get killed. He's saying Thank you.
I would say he looks more like a Doberman than a Rottie. His build is more slender than most Rotties that I know. Hopefully a Doberman is not on this list. Good luck.
I had at rot/dob for 14 years and she looked just like that. Sorry but he really looks rot/dob! Mine was a sweet heart wouldn't hurt a soul. oh and those breeds that they are prohibiting are pretty lame! Alot of those a wonderful dogs. i have 3 of the one's that are listed. I am a certified dog trainer and behavioral modification degrees in dogs. Most of which are wonderful dogs is raised properly. Good luck, keep him if you believe he is that wonderful!!
I feel so unsettled in my life...please...I need advice as it is distressing me.?
I feel so unsettled in my life. Im a woman in her mid 40s, but look in my early 30s thank goodness. I have great physical health and good friends. The problem is that I am burnt out from a very exacting career. As well as that, I have not had great luck in my love life. I still have not met a guy that I would like to stay with even though I have had a couple of long term relationships. I really need love in my life and am worried that I will just have to live without it. I am thinking of taking up a new passtime but I have done all of these things before and the problem seems to reappear, where I meet a guy (usually much younger) who is into me but I am afraid to let go for fear that he just wants to use me for experience. How do I improve my self esteem and confidence? Also, how do I change career to something more manageable? I travel lots to get away from the 'settled' life of some of my friends..I can't handle it as I am not in this situation.I feel so unsettled in my life...please...I need advice as it is distressing me.?
have a long holiday and travel ,meet new people ,enjoy life now ,or you will remain in a rut ...good luck ..!!!!!!I feel so unsettled in my life...please...I need advice as it is distressing me.?
I know this may seem like a strange answer, but I feel you should check out books by Dr. Wayne Dyer, Dr. Brian Weiss, Doreen Virtue or Louise L. Hay. Even better, go into your local bookshop and pick up an inspirational book that catches your eye. Sounds like you deserve a real pick-me-up (no pun intended!).
Guided meditations (CD) help ground you and make you feel more settled too. The more still you become and the more you allow your mind to open, the easier you will receive guidance on which path to take next.
I feel for you and I hope that helps. Things will surely pick up for you soon.
hey girl, chill out, you sound a bit stressed.
look at the situation with a bit of common sense, rather than ripping into yourself.
you are obviously an intelligent woman, with a career, you still look good, your friends are all settled and you have reached the point where you feel it's time for you to be the same.
you can mix a career with a relationship if you stop being critical of other peoples motives,
younger men may like the fact that they have an experienced woman, thats no lie and they may one day disappear into the great blue yonder, when you are a bit older and they are reaching the point that you are now at.
However, not everyone is the same (cliche) and sometimes as you know by your career, you have to take risks.
it's no good being full on in your work life and reticent in your private life. maybe you should change the two around and let go.
You know it makes sense.
cheers
If your job is stressing you out and you can afford to change and have transferable skills, then this is the first thing you should do. With work stress removed you will start to feel more relaxed and your confidence will return. I looked into a career change a year ago and found myself a careers councillor. She worked with me to identify my transferable skills and the type of things I would want to do and I was really amazed how much better I felt about myself. (I was then made redundant and I am now doing a home learning course in IT, but I'm a lot less stressed than I used to be - even with no job at present I'm still feeling positive for the future which was unthinkable 18 months ago!)
Then, with a little bit of confidence and more time (cos you've you won't be travelling so much) you can look at joining something like your local amateur dramatic society- -there's nothing like performing in a show to boost self confidence! Obviously there are other things you could do backstage that don鈥檛 involve performing. Or you could join a yoga class or fitness club - exercise does wonders for fighting off depression and increasing self confidence (no good if you're a lazy sod like me, though!)
So with a new, less stressful job and a new hobby you should feel better about yourself. You will also be meeting new people through your hobby and you never know, he might just be around that corner!
Only you can change your situation, but once you make your mind up to do it, it's (relatively) easy!
The best of luck to you.
Love is a great action when it begins with self sharing it through out the world...expand your thinking. Having the capability of being able to love can change many people's lives including children. Giving of your time can sometimes change an individual's state of despair, hopelessness, opression...etc...Imagine a child wanting and needing someone to make them laugh, a hug to hold on to hope and praise to beleive in their future dream/s.
Volunteer work is an option, at many needed places in our society. Improving ones self-esteem begins with confidence in self wanting and creating a better world each and every day. Think of your abilities, and pursuit your passion/s and challenge your creativity. Continue taking care of your great physical health, while focusing on your mental health. That said, it would be a good idea to go in for a medical check up, to address your present state of stress and/or anxieties. Depression may be part of what you are experiencing and/or perhaps a chemical inbalance is also a possibility, but can only be diagnosed and/or treated by your family physician. Pertaining to changing career/s, again seek your passion...travel seems to be an element you enjoy, therefore keep that in mind. There are endless possibilities and opportunities open to you...however, I would suggest taking time out for self, for rest...rest of the mind, and the body to rejuvenate thy self, so to speak. Change is on your horizon...therefore think very creatively, consider trying new things you've put off for what ever the reason/s. That would be adventure in itself. Remain confident in building new friendship/s along the way...smile with confidence, it's always a welcoming feature to the world that awaits you as you participate in life, making it all it can be...just for you...dare to dream...reach for the stars! We all have that hidden child in us...sometimes we just forget how to have fun! Hope that helps, best to you...and here's to cheering you on! Thanks for asking.
MIDLIFE CRISIS!!!
I dont want to sound rude at all but try meeting someone closer to your age and perhaps someone who does the same kind of work as you so you wouldnt have the worry of someone using you for experience. Try to relax and is there any way you can cut your hours of work so you can go out more often to meet new people?Good luck with your future.
Being that your age is mid 40...i think you should try a little harer to find love if that is what you want. Because i dont mean to sound rude, but that sort of stuff starts to get harder the older you get. You say you look younger, which is a good thing. Maybe take a long leave of absence from your work and go to places that have single men haha. Though being unsettled could be a good thing, love and everything that you say your lacking does get rid of some freedom that you may want to keep.
Best of luck though
Get a life coach or a therapist... I have found mine very useful.
We have 3 businesses 2 kids and a hubby and I am suffering extreme stress etc... from complications in one of the businesses...
The new pastime is a great idea. Will changing your job/career really achieve what you want it to? Why not study partime in a subject that you really find interesting? Then you can move into a new career from that - if you really enjoy it.
What are you passionate about?
Stop focussing on the guy - it will either happen or not. It's always when you stop looking that the good ones turn up isn't it? Ask your girlfriends they'll tell you the same thing.
I still reckon the life coach is a great idea...
Try and work out why you need the attention of younger men and why you go for relationships that you know won't work. Do you feel you don't deserve a man to love you? The fact that you burn yourself out at work too shows you are avoiding dealing with some issues from your past where you have been deeply hurt, either from a relationship or from when you were a child when you may have felt abandoned. Now you distract yourself with work and finish relationships quickly before they can and choose men that you can tell yourself weren't right to justify why you did. Its very sad and I hope you find peace. Find a job you enjoy, treat yourself like you want to be treated by men and life will look a lot rosier.
How would you change your career?quit your job and find another that will give you more freedom.No pain no gain.
have a long holiday and travel ,meet new people ,enjoy life now ,or you will remain in a rut ...good luck ..!!!!!!I feel so unsettled in my life...please...I need advice as it is distressing me.?
I know this may seem like a strange answer, but I feel you should check out books by Dr. Wayne Dyer, Dr. Brian Weiss, Doreen Virtue or Louise L. Hay. Even better, go into your local bookshop and pick up an inspirational book that catches your eye. Sounds like you deserve a real pick-me-up (no pun intended!).
Guided meditations (CD) help ground you and make you feel more settled too. The more still you become and the more you allow your mind to open, the easier you will receive guidance on which path to take next.
I feel for you and I hope that helps. Things will surely pick up for you soon.
hey girl, chill out, you sound a bit stressed.
look at the situation with a bit of common sense, rather than ripping into yourself.
you are obviously an intelligent woman, with a career, you still look good, your friends are all settled and you have reached the point where you feel it's time for you to be the same.
you can mix a career with a relationship if you stop being critical of other peoples motives,
younger men may like the fact that they have an experienced woman, thats no lie and they may one day disappear into the great blue yonder, when you are a bit older and they are reaching the point that you are now at.
However, not everyone is the same (cliche) and sometimes as you know by your career, you have to take risks.
it's no good being full on in your work life and reticent in your private life. maybe you should change the two around and let go.
You know it makes sense.
cheers
If your job is stressing you out and you can afford to change and have transferable skills, then this is the first thing you should do. With work stress removed you will start to feel more relaxed and your confidence will return. I looked into a career change a year ago and found myself a careers councillor. She worked with me to identify my transferable skills and the type of things I would want to do and I was really amazed how much better I felt about myself. (I was then made redundant and I am now doing a home learning course in IT, but I'm a lot less stressed than I used to be - even with no job at present I'm still feeling positive for the future which was unthinkable 18 months ago!)
Then, with a little bit of confidence and more time (cos you've you won't be travelling so much) you can look at joining something like your local amateur dramatic society- -there's nothing like performing in a show to boost self confidence! Obviously there are other things you could do backstage that don鈥檛 involve performing. Or you could join a yoga class or fitness club - exercise does wonders for fighting off depression and increasing self confidence (no good if you're a lazy sod like me, though!)
So with a new, less stressful job and a new hobby you should feel better about yourself. You will also be meeting new people through your hobby and you never know, he might just be around that corner!
Only you can change your situation, but once you make your mind up to do it, it's (relatively) easy!
The best of luck to you.
Love is a great action when it begins with self sharing it through out the world...expand your thinking. Having the capability of being able to love can change many people's lives including children. Giving of your time can sometimes change an individual's state of despair, hopelessness, opression...etc...Imagine a child wanting and needing someone to make them laugh, a hug to hold on to hope and praise to beleive in their future dream/s.
Volunteer work is an option, at many needed places in our society. Improving ones self-esteem begins with confidence in self wanting and creating a better world each and every day. Think of your abilities, and pursuit your passion/s and challenge your creativity. Continue taking care of your great physical health, while focusing on your mental health. That said, it would be a good idea to go in for a medical check up, to address your present state of stress and/or anxieties. Depression may be part of what you are experiencing and/or perhaps a chemical inbalance is also a possibility, but can only be diagnosed and/or treated by your family physician. Pertaining to changing career/s, again seek your passion...travel seems to be an element you enjoy, therefore keep that in mind. There are endless possibilities and opportunities open to you...however, I would suggest taking time out for self, for rest...rest of the mind, and the body to rejuvenate thy self, so to speak. Change is on your horizon...therefore think very creatively, consider trying new things you've put off for what ever the reason/s. That would be adventure in itself. Remain confident in building new friendship/s along the way...smile with confidence, it's always a welcoming feature to the world that awaits you as you participate in life, making it all it can be...just for you...dare to dream...reach for the stars! We all have that hidden child in us...sometimes we just forget how to have fun! Hope that helps, best to you...and here's to cheering you on! Thanks for asking.
MIDLIFE CRISIS!!!
I dont want to sound rude at all but try meeting someone closer to your age and perhaps someone who does the same kind of work as you so you wouldnt have the worry of someone using you for experience. Try to relax and is there any way you can cut your hours of work so you can go out more often to meet new people?Good luck with your future.
Being that your age is mid 40...i think you should try a little harer to find love if that is what you want. Because i dont mean to sound rude, but that sort of stuff starts to get harder the older you get. You say you look younger, which is a good thing. Maybe take a long leave of absence from your work and go to places that have single men haha. Though being unsettled could be a good thing, love and everything that you say your lacking does get rid of some freedom that you may want to keep.
Best of luck though
Get a life coach or a therapist... I have found mine very useful.
We have 3 businesses 2 kids and a hubby and I am suffering extreme stress etc... from complications in one of the businesses...
The new pastime is a great idea. Will changing your job/career really achieve what you want it to? Why not study partime in a subject that you really find interesting? Then you can move into a new career from that - if you really enjoy it.
What are you passionate about?
Stop focussing on the guy - it will either happen or not. It's always when you stop looking that the good ones turn up isn't it? Ask your girlfriends they'll tell you the same thing.
I still reckon the life coach is a great idea...
Try and work out why you need the attention of younger men and why you go for relationships that you know won't work. Do you feel you don't deserve a man to love you? The fact that you burn yourself out at work too shows you are avoiding dealing with some issues from your past where you have been deeply hurt, either from a relationship or from when you were a child when you may have felt abandoned. Now you distract yourself with work and finish relationships quickly before they can and choose men that you can tell yourself weren't right to justify why you did. Its very sad and I hope you find peace. Find a job you enjoy, treat yourself like you want to be treated by men and life will look a lot rosier.
How would you change your career?quit your job and find another that will give you more freedom.No pain no gain.
I want to make a major life decison but need advice, can you help?
Hello
I am 20 and in college. Life is hell where I live for many reasons. I am thinking about saving up some money and buying a one way ticket to Alaska and not telling a soul about it. I want to start a new life where no one knows who I am.
What should I do, a ticket is only 510 to Alaska!
Advice%26gt;I want to make a major life decison but need advice, can you help?
Well, college gets better. I'm guessing you're just starting out there and that's always tough. But if you're adamant about taking off, consider someplace closer to home, wherever home is. You don't really need to head someplace that dramatic to experience dramatic change. If you are set on heading to Alaska, definitely read ';Into The Wild'; before you do. It's the true story of a young man who wanted to reinvent himself and set out to do that in Alaska. It might give you a sense of potential pitfalls and the reality of living with little/no cash. It ended badly for the guy in the book. Basic moral - it's all about preparation. I want to make a major life decison but need advice, can you help?
Just keep in mind that you are in college to learn a career, not to make friends. College is not always a great time for everyone. You should concentrate on graduating with a degree in something that you feel you would like to spend your life doing as a career.Then you can go wherever you want. You will make friends after college. I was like you and college was not a place where I made many friend, but afterward I made a lot more and better friends. Concentrate right now on getting through college. You won't regret it.
its like saying youre life is worth 510! and well youre the one to deside wethere you want to leave or not and i am preatty sure there someone that depply cares about you! so you may not be the only one hurtin! youre in college allready so are u going to get a trasfer or youre just droping out? and well i tink that no matter where life takes you if you cant handle it thropugh the hard times well u just get weaker everytime and wont have a very bright future for runing away like that! but then again there the side where you might be 20 in college varlly making it throught no friends familly that hates you drug addit or god knows how manny other worse things ther is! so just think about it
Hmm - ever see the movie Into the Wild??? Don't let that happen!!! ALSO do you realize the cost of living is outrageous up there? I mean - when you are young that is the time for an adventure but check into it better. And let at least 2 people know.
Get your degree first if you can. You should be almost finished. Then you can go wherever you want and have an easier time finding employment.
I will say that most problems have a way of catching up to you when you try to run away from them.
Its your life, its an adventure. If its something you want to try, no better time then now to do it. If you don't, you may soon get married, and have kids, and look back over and over and think, what if.
That's great, but what will you do when you get there? Do you have money for food, shelter, clothes, etc? Do you have a plan and the means to carry through with that plan?
It all depends on what going, some things can be solved. And evan if your 20 asking your parents for help is never wrong, don't go for what you're unsure of.
WHY THE REASON U WANT TO GO ALASKA SUPPOSE U WANT TO LEARN THE THAT U CAN GO BUT U WANT TO GO PICNIC PURPOSE THEN THIS NOT GOOD YAAR WHATEVER U HAVE LOT OF MONEY THEN U SAVE THE BANK OTHER WISE U PURCHASE SOME COMPANYS SHARE
I'd advise telling your closest friends and family members so they don't worry. Hopefully, they'll respect your wishes.
it sounds very adventurous, but wont you miss your family? they will still remember you as the old you if you start a new life.
hmmm i would tell family if you have any... otherwise they may report you missing!
just don't tell the address so they cant find you... Alaska sounds like fun though.
Can I join you?
I am also tired of people. I just wanna go live on an island by myself or preferably with my GF. :)
considered military?
all i got to say is good luck in total isolation...baby sunscreen
I am 20 and in college. Life is hell where I live for many reasons. I am thinking about saving up some money and buying a one way ticket to Alaska and not telling a soul about it. I want to start a new life where no one knows who I am.
What should I do, a ticket is only 510 to Alaska!
Advice%26gt;I want to make a major life decison but need advice, can you help?
Well, college gets better. I'm guessing you're just starting out there and that's always tough. But if you're adamant about taking off, consider someplace closer to home, wherever home is. You don't really need to head someplace that dramatic to experience dramatic change. If you are set on heading to Alaska, definitely read ';Into The Wild'; before you do. It's the true story of a young man who wanted to reinvent himself and set out to do that in Alaska. It might give you a sense of potential pitfalls and the reality of living with little/no cash. It ended badly for the guy in the book. Basic moral - it's all about preparation. I want to make a major life decison but need advice, can you help?
Just keep in mind that you are in college to learn a career, not to make friends. College is not always a great time for everyone. You should concentrate on graduating with a degree in something that you feel you would like to spend your life doing as a career.Then you can go wherever you want. You will make friends after college. I was like you and college was not a place where I made many friend, but afterward I made a lot more and better friends. Concentrate right now on getting through college. You won't regret it.
its like saying youre life is worth 510! and well youre the one to deside wethere you want to leave or not and i am preatty sure there someone that depply cares about you! so you may not be the only one hurtin! youre in college allready so are u going to get a trasfer or youre just droping out? and well i tink that no matter where life takes you if you cant handle it thropugh the hard times well u just get weaker everytime and wont have a very bright future for runing away like that! but then again there the side where you might be 20 in college varlly making it throught no friends familly that hates you drug addit or god knows how manny other worse things ther is! so just think about it
Hmm - ever see the movie Into the Wild??? Don't let that happen!!! ALSO do you realize the cost of living is outrageous up there? I mean - when you are young that is the time for an adventure but check into it better. And let at least 2 people know.
Get your degree first if you can. You should be almost finished. Then you can go wherever you want and have an easier time finding employment.
I will say that most problems have a way of catching up to you when you try to run away from them.
Its your life, its an adventure. If its something you want to try, no better time then now to do it. If you don't, you may soon get married, and have kids, and look back over and over and think, what if.
That's great, but what will you do when you get there? Do you have money for food, shelter, clothes, etc? Do you have a plan and the means to carry through with that plan?
It all depends on what going, some things can be solved. And evan if your 20 asking your parents for help is never wrong, don't go for what you're unsure of.
WHY THE REASON U WANT TO GO ALASKA SUPPOSE U WANT TO LEARN THE THAT U CAN GO BUT U WANT TO GO PICNIC PURPOSE THEN THIS NOT GOOD YAAR WHATEVER U HAVE LOT OF MONEY THEN U SAVE THE BANK OTHER WISE U PURCHASE SOME COMPANYS SHARE
I'd advise telling your closest friends and family members so they don't worry. Hopefully, they'll respect your wishes.
it sounds very adventurous, but wont you miss your family? they will still remember you as the old you if you start a new life.
hmmm i would tell family if you have any... otherwise they may report you missing!
just don't tell the address so they cant find you... Alaska sounds like fun though.
Can I join you?
I am also tired of people. I just wanna go live on an island by myself or preferably with my GF. :)
considered military?
all i got to say is good luck in total isolation...
This affects every part of my life... Please give some advice...?
I have anxiety so it makes things such as socializing a little awkward but even if I am calm aI still can't think of anything to talk about. I need to learn how to be more carefree and sociable. I try not to care what people think but it still doesn't give me any ideas of things to talk about. This is a hard question but basically I just want to know how to be talkitive... I feel like I have no personality. I have good morals and I am an attractive girl but I come off as so serious and lame. I want to lighten up but I don't know how?!?!?!This affects every part of my life... Please give some advice...?
gossip, gossip, gossip!This affects every part of my life... Please give some advice...?
Try not to care what others think, cause if you did, i don't think you would be that serious, since you say you aren't. Make jokes, even if they aren't good, even if they are lame, and if they are, make fun of yourself because you said a bad joke. That saves the situation. Go talk to someone about the simplest of subjects, and if you see any response and same feelings, continue the conversation or let it go. Just be more spontaneous about things. That's what i think
The best thing to do is ask questions to the people you're talking to! Instead of talking about yourself, or feeling self-conscious, you can ask questions and when given answers, really listen! It takes some of the pressure off you, others will feel good because you're interested and you could learn something new.
gossip, gossip, gossip!This affects every part of my life... Please give some advice...?
Try not to care what others think, cause if you did, i don't think you would be that serious, since you say you aren't. Make jokes, even if they aren't good, even if they are lame, and if they are, make fun of yourself because you said a bad joke. That saves the situation. Go talk to someone about the simplest of subjects, and if you see any response and same feelings, continue the conversation or let it go. Just be more spontaneous about things. That's what i think
The best thing to do is ask questions to the people you're talking to! Instead of talking about yourself, or feeling self-conscious, you can ask questions and when given answers, really listen! It takes some of the pressure off you, others will feel good because you're interested and you could learn something new.
It's controlling me and my life now..! Please help/advice...?
I know anorexia is a mental disease
and whatever So keeping that in mind I
decided to try anyway since
I had needed to lose weight.
It was the usual 'never above 500 cals'
kill your self if you go above 700' schedule',
with the occasional twoday fast.
I decided that now I didn't want to become any skinnier
so I tried to eat some pasta%26amp;bread.
No sooner had I eaten it I immediatly had to go
and throw it up. It was scary, since I've never been 'bulimic' before, and I didn't even think about it,
I just went and shoved my fingers down my throat.
Excluding that experience..
I've blown off countless friends when they all want to
go see a movie or go out to eat, in fear of eating
or letting out the truth
I've lost basically all my friends.
My boyfriend isn't much help since
he's also really skinny and worries more about his
weight then I do.
If he's more than 120 lbs he freaks, and what can I say
..I dont want to be the fat one in the relationship.
Help.. I dont want to be like this...!It's controlling me and my life now..! Please help/advice...?
I would try slowly increasing how much you eat...just little by little eat what you're comfortable with and bump it up every now and then. if you eat with friends you might be too nervous to throw up, so try eating with friends.It's controlling me and my life now..! Please help/advice...?
anorexia is a pretty lame excuse to be lazy. if you wanted to loose the weight that badly, you should just exercise. you can eat as much as you want since it speeds up your metabolism, just be sure to exercise regularly and hey, nothing wrong with not being skinny. Im pretty thin myself, and it pisses me off sometimes cuz i cant gain any weight =/
Maybe some counseling would help, that way ud be telling someone and itd be totally confidential.
telling someone is the only option. anorexia is a serious disorder, and you need medical help asap. if you can't tell your parents, tell a trusted adult like the guidance counselor at your high school. this is nothing to be ashamed of, but something that is vital you get support and information to fight. best of luck!
Telling someone is the only way to go though..It's hard to get though it yourself, go out with your friends you'll feel less inclined to get up and excuse yourself to the bathroom after you eat..I really think you should tell someone, and leave the loser boyfriend, any guy that cares more about himself than you is a loser!
Uh, if that's how your bf makes you feel, there's no need to risk your life by doing this. Break up with him and make some major life changes fast. Because this is getting too far, and there will be no going back if you just let yourself keep starving.
Slowly increase what you eat. Eat a healthy diet like fruits and veggies a little cereal, MAKE SURE YOU EAT, and not to the point where u want to be sick.
your boyfriend wants to stay 120 pounds?
sounds like he is a little priss;most boys will knock him over by blowing on him-and you need to eat normal so your body can get some BRAIN nutrients
maybe it's time to loose the boyfriend
it sounds a bit like his weight that makes you want to loose weight.
try and eat healthier in slightly smaller portions but still eat
First of all, you need help, you cannot go through this alone. You need to talk to someone who is willing to help you, most people will. Your boyfriend also needs help if he is worrying about his own weight. You need to tell your friends (the ones you really trust) what's going on. You do not want to wait to get help. The longer you wait, the harder it will get to try to solve the anorexia problem you are having. You need to know and understand that this problem is serious...you are the one that is causing damage to yourself, just to keep up with the standards that people have about the fact that if you are skinny then, you are beautiful, which is not always true. Trust me, you understand that it is a mental problem, you don't have to be like this, you choose to start, you can choose to end it!
Ok...my ex-girlfriend went through the same thing...what you want to do is start eating small amounts of things..or making something eating like 3 bites of it and them going back to it later....
and whatever So keeping that in mind I
decided to try anyway since
I had needed to lose weight.
It was the usual 'never above 500 cals'
kill your self if you go above 700' schedule',
with the occasional twoday fast.
I decided that now I didn't want to become any skinnier
so I tried to eat some pasta%26amp;bread.
No sooner had I eaten it I immediatly had to go
and throw it up. It was scary, since I've never been 'bulimic' before, and I didn't even think about it,
I just went and shoved my fingers down my throat.
Excluding that experience..
I've blown off countless friends when they all want to
go see a movie or go out to eat, in fear of eating
or letting out the truth
I've lost basically all my friends.
My boyfriend isn't much help since
he's also really skinny and worries more about his
weight then I do.
If he's more than 120 lbs he freaks, and what can I say
..I dont want to be the fat one in the relationship.
Help.. I dont want to be like this...!It's controlling me and my life now..! Please help/advice...?
I would try slowly increasing how much you eat...just little by little eat what you're comfortable with and bump it up every now and then. if you eat with friends you might be too nervous to throw up, so try eating with friends.It's controlling me and my life now..! Please help/advice...?
anorexia is a pretty lame excuse to be lazy. if you wanted to loose the weight that badly, you should just exercise. you can eat as much as you want since it speeds up your metabolism, just be sure to exercise regularly and hey, nothing wrong with not being skinny. Im pretty thin myself, and it pisses me off sometimes cuz i cant gain any weight =/
Maybe some counseling would help, that way ud be telling someone and itd be totally confidential.
telling someone is the only option. anorexia is a serious disorder, and you need medical help asap. if you can't tell your parents, tell a trusted adult like the guidance counselor at your high school. this is nothing to be ashamed of, but something that is vital you get support and information to fight. best of luck!
Telling someone is the only way to go though..It's hard to get though it yourself, go out with your friends you'll feel less inclined to get up and excuse yourself to the bathroom after you eat..I really think you should tell someone, and leave the loser boyfriend, any guy that cares more about himself than you is a loser!
Uh, if that's how your bf makes you feel, there's no need to risk your life by doing this. Break up with him and make some major life changes fast. Because this is getting too far, and there will be no going back if you just let yourself keep starving.
Slowly increase what you eat. Eat a healthy diet like fruits and veggies a little cereal, MAKE SURE YOU EAT, and not to the point where u want to be sick.
your boyfriend wants to stay 120 pounds?
sounds like he is a little priss;most boys will knock him over by blowing on him-and you need to eat normal so your body can get some BRAIN nutrients
maybe it's time to loose the boyfriend
it sounds a bit like his weight that makes you want to loose weight.
try and eat healthier in slightly smaller portions but still eat
First of all, you need help, you cannot go through this alone. You need to talk to someone who is willing to help you, most people will. Your boyfriend also needs help if he is worrying about his own weight. You need to tell your friends (the ones you really trust) what's going on. You do not want to wait to get help. The longer you wait, the harder it will get to try to solve the anorexia problem you are having. You need to know and understand that this problem is serious...you are the one that is causing damage to yourself, just to keep up with the standards that people have about the fact that if you are skinny then, you are beautiful, which is not always true. Trust me, you understand that it is a mental problem, you don't have to be like this, you choose to start, you can choose to end it!
Ok...my ex-girlfriend went through the same thing...what you want to do is start eating small amounts of things..or making something eating like 3 bites of it and them going back to it later....
A drama filled story called my life; any song suggestions & advice?
I'm 15 years old, I have an ex-boyfriend who sometimes I still miss, because you know you never forget your first love. And he was my first love, and I was his. I broke up with him because I thought we were better off as friends.
We were good friends before, but after we broke up, he started becoming distant. He wrote a goodbye note and wanted to commit suicide, and almost came close to. Everything is slowly getting better, but of course my mom doesn't want me around him, cause he has only gone to a therapist for 8 weeks, and is scared that if he tries to take his life again, he'll take mine with him. But at school he laughs and smiles, at least for the most part.
I'm now in a new relationship, and happy. But I just bought this book recently. It's called ';I Know It's Over'; by C. K. Kelly Martin, and it's about a teenage couple, and when the girl breaks up with him, two weeks later, she tells him that she is pregnant. This is a similar situation when we thought I was pregnant, except thankfully I was not.
That book then triggered me to when i started to read the book, I started having like hot flashes. like.. images. of me and him when we were together. When we snuck into the mall's stairs and made out, those times at our houses, 'talking', holding hands in our cars, laying down next to eachother on my bed, the first time we.. did certain things. (not sex, other things haha) slowdancing in my kitchen inbetween making dinner. The images keep repeating in my mind, I dont know why! One that made me cry the most was when he used to sing me to sleep. ';Superman'; by Five for Fighting, because I used to call him my superman.
I listen to music alot, and I was wondering if you had any song suggestions? Relaxing, moving on songs, anything that you think is best. Some advice would be amazing also, please.
Thank you so much.
%26lt;3A drama filled story called my life; any song suggestions %26amp; advice?
If you keep thinking about the past, you are NOT moving on.
No matter how much you like to remember all those special secret times, they are over and done with. Sorry, but you can't relive them. Every woman has similar feelings, and has to move beyond them.
We still are wistfully remembering our first sweetheart, and loss of innocence.
You seem to still be rather young, and need to expand your horizons.
As far as music goes, how about listening to some acoustic guitar, classical, or international music. Music without words can speak volumes to your soul.
Trust me, I'm borderline senior citizen, just past my 20s...
We were good friends before, but after we broke up, he started becoming distant. He wrote a goodbye note and wanted to commit suicide, and almost came close to. Everything is slowly getting better, but of course my mom doesn't want me around him, cause he has only gone to a therapist for 8 weeks, and is scared that if he tries to take his life again, he'll take mine with him. But at school he laughs and smiles, at least for the most part.
I'm now in a new relationship, and happy. But I just bought this book recently. It's called ';I Know It's Over'; by C. K. Kelly Martin, and it's about a teenage couple, and when the girl breaks up with him, two weeks later, she tells him that she is pregnant. This is a similar situation when we thought I was pregnant, except thankfully I was not.
That book then triggered me to when i started to read the book, I started having like hot flashes. like.. images. of me and him when we were together. When we snuck into the mall's stairs and made out, those times at our houses, 'talking', holding hands in our cars, laying down next to eachother on my bed, the first time we.. did certain things. (not sex, other things haha) slowdancing in my kitchen inbetween making dinner. The images keep repeating in my mind, I dont know why! One that made me cry the most was when he used to sing me to sleep. ';Superman'; by Five for Fighting, because I used to call him my superman.
I listen to music alot, and I was wondering if you had any song suggestions? Relaxing, moving on songs, anything that you think is best. Some advice would be amazing also, please.
Thank you so much.
%26lt;3A drama filled story called my life; any song suggestions %26amp; advice?
If you keep thinking about the past, you are NOT moving on.
No matter how much you like to remember all those special secret times, they are over and done with. Sorry, but you can't relive them. Every woman has similar feelings, and has to move beyond them.
We still are wistfully remembering our first sweetheart, and loss of innocence.
You seem to still be rather young, and need to expand your horizons.
As far as music goes, how about listening to some acoustic guitar, classical, or international music. Music without words can speak volumes to your soul.
Trust me, I'm borderline senior citizen, just past my 20s...
ONE OF HARDEST DECISION OF MY LIFE THUS FAR NEED ADVICE?
OK IM A 17 YEAR OLD MALE AND I HAVE BEEN WORKING A PART TIME JOB SINCE AUGUST ITS BEEN GREAT SPENDING AND SAVING MONEY BUT I HAD TO SACRIFICE SPORTS MY JUNIOR YEAR IN HIGH SCHOOL [BASKETBALL] NOW IM BEING FACED WITH THE DECISION OF QUITING MY JOB AND DEDICATING 1000% OF MY TIME TO BASKETBALL CONDITIONING/PRACTICE FOR THE NEXT 8 MONTHS AND POSSIBLY GET A FULL SCHOLAR SHIP TO A D1 COLLEGE AND TRUST ME I AM D1 MATERIAL AND I HAVE A 4.0 OR IT COULD POSSIBLY BE TIME I PLAY ORGINIZED BALL IN MY LIFE THE REASON I WANT TO KEEP MY JOB IS THAT IM VERY GOOD AT SAVING AND I HAVE ABOUT 4000 AND BY THE END OF THE YEAR I WOULD HAVE ABOUT 17,000 AND I WAS PLANNING ON BUYING A CAR IN CASH FOR MY 18TH BIRTHDAY IM A WRECK RIGHT NOW SO I CAN'T TYPE ANYMORE SOMEBODY JUST HELPONE OF HARDEST DECISION OF MY LIFE THUS FAR NEED ADVICE?
i think you need to discuss this with your parents and stuff, have a long talk and figure the benefits and downsides
i think you need to discuss this with your parents and stuff, have a long talk and figure the benefits and downsides
I really need advice for my life i don't know what to do?
Ok here goes..it all starts with me having a really bad depression problem, my parents divorce, my dad abusive (only when angry enough) and my ex. Me and my dad have had problems all my life we fight all the time sometimes it goes to far and he gets a little abusive. I have to brothers they get along with him. Maybe five years ago my parents got divorced and a year after that my dads girlfriend moved in. My mom hates her and so do i . She is addicted to pills and is my dads downfall. She has messed his life up yet he takes her back. He also abuses her to. But lately things have gone a bit over bored. My depression has resorted to hurting myself. I do go to counseling but it isn't helping much. But my ex is quite to old for me but not that bad. The only reason i was with him because he helped my depression problem. My parents didn't like him but he was my dads girlfriends son. and she is still with him. My parents got a restraining order against him until i am 18. Ever since then my depression has gone way overboard and i cant do anything i come home and go to bed and that's it because i am so miserable and have no one to talk to. My parents don't trust me i cant go anywhere i don't know what to do anymore.I really need advice for my life i don't know what to do?
I have a friend that has a problem kind of like this.
Why don't you try doing something new? Try taking up a new style, doing new things, doing new activities, and even wearing a different style of clothes!
Try talking to your friends and your mom about this. I bet your mom would understand, and it sounds like she's on your side for all of this. You should also try to get together with your friends whenever you can, and getting your mind off of all that confusion of life at home. This should take your mind off of all of this if you spend your time doing fun things with your friends, and you will most likely feel so much better. And even just talking to you friends about this will help you, because you will know that there is someone who cares for you and is 100% on your side.
Don't do anything like hurt yourself or commit suicide. That will not help you at all. You have to stop doing that, and do fun things with friends and family instead.
I hope this helps!
Good Luck. :)I really need advice for my life i don't know what to do?
Dude, girl, that sucks. Don't do anything stupid, and yes, that includes hurting yourself, if don't just mean suicide.
Do you have any friends you can talk to? How about your brothers? Your mom, maybe, or someone else you trust. Counseling may not be helping, but there are plenty of people willing to counsel you who are friends.
run away i have the same problem with my mom and my boyfriend is older than me by 3 years but i don't care cause I love him wait how old are you?.......please don't be depressed that's not good for you..........face your fears good luck girl:)
Just calm down and get help !!!!!
i'm really sorry, that must feel horrible
it looks you got no where, no one to go to,
i'm sorry that you've to pay for others' mistakes: adults are sometimes so careless and selfish, they make errors, ruin therelives as well as ours and make us pay a part of the bill
i'm 19, and i wish i could help you
i think you need s.one to listen to you, undrestands you, and comfort you, s.one that you can trust, that will not make your fmily life back to normal but it will help you with your depression,
i wish i knew you so that i can be there for you, i have a friend she went through a similar situation, but i was with her all the way, and she says having me to listen and undrestand her gave her hope and strengh, she says ';at least there is s.one who undrestands and cares'; i think that's what you need
Good luck, Be strong, you got the whole life: never let desper destroy younatural cosmetics
I have a friend that has a problem kind of like this.
Why don't you try doing something new? Try taking up a new style, doing new things, doing new activities, and even wearing a different style of clothes!
Try talking to your friends and your mom about this. I bet your mom would understand, and it sounds like she's on your side for all of this. You should also try to get together with your friends whenever you can, and getting your mind off of all that confusion of life at home. This should take your mind off of all of this if you spend your time doing fun things with your friends, and you will most likely feel so much better. And even just talking to you friends about this will help you, because you will know that there is someone who cares for you and is 100% on your side.
Don't do anything like hurt yourself or commit suicide. That will not help you at all. You have to stop doing that, and do fun things with friends and family instead.
I hope this helps!
Good Luck. :)I really need advice for my life i don't know what to do?
Dude, girl, that sucks. Don't do anything stupid, and yes, that includes hurting yourself, if don't just mean suicide.
Do you have any friends you can talk to? How about your brothers? Your mom, maybe, or someone else you trust. Counseling may not be helping, but there are plenty of people willing to counsel you who are friends.
run away i have the same problem with my mom and my boyfriend is older than me by 3 years but i don't care cause I love him wait how old are you?.......please don't be depressed that's not good for you..........face your fears good luck girl:)
Just calm down and get help !!!!!
i'm really sorry, that must feel horrible
it looks you got no where, no one to go to,
i'm sorry that you've to pay for others' mistakes: adults are sometimes so careless and selfish, they make errors, ruin therelives as well as ours and make us pay a part of the bill
i'm 19, and i wish i could help you
i think you need s.one to listen to you, undrestands you, and comfort you, s.one that you can trust, that will not make your fmily life back to normal but it will help you with your depression,
i wish i knew you so that i can be there for you, i have a friend she went through a similar situation, but i was with her all the way, and she says having me to listen and undrestand her gave her hope and strengh, she says ';at least there is s.one who undrestands and cares'; i think that's what you need
Good luck, Be strong, you got the whole life: never let desper destroy you
I need some advice towards my life..career, ambitions, etc, please look at what I am going for then reply plz!
Hello, I'm Matt, I am 15 years old, a sophomore this upcoming year...
I am doing community service for my graduating hours + more for resume through volunteering at camps, and also a club in school leo club, which is a junior lions club which helps the community.
I am looking to go into JROTC program at school, then ROTC in college, then join the US Army or Marine Corps for Intelligences/Leadership/Potential Combat Oriented Things
I am trying to save up money for things later in life, and I seem to get to preoccupied with the future, but am seemingly interested and invested in it...
Speaking of investing I am thinking of investing later in life and working to save money to travel and live life!
I want to get married and have a family but am concerned of a military career and not being settled
I need advice on if what I am doing is smart and how it will benefit me and how it will benefit my plan as far as a career goes versus having a family, home, etc. and if it's a safe choice?I need some advice towards my life..career, ambitions, etc, please look at what I am going for then reply plz!
You are amazing, a 15 year old who responsibly plans for his future.
Just continue on what you are doing, as later, your outlook in life will shift and then you can decide what you really want. Joining the military is a good Idea, as they are giving a lot of opportunities for soldiers to study while in active duty. Also, who said that having a family while on active duty is not possible. It will just depend on how your spouse will support and love you.
Good luck Amazing Kid!
Alecs
I am doing community service for my graduating hours + more for resume through volunteering at camps, and also a club in school leo club, which is a junior lions club which helps the community.
I am looking to go into JROTC program at school, then ROTC in college, then join the US Army or Marine Corps for Intelligences/Leadership/Potential Combat Oriented Things
I am trying to save up money for things later in life, and I seem to get to preoccupied with the future, but am seemingly interested and invested in it...
Speaking of investing I am thinking of investing later in life and working to save money to travel and live life!
I want to get married and have a family but am concerned of a military career and not being settled
I need advice on if what I am doing is smart and how it will benefit me and how it will benefit my plan as far as a career goes versus having a family, home, etc. and if it's a safe choice?I need some advice towards my life..career, ambitions, etc, please look at what I am going for then reply plz!
You are amazing, a 15 year old who responsibly plans for his future.
Just continue on what you are doing, as later, your outlook in life will shift and then you can decide what you really want. Joining the military is a good Idea, as they are giving a lot of opportunities for soldiers to study while in active duty. Also, who said that having a family while on active duty is not possible. It will just depend on how your spouse will support and love you.
Good luck Amazing Kid!
Alecs
An advice that changed my life?
hi nandita...
ALL u have to do if to do a self analysis.
just sit, relax, organize urself first..in a vacant room where u feel most comfortable....
now think about the things u want in ur life...most important things...
- personal relationships.
-family
-career
self actualization
then just weigh al things independently i mean pros and cons of the things
the mantra is first try and do all things which u want to and like to do...
coz in life u have to enjoy all phases of life...as a child...as a youngster...as a teenager...as a wife...as a mother...
so evry phase of life has its importance and charm
so on the basis of this try and enjoy evry second of ur life on the demand hour basis...
and keep ur life as simple as tht
dont think too far just live in present and enjoy..
time management is very important ...so give time to all the primary things first and then focus on other secondary activities...
AND FIRST OF AL SET UR PRIORITIES..
hope u like my adivce...
write me back if u feel like to chris17_alec@yahoo.co.in.An advice that changed my life?
just be happy period always and be true to yourself! life can be taken away in a second! when i go i wanna be in my box with my soul in heaven and deeply breathe a sigh of relief that i did a pretty good job while i was on earth! i dont want my soul roaming back through the earth because i went to heaven unfinished with this world. my opinion!An advice that changed my life?
life is for living, its too short
work to live, not live to work
i learned these lessons early in life
and its wonderful
i have friends struggling along in a boring job, unhappy relationships
WHY?
this is it
it aint a rehersal
Dont tried to understand life at all its not a good deal.Better thing is learn to be happy in every situation.You cant achieve everything at a time.You need to wait and think about the priorities first.
think 10 times before u take any important step in ur life
talk less but sweet
be nice to all the age group people
be caring with ur parents
do whatever ur heart tells u to do
thats it
Live today.
Love today.
Do the same tomorrow.
Learn from past. Live in present and think for the future.
don't eat yellow snow
:):)
don't smoke in bed
:):)
LOVE IS MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THIS WHOLE WORLD
TALK LESS WORK MORE.
what are you present in your life
live and let live like a free bird
ALL u have to do if to do a self analysis.
just sit, relax, organize urself first..in a vacant room where u feel most comfortable....
now think about the things u want in ur life...most important things...
- personal relationships.
-family
-career
self actualization
then just weigh al things independently i mean pros and cons of the things
the mantra is first try and do all things which u want to and like to do...
coz in life u have to enjoy all phases of life...as a child...as a youngster...as a teenager...as a wife...as a mother...
so evry phase of life has its importance and charm
so on the basis of this try and enjoy evry second of ur life on the demand hour basis...
and keep ur life as simple as tht
dont think too far just live in present and enjoy..
time management is very important ...so give time to all the primary things first and then focus on other secondary activities...
AND FIRST OF AL SET UR PRIORITIES..
hope u like my adivce...
write me back if u feel like to chris17_alec@yahoo.co.in.An advice that changed my life?
just be happy period always and be true to yourself! life can be taken away in a second! when i go i wanna be in my box with my soul in heaven and deeply breathe a sigh of relief that i did a pretty good job while i was on earth! i dont want my soul roaming back through the earth because i went to heaven unfinished with this world. my opinion!An advice that changed my life?
life is for living, its too short
work to live, not live to work
i learned these lessons early in life
and its wonderful
i have friends struggling along in a boring job, unhappy relationships
WHY?
this is it
it aint a rehersal
Dont tried to understand life at all its not a good deal.Better thing is learn to be happy in every situation.You cant achieve everything at a time.You need to wait and think about the priorities first.
think 10 times before u take any important step in ur life
talk less but sweet
be nice to all the age group people
be caring with ur parents
do whatever ur heart tells u to do
thats it
Live today.
Love today.
Do the same tomorrow.
Learn from past. Live in present and think for the future.
don't eat yellow snow
:):)
don't smoke in bed
:):)
LOVE IS MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THIS WHOLE WORLD
TALK LESS WORK MORE.
what are you present in your life
live and let live like a free bird
I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
go to a doctor who can identify and treat depression Once you get out of the fog, continue to pursue your religious and other activties.I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
Well, God did this on purpose, sort of to test us. However, if you are ever feeling depressed, you should do something that wastes a lot of ur energy, then u will be much more satisfied. I spent 2 years of my life depressed, and I exercised a lot and that me feel much better everyday when I woke up. It also makes you feel a little sore, but it usually helps!I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
You are probably trying to find acceptance. You can join anything to make you feel good but it comes down to one thing: yourself. Do you accept yourself? Do you love yourself? Once you do that, you will feel a whole lot better.
For years I was reading books, joined religions, and went to self-help seminars. But the only thing that it didn't show me was to love myself. All of them were correct on living a great life and having a roadmap to success, but finding out and appreciating and loving myself was the core of my problems. So start loving yourself. I hope this helps.
You didn't really give us allot to go on. God is a great ally to have but you can't just have God do everything for you.
What is it that you want out of life that you don't have?
Romance? Job? Travel? The first step is to try to figure out what you want out of life. Add more details to this question and maybe we can help.
These feelings may be beyond your control; if so you should think about an antidepressant. They work wonders.
Start by finding a good counselor, even if it's just one at school. A professional counselor would be able to hook you up with a psychiatrist. Plus, a professional, fresh perspective always helps.
because its all in your head. you just tell yourself that you will be alright and take control over yourself....than you'll feel better.
whats going on ill listen.
Well, God did this on purpose, sort of to test us. However, if you are ever feeling depressed, you should do something that wastes a lot of ur energy, then u will be much more satisfied. I spent 2 years of my life depressed, and I exercised a lot and that me feel much better everyday when I woke up. It also makes you feel a little sore, but it usually helps!I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
You are probably trying to find acceptance. You can join anything to make you feel good but it comes down to one thing: yourself. Do you accept yourself? Do you love yourself? Once you do that, you will feel a whole lot better.
For years I was reading books, joined religions, and went to self-help seminars. But the only thing that it didn't show me was to love myself. All of them were correct on living a great life and having a roadmap to success, but finding out and appreciating and loving myself was the core of my problems. So start loving yourself. I hope this helps.
You didn't really give us allot to go on. God is a great ally to have but you can't just have God do everything for you.
What is it that you want out of life that you don't have?
Romance? Job? Travel? The first step is to try to figure out what you want out of life. Add more details to this question and maybe we can help.
These feelings may be beyond your control; if so you should think about an antidepressant. They work wonders.
Start by finding a good counselor, even if it's just one at school. A professional counselor would be able to hook you up with a psychiatrist. Plus, a professional, fresh perspective always helps.
because its all in your head. you just tell yourself that you will be alright and take control over yourself....than you'll feel better.
whats going on ill listen.
Need advice please on my life story?
i am 38 years old and have been living with my parents for most of my life seems like i have been not able to get my life straight for many years.i feel alot of this is due to my family's manipulation and trying to control me because everytime i have listened to their advice i wind up worse then i was before i thought everybody could trust their own blood before anything else.i even moved with my mother after my father passed away in may to a smaller city where there are hardly any jobs where compared to where i was living before their was a variety of jobs opened.i have listened to others before listening to my own self first and i feel i am in a worse position then i was ever before.
please dont tell me i need counseling because that line doesnt work with me anymore i need advice what to do about it and stop talking about it.any advice or suggestions please? thank youNeed advice please on my life story?
Don't listen to what others has to say. Do what you really want to do.Need advice please on my life story?
1. Quit blaming others for your life.
2. Decide what you want, how you want to live.
3. Write out every step you need to take to create that life for yourself.
4. Start following those steps, even if they are just very small ones.
5. If you do this, then someday you will have the life of your dreams.
Don't give up!
Well.. NOOO heck no you dont need counseling your fine but just swim in a pool at night then calmly float and think about it. once you got it in your mind and you have it in your hand then reach it and crush it then think about the positive side! nothings ALWAYS bad ;]
I THINK YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK TO WERE U HAD A GOOD LIFE N START TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE,,N MAKING GOOD FRIENDS AND DONT LISTEN TO NO ONE BUT U,,,,LIFES TO SHORT B HAPPY! LIVE !LOVE,!,,PEACE
Get away from your family. Don't ask them for any advice.
please dont tell me i need counseling because that line doesnt work with me anymore i need advice what to do about it and stop talking about it.any advice or suggestions please? thank youNeed advice please on my life story?
Don't listen to what others has to say. Do what you really want to do.Need advice please on my life story?
1. Quit blaming others for your life.
2. Decide what you want, how you want to live.
3. Write out every step you need to take to create that life for yourself.
4. Start following those steps, even if they are just very small ones.
5. If you do this, then someday you will have the life of your dreams.
Don't give up!
Well.. NOOO heck no you dont need counseling your fine but just swim in a pool at night then calmly float and think about it. once you got it in your mind and you have it in your hand then reach it and crush it then think about the positive side! nothings ALWAYS bad ;]
I THINK YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK TO WERE U HAD A GOOD LIFE N START TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE,,N MAKING GOOD FRIENDS AND DONT LISTEN TO NO ONE BUT U,,,,LIFES TO SHORT B HAPPY! LIVE !LOVE,!,,PEACE
Get away from your family. Don't ask them for any advice.
I need advice about the life path I should take!?
Ok, so my mum is Filipina and my father is Australian.. I was born in Australia but I really want to move to the Philippines to live because all of my family are there! Here in Australia I only have my parents as I am a only child.
My mum doesn't want to move there because she thinks there are more opportunities here but I met a manager of a talent agency who thinks I could be a star there or model! I want to finish year 10 here and then finish the rest of my school there with my family! I am currently in year 9.
Our family in the Philippines are above middle class and if my mum and dad moved to the Philippines we would be living a good life there. Probably even better than we are here.
I really need advice! What would you do in my situation?
Would you take the path of living a normal life alone in Australia and maybe having my own family one day? OR
Living a fun life with my big, close family in the Philippines, starting my own family there one day and taking a shot at stardom while I'm still young?
I want to live my life to the fullest and not have any regrets.. I don't want to die wondering ';what if...?';I need advice about the life path I should take!?
i guess u shud go to Phillipines though do try having a real conversation with your parents talk over your choices and then make the decision. dont forget ur parents love you since u r d only child so cheersI need advice about the life path I should take!?
One thing I have learned over the years is to not trust ';modeling agency'; people.
Your young, your family is well to do, get an education and make your own life fun and exciting without relying on some perv who might just want in your pants.
If I were you (and I have been you), I wouldn't go in with modeling until you know what your really getting into.
I would try to get you parents to come with you to the Philippines and see what happens. But you know it could be your parents know some thing about the place you want to go and they are trying to keep you safe. I don't know man I would ask them and see if they are willing. And see ask them if it's to dangerous for you that could be the reason.
1. Finish school
2. Talk to your mum, she lived there she would know
3. Be careful with the talent agency
4. Talk to your mum
5. Talk to your mum
Just think twice man. your in 9th year so I would agree with one of the above post. Finish school then talk to your mother about it. That is what I would do and what I suggest you to do.
Only you can decide what choice is best for you. It's good you are thinking about it now, but just wait a few years. You're still young
you talent agent want to sell you into slave trade run forrest run!
ame
My mum doesn't want to move there because she thinks there are more opportunities here but I met a manager of a talent agency who thinks I could be a star there or model! I want to finish year 10 here and then finish the rest of my school there with my family! I am currently in year 9.
Our family in the Philippines are above middle class and if my mum and dad moved to the Philippines we would be living a good life there. Probably even better than we are here.
I really need advice! What would you do in my situation?
Would you take the path of living a normal life alone in Australia and maybe having my own family one day? OR
Living a fun life with my big, close family in the Philippines, starting my own family there one day and taking a shot at stardom while I'm still young?
I want to live my life to the fullest and not have any regrets.. I don't want to die wondering ';what if...?';I need advice about the life path I should take!?
i guess u shud go to Phillipines though do try having a real conversation with your parents talk over your choices and then make the decision. dont forget ur parents love you since u r d only child so cheersI need advice about the life path I should take!?
One thing I have learned over the years is to not trust ';modeling agency'; people.
Your young, your family is well to do, get an education and make your own life fun and exciting without relying on some perv who might just want in your pants.
If I were you (and I have been you), I wouldn't go in with modeling until you know what your really getting into.
I would try to get you parents to come with you to the Philippines and see what happens. But you know it could be your parents know some thing about the place you want to go and they are trying to keep you safe. I don't know man I would ask them and see if they are willing. And see ask them if it's to dangerous for you that could be the reason.
1. Finish school
2. Talk to your mum, she lived there she would know
3. Be careful with the talent agency
4. Talk to your mum
5. Talk to your mum
Just think twice man. your in 9th year so I would agree with one of the above post. Finish school then talk to your mother about it. That is what I would do and what I suggest you to do.
Only you can decide what choice is best for you. It's good you are thinking about it now, but just wait a few years. You're still young
you talent agent want to sell you into slave trade run forrest run!
ame
I get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Enjoy yourself! Some people might say don't forget to smile but with me I couldn't stop smiling all day! It really is the happiest day of your life.
Good luck!I get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Don't do it! hahahaI get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Make sure you invite God into your marrige and that he blesses your union. Otherwise it's just another business partnership with one of you being the controlling partner.
God Bless
COOL hope you enjoy your day.
my advice is be friends as well as lovers, talk your problems throu, ALWAYS say goodnight before you go to sleep, and keep he romance alive with little cards or txt so you both no you apreciate each other, make time to spend together at least once a week
Relax do not worry about the things that you cannot control, make sure you have someone to step in if anything happens to sort it out for you.
You should not get pulled into sorting out the nitty gritty details on the actual day, it's your day to enjoy.
Most of all try and soak it all in, my biggest surprise was how quick it went. It was literally the best day of my life and just flashed by. So take in as much as you can.
As a married woman myself, I can honestly say that you should not look at your wedding day being the best day of your life, as this hopfully will be one of many special days that you have. The reason I say this is only because so many feel as though their whole entire marriage is supposed to be like their wedding day, full of excitment, fresh, your the center of attraction,etc, you get my point? Your wedding day is gonna be wonderful, but remember marriage is no cake walk, that person your marrying is gonna be the one with whom you will tire of in a few years, he will get on your nerves, theirs gonna be bills and so many other issues, but keep in mind, this is the guy that you are picking to spend the rest of your life with, so make sure that he is the one! So make every day the best day of your life, with your new spouse!
Just relax and go with the flow. Don't worry about every little thing and just enjoy spending the day with your friends and family.
Enjoy it to the full!
Be happy!xxxx
make sure you take time out for yourself and don't forget to gets lots of pics and video, definitely video as it goes so quickly and you get lost in the aura. Congrats!
relax and let things fall into their rightful places. good luck and have a happy marriage
Relax and don't let anyone ruin your day! Best wishes!
just savior every single minute of it and all the best for the day darlin xx
hi beth congratualtions, i got married 8 weeks ago. all i can say is enjoy the day as it goes so quickly. I was ill on my wedding day but by the time the service came i was a lot brighter., im also quite a confident person but on my day i was nervous, but just go with the flow and im sure it will be the best day of both of your lives. With good luck for the rest of your lives. Both u and ur hubby have a fab marriage and day.
Read this book together before you get married. Then every year around yuor anniversary read it again. It's the best book for advice on how to be a happy married committed couple,
best wishes for a long happy life together.
Try and stay relaxed I know it will be difficult as it can be really stressful with everything going on around you. Try and take as much in as you can because the day just flies by and it will be over before you know it.
Congratulations and enjoy your very special day xx
I think ';the best day of my life'; expectation can cause serious upset! You have to expect the possibility of rain, broken high heels, and spilled drinks- no day is ever perfect. If you go into the day expecting perfection, you will be disappointed. Stuff happens. Go into the day with an open mind- a little flexibility can go a long way towards helping you cope with a potentially stressful day, and you'll be happier at the end of the evening if you don't have the opportunity for a melt down.
Oh how exciting! Relax (Rescue Remedy is fantastic for this) don't drink too much and just soak up the admiration. It's so much fun being the centre of attention just for one day. And make sure friends and family take plenty of photos - they're often better than the professional ones. Congratulations to you!
Oh Good luck. I'm getting married soon myself. I want to see what everyone has to say xox
be happy have fun it's your wedding
plan for the worst , hope for the best. Don't let little things wreck your day. Weather, car breaking down, people late, ...there will be something there always is. So plan on it happening that way when it does it wont be a big deal and your day should go great.
Remember its your day, don't let any one wreck it for you, hold your ground and do what you want to do.
Have a great day.
Freak out over every little thing, forget like five important things you need...film, a lighter for the candles, the rings, one shoe, music...cry and fret, panic and get hysterical. Be sure and slap someone if you can. Eat like a pig at the reception and get cake all over your dress. Drink until you can't walk much less dance and pass out in the back of the limo. Then have a lovely honeymoon...Juss kiddin'. I have a friend who did this..so I will advise you to do what I did at my wedding. The exact opposite and I still had a lovely honeymoon. We kept is simple cuz the more crap you add the more you either have to be in charge of or have someone else be in charge of who will lord over you the whole way. Do make a check list though...SMILE! Congratulations! Love in Christ, ~J~
Relax, relax, and relax. Take lots of pictures with your mind and cherish them for the rest of your life.
Congrats! The best advice I can give is to remember that this day is for you and your husband--not other family or friends. And let someone else sweat the details!
The important part is the getting married bit. The rest of it is just a way of announcing to the world that this has taken place. Take the important part seriously and have fun after that. Remember too that the first year of marriage can be tough as you get used to everything. Do not panic or run at the first hurdle. Its worth sticking it out. After year 3, you will be settled and happy. Good luck. And have a wonderful day.
Don't stress out about everything. Make sure you take time to look back and remember the special parts. The day will go by so quick that before you know it, it's over. So, just take time to enjoy the moment.
Congratulations
If something does go wrong, try not to worry about it because chances are no-one will notice anyway
Most of all ENJOY YOUR DAY. Believe me, it will go by so, so quickly
Don't let little things annoy you. Even if something disastrous happens, you'll laugh about it later in life, so why not enjoy it now too.
I had a laid back wedding and we had fun, no stress, and time to enjoy each other and our guests.
Relax, enjoy, and live in that moment. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!
just be your self........
this is suppose to be the best day of your life,
so live it up
get up have a warm bath, grab a glass of red wine,
eat some eggs %26amp; toast ,and look forward to the big day
you only get one chance at this, so make it happen
and dont forget , its his day as well
Close your ears to any negativity and ensure that your family support you.
BREATHE... that is the best thing i can offer you..
keep faith in your relationship. Congratulationsnatural cosmetics
Good luck!I get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Don't do it! hahahaI get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Make sure you invite God into your marrige and that he blesses your union. Otherwise it's just another business partnership with one of you being the controlling partner.
God Bless
COOL hope you enjoy your day.
my advice is be friends as well as lovers, talk your problems throu, ALWAYS say goodnight before you go to sleep, and keep he romance alive with little cards or txt so you both no you apreciate each other, make time to spend together at least once a week
Relax do not worry about the things that you cannot control, make sure you have someone to step in if anything happens to sort it out for you.
You should not get pulled into sorting out the nitty gritty details on the actual day, it's your day to enjoy.
Most of all try and soak it all in, my biggest surprise was how quick it went. It was literally the best day of my life and just flashed by. So take in as much as you can.
As a married woman myself, I can honestly say that you should not look at your wedding day being the best day of your life, as this hopfully will be one of many special days that you have. The reason I say this is only because so many feel as though their whole entire marriage is supposed to be like their wedding day, full of excitment, fresh, your the center of attraction,etc, you get my point? Your wedding day is gonna be wonderful, but remember marriage is no cake walk, that person your marrying is gonna be the one with whom you will tire of in a few years, he will get on your nerves, theirs gonna be bills and so many other issues, but keep in mind, this is the guy that you are picking to spend the rest of your life with, so make sure that he is the one! So make every day the best day of your life, with your new spouse!
Just relax and go with the flow. Don't worry about every little thing and just enjoy spending the day with your friends and family.
Enjoy it to the full!
Be happy!xxxx
make sure you take time out for yourself and don't forget to gets lots of pics and video, definitely video as it goes so quickly and you get lost in the aura. Congrats!
relax and let things fall into their rightful places. good luck and have a happy marriage
Relax and don't let anyone ruin your day! Best wishes!
just savior every single minute of it and all the best for the day darlin xx
hi beth congratualtions, i got married 8 weeks ago. all i can say is enjoy the day as it goes so quickly. I was ill on my wedding day but by the time the service came i was a lot brighter., im also quite a confident person but on my day i was nervous, but just go with the flow and im sure it will be the best day of both of your lives. With good luck for the rest of your lives. Both u and ur hubby have a fab marriage and day.
Read this book together before you get married. Then every year around yuor anniversary read it again. It's the best book for advice on how to be a happy married committed couple,
best wishes for a long happy life together.
Try and stay relaxed I know it will be difficult as it can be really stressful with everything going on around you. Try and take as much in as you can because the day just flies by and it will be over before you know it.
Congratulations and enjoy your very special day xx
I think ';the best day of my life'; expectation can cause serious upset! You have to expect the possibility of rain, broken high heels, and spilled drinks- no day is ever perfect. If you go into the day expecting perfection, you will be disappointed. Stuff happens. Go into the day with an open mind- a little flexibility can go a long way towards helping you cope with a potentially stressful day, and you'll be happier at the end of the evening if you don't have the opportunity for a melt down.
Oh how exciting! Relax (Rescue Remedy is fantastic for this) don't drink too much and just soak up the admiration. It's so much fun being the centre of attention just for one day. And make sure friends and family take plenty of photos - they're often better than the professional ones. Congratulations to you!
Oh Good luck. I'm getting married soon myself. I want to see what everyone has to say xox
be happy have fun it's your wedding
plan for the worst , hope for the best. Don't let little things wreck your day. Weather, car breaking down, people late, ...there will be something there always is. So plan on it happening that way when it does it wont be a big deal and your day should go great.
Remember its your day, don't let any one wreck it for you, hold your ground and do what you want to do.
Have a great day.
Freak out over every little thing, forget like five important things you need...film, a lighter for the candles, the rings, one shoe, music...cry and fret, panic and get hysterical. Be sure and slap someone if you can. Eat like a pig at the reception and get cake all over your dress. Drink until you can't walk much less dance and pass out in the back of the limo. Then have a lovely honeymoon...Juss kiddin'. I have a friend who did this..so I will advise you to do what I did at my wedding. The exact opposite and I still had a lovely honeymoon. We kept is simple cuz the more crap you add the more you either have to be in charge of or have someone else be in charge of who will lord over you the whole way. Do make a check list though...SMILE! Congratulations! Love in Christ, ~J~
Relax, relax, and relax. Take lots of pictures with your mind and cherish them for the rest of your life.
Congrats! The best advice I can give is to remember that this day is for you and your husband--not other family or friends. And let someone else sweat the details!
The important part is the getting married bit. The rest of it is just a way of announcing to the world that this has taken place. Take the important part seriously and have fun after that. Remember too that the first year of marriage can be tough as you get used to everything. Do not panic or run at the first hurdle. Its worth sticking it out. After year 3, you will be settled and happy. Good luck. And have a wonderful day.
Don't stress out about everything. Make sure you take time to look back and remember the special parts. The day will go by so quick that before you know it, it's over. So, just take time to enjoy the moment.
Congratulations
If something does go wrong, try not to worry about it because chances are no-one will notice anyway
Most of all ENJOY YOUR DAY. Believe me, it will go by so, so quickly
Don't let little things annoy you. Even if something disastrous happens, you'll laugh about it later in life, so why not enjoy it now too.
I had a laid back wedding and we had fun, no stress, and time to enjoy each other and our guests.
Relax, enjoy, and live in that moment. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!
just be your self........
this is suppose to be the best day of your life,
so live it up
get up have a warm bath, grab a glass of red wine,
eat some eggs %26amp; toast ,and look forward to the big day
you only get one chance at this, so make it happen
and dont forget , its his day as well
Close your ears to any negativity and ensure that your family support you.
BREATHE... that is the best thing i can offer you..
keep faith in your relationship. Congratulations
I need advice on my life?
i know its not really a quetion but i just need advice .
im 14 years old and seem to get ';depressed '; a lot
i dont think my family would take me serious if i told them..
but like when i was around the age 5 my mom had a brain anarisum and had been in the hospital till i was 6 and till this day she is still unable to talk . so since im the youngest one ( both my brothers are grown) i do all her buisness work cause my brothers have there own lifes.
and okay well the story bout my dad is that when my mom was in the hospital he just like escaped all his problems by drinking so it wasnt even like he was there. and about every three years i move around with mom ( cause i live with her) and its just so hard and complicated cause im sick of meeting new people ; before i used to love meeting new peoples but now i just want to sit home and say just forget everything , i have had bad thoughts before. cause as of today my dad is in jail my mom is still not talking and my brothers are here and there. i just think its noit fair for me ! please help me ?I need advice on my life?
No honey its not fair that you have to go through all that so young and you and your mom are all by yourselves. talk to your parents or an aunt someone you could talk to. or if u have a family doctor when you go talk to your doctor and maybe you can get a referral to talk to someone. your a good daughter for helping your mom because i'm sure its hard for her to. i'm sure your can talk to someone you can always talk to your counselor at school and they can help you if your afraid of talking to your parents. you are a good person and one day you will be compensated by life and your will be a very happy person and life will be better. but remember your not alone alot of people go through bad things in life just be thankful that your mom survived that aneurysm and that you still have her with you. be strong and good luck!I need advice on my life?
i wanna start off by sayin im very sorry...i know its hard now but years from now u will loook back n say i made..i really cant tell u wat to do cause its your life all i can say is be strong n be there for your fam. as much as u can..n it may seem like its not fair but as u get older you will see wat im talikn bout..things will get better
you are right. it is not fair, but you have to keep on with helping her.
and tell your brothers that they could pitch in and help too.
they seem to be letting you do it all. let them know that you need a break every now and then. and i am Truly sorry about what happened to your mom. tell your brothers that they need to spend 1 week a month each to help. that is not asking for too much. i mean damn, it is their mother too.
as for the bad thoughts you are having, just be strong. you are doing something most people could only imagine having to do. you are the strong one in the family. remember that.
i pray that you will get the help you need soon.
good luck.
i'm so sorry. you made me cry:''( i feel so horrible. something bad(not as bad as you) happened in my life. i found this girl on youtube.com. her name is kina grannis. i love her music soo much. i cried. she just made everything in my life soo much better. and she even inspired me to start playing the guitar:) so, well, what im trying to say is that, find something you love, or love to do. do u like skateboarding, painting, swimming, music, etc.??
:) have fun with yourself. even if you have to cry. it;s ok. dont worry. you will be ok:)
i'm praying for you:D
:)
14 is a really hard year I recall, the hormones are something like 300% what they will be later on wreaking havoc with your emotions. You simply have to push through it mentally some how knowing it gets better, or see a doc if you can and get a script for a depression med to see you through. Your dad sounds like he's going through a looser phase and I wouldn't worry about him at all, like many unfortunate households it sounds like you will have to look after yourself here. I agree that if you are able to remember or at least re-evaluate how important this business is for your mother (perhaps it isn't and there's another solution for income) you will always be confident in yourself having done good by her and the family. Very good. So remember the good in life and tell the bad to go away, you have the right to do that. It's not a perfect world but many of us suffer and we find a way to overcome.
im 14 years old and seem to get ';depressed '; a lot
i dont think my family would take me serious if i told them..
but like when i was around the age 5 my mom had a brain anarisum and had been in the hospital till i was 6 and till this day she is still unable to talk . so since im the youngest one ( both my brothers are grown) i do all her buisness work cause my brothers have there own lifes.
and okay well the story bout my dad is that when my mom was in the hospital he just like escaped all his problems by drinking so it wasnt even like he was there. and about every three years i move around with mom ( cause i live with her) and its just so hard and complicated cause im sick of meeting new people ; before i used to love meeting new peoples but now i just want to sit home and say just forget everything , i have had bad thoughts before. cause as of today my dad is in jail my mom is still not talking and my brothers are here and there. i just think its noit fair for me ! please help me ?I need advice on my life?
No honey its not fair that you have to go through all that so young and you and your mom are all by yourselves. talk to your parents or an aunt someone you could talk to. or if u have a family doctor when you go talk to your doctor and maybe you can get a referral to talk to someone. your a good daughter for helping your mom because i'm sure its hard for her to. i'm sure your can talk to someone you can always talk to your counselor at school and they can help you if your afraid of talking to your parents. you are a good person and one day you will be compensated by life and your will be a very happy person and life will be better. but remember your not alone alot of people go through bad things in life just be thankful that your mom survived that aneurysm and that you still have her with you. be strong and good luck!I need advice on my life?
i wanna start off by sayin im very sorry...i know its hard now but years from now u will loook back n say i made..i really cant tell u wat to do cause its your life all i can say is be strong n be there for your fam. as much as u can..n it may seem like its not fair but as u get older you will see wat im talikn bout..things will get better
you are right. it is not fair, but you have to keep on with helping her.
and tell your brothers that they could pitch in and help too.
they seem to be letting you do it all. let them know that you need a break every now and then. and i am Truly sorry about what happened to your mom. tell your brothers that they need to spend 1 week a month each to help. that is not asking for too much. i mean damn, it is their mother too.
as for the bad thoughts you are having, just be strong. you are doing something most people could only imagine having to do. you are the strong one in the family. remember that.
i pray that you will get the help you need soon.
good luck.
i'm so sorry. you made me cry:''( i feel so horrible. something bad(not as bad as you) happened in my life. i found this girl on youtube.com. her name is kina grannis. i love her music soo much. i cried. she just made everything in my life soo much better. and she even inspired me to start playing the guitar:) so, well, what im trying to say is that, find something you love, or love to do. do u like skateboarding, painting, swimming, music, etc.??
:) have fun with yourself. even if you have to cry. it;s ok. dont worry. you will be ok:)
i'm praying for you:D
:)
14 is a really hard year I recall, the hormones are something like 300% what they will be later on wreaking havoc with your emotions. You simply have to push through it mentally some how knowing it gets better, or see a doc if you can and get a script for a depression med to see you through. Your dad sounds like he's going through a looser phase and I wouldn't worry about him at all, like many unfortunate households it sounds like you will have to look after yourself here. I agree that if you are able to remember or at least re-evaluate how important this business is for your mother (perhaps it isn't and there's another solution for income) you will always be confident in yourself having done good by her and the family. Very good. So remember the good in life and tell the bad to go away, you have the right to do that. It's not a perfect world but many of us suffer and we find a way to overcome.
Need some advice on this life situation!?
So basics... I'm 18 yrs old.. currently i live with my mom and my brother in Mi. As many know the economy in MI sucks right now! So my mom decided that even though it pains her to leave me and my brother behind.. Shes moving to a different state for a job to be able to pay the bills for me and my brother (Hes 20) and the apartment we will be moving into shortly. (Our house is up for sale) And if that wasn't scary enough for me living with just my brother. My brother is highly likely to be moving to another state also with his girlfriend. So now I'm gonna be in MI living in an apartment of my own with the closest family living an hour from the new apartment.. In my opinion i am very mature for my age i have 2 jobs going to school full time, And even though i feel I'm much more mature than most other 18 yr old's, I'm not gonna lie, I'm kinda nervous.
Any advice would be amazing. Thanks
(Sorry if i made this a bit long to read)Need some advice on this life situation!?
u need to relax. as long as u remember to pay the bills ur responsible for, u will be fine. get a roomate if ur worried about being lonely.Need some advice on this life situation!?
maybe you could try to find a roomate or something like that so you wounldn't have to me alone
Any advice would be amazing. Thanks
(Sorry if i made this a bit long to read)Need some advice on this life situation!?
u need to relax. as long as u remember to pay the bills ur responsible for, u will be fine. get a roomate if ur worried about being lonely.Need some advice on this life situation!?
maybe you could try to find a roomate or something like that so you wounldn't have to me alone
Restart life at 40 .. any advice?
i feel i have lived a failed life . i am 39 and change .. male unmarried .. when i look back on when i was 15 i did not achieve any except the most basic goals i had ..
there were lot of family problems, personal problems, stupid mistakes, bad relationships and lots of just plain bad luck ..
is it possible to change now .. restart life all over ..
any websites which give pep talk .. affirmations ..
thank youRestart life at 40 .. any advice?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings like this.
Here are some good ideas:
1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.
2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Beans, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.
3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, white potatoes, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn鈥檛 be eating.
4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)
5. Stop smoking, drinking beer %26amp; wine, and drinking coffee.
6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.
7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.
8. Avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.
9. Look into taking a multi-vitamin.
10. Check out this website for excellent health advice: naturalnews.com
Tone up the muscles:
1. Join a gym and get a trainer.
2. If you鈥檙e short on cash, start a light stretching %26amp; yoga regimen.
3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.
4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike
5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.
6. Join the local YMCA.
7. Buy or borrow this book by Bill Pearl called GETTING STRONGER.
In the book, he describes everything you need for a great fitness plan.
8. Crunches %26amp; Curl ups for the abs.
Mental Health:
1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.
2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.
3. Learn how to meditate.
4. Join a support group for the issue you鈥檙e dealing with.
5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.
6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings %26amp; thoughts.
7. Write a 鈥榞ratitude鈥?list every night.
8. Do something that makes you happy each day like: listen to your favorite music, draw, paint, write, or anything creative.
9. Do something for someone else who needs help.
10. If the above suggestions don't improve your mental health, talk with your therapist about the possibility of taking some medication or try some natural remedies like St. John's Wort.
11. Check out the book FEELING GOOD by David Burns.
Take care of yourself
Yam KingRestart life at 40 .. any advice?
Of course you can turn yourself around, just because your turning 40 doesn't mean life hasn't more challenges ahead of you. The saying is life begins at 40!!! Set yourself some goals to achieve. You could do a course you could do volunteer work, there is so much you can do just set your mind to it and go for it. My life changed around when I turned 40 and then again new things happened when I turned 50, so go for it and don't look back. good luck
You have to stop thinking about the past and what you didn't do. Take it one step at a time and remember you can't change what has happened you just have to learn and take that knowledge with you. I got divorced in my late 40's and had to restart life and it is hard but worth the fight. Let go of the past and live you life the way you want to now
Success is defined by your goals. Work on setting your goals, figure out what activities will help and which will hold you down. The only thing worth living for is the next life. Believe in God, love and serve others. And notice how pessimistic and cursed (sinking) feel those that look down upon Jesus and His teachings. Money, women, power and descendants are all earthly bonds that will be dirt one day. Many people who have all those are not happy, and still feel empty inside. Read Matthew, Mark, John and Luke, Believe and start living!
It's easier than you think.
At this age, you'll start to realize the only person preventing you from becoming whatever you can dream is you.
Read Randy Pausch's small book ';The Last Lecture'; to see what I mean.
I feel the same way. I'm 36. This is NOT where I wanted to be. I haven't achieved anything and really feel like a failure because I am unmarried and childless.
I think you're probably gonna get a lot of comments from 'Jesus Freaks' telling spewing their crap on you. I don't know what the answer is. If you find it, let me know.
Yes, you're still young and you can restart your life over again at 39. But you had better get started because the older you get the faster the years fly by and one day you'll be 50 and thinking the same thing.
yes you can restart, maybe just not Everything
You may find having a personal relationship with God helpful as He is love and our Creator --- all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; You can find a
Christian church and try it out. I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. Some churches do a weekly Bible study group and these can be a fun way to make friends and learn more about God's will for your life. God bless.
there were lot of family problems, personal problems, stupid mistakes, bad relationships and lots of just plain bad luck ..
is it possible to change now .. restart life all over ..
any websites which give pep talk .. affirmations ..
thank youRestart life at 40 .. any advice?
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings like this.
Here are some good ideas:
1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.
2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Beans, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.
3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, white potatoes, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn鈥檛 be eating.
4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)
5. Stop smoking, drinking beer %26amp; wine, and drinking coffee.
6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.
7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.
8. Avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.
9. Look into taking a multi-vitamin.
10. Check out this website for excellent health advice: naturalnews.com
Tone up the muscles:
1. Join a gym and get a trainer.
2. If you鈥檙e short on cash, start a light stretching %26amp; yoga regimen.
3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.
4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike
5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.
6. Join the local YMCA.
7. Buy or borrow this book by Bill Pearl called GETTING STRONGER.
In the book, he describes everything you need for a great fitness plan.
8. Crunches %26amp; Curl ups for the abs.
Mental Health:
1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.
2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.
3. Learn how to meditate.
4. Join a support group for the issue you鈥檙e dealing with.
5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.
6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings %26amp; thoughts.
7. Write a 鈥榞ratitude鈥?list every night.
8. Do something that makes you happy each day like: listen to your favorite music, draw, paint, write, or anything creative.
9. Do something for someone else who needs help.
10. If the above suggestions don't improve your mental health, talk with your therapist about the possibility of taking some medication or try some natural remedies like St. John's Wort.
11. Check out the book FEELING GOOD by David Burns.
Take care of yourself
Yam KingRestart life at 40 .. any advice?
Of course you can turn yourself around, just because your turning 40 doesn't mean life hasn't more challenges ahead of you. The saying is life begins at 40!!! Set yourself some goals to achieve. You could do a course you could do volunteer work, there is so much you can do just set your mind to it and go for it. My life changed around when I turned 40 and then again new things happened when I turned 50, so go for it and don't look back. good luck
You have to stop thinking about the past and what you didn't do. Take it one step at a time and remember you can't change what has happened you just have to learn and take that knowledge with you. I got divorced in my late 40's and had to restart life and it is hard but worth the fight. Let go of the past and live you life the way you want to now
Success is defined by your goals. Work on setting your goals, figure out what activities will help and which will hold you down. The only thing worth living for is the next life. Believe in God, love and serve others. And notice how pessimistic and cursed (sinking) feel those that look down upon Jesus and His teachings. Money, women, power and descendants are all earthly bonds that will be dirt one day. Many people who have all those are not happy, and still feel empty inside. Read Matthew, Mark, John and Luke, Believe and start living!
It's easier than you think.
At this age, you'll start to realize the only person preventing you from becoming whatever you can dream is you.
Read Randy Pausch's small book ';The Last Lecture'; to see what I mean.
I feel the same way. I'm 36. This is NOT where I wanted to be. I haven't achieved anything and really feel like a failure because I am unmarried and childless.
I think you're probably gonna get a lot of comments from 'Jesus Freaks' telling spewing their crap on you. I don't know what the answer is. If you find it, let me know.
Yes, you're still young and you can restart your life over again at 39. But you had better get started because the older you get the faster the years fly by and one day you'll be 50 and thinking the same thing.
yes you can restart, maybe just not Everything
You may find having a personal relationship with God helpful as He is love and our Creator --- all-knowing, all-powerful, eternal, holy, love. God loves us and sent us His Son, Jesus Christ, so we can go to heaven if we know and follow Him. Forever means without end -- time on and on without death. Forever is what happens after we die. Either we go to heaven and be with God forever, or we go to hell which is very bad and painful forever. The good people who are saved believers in Jesus Christ go to heaven. The bad people go to hell. We need to know and follow God in this world to get to heaven in the next world. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is our bridge to God. Jesus died on the cross to cancel our sins. We need to accept Jesus into our life as our Lord and Savior forever to receive God's blessing and forgiveness plus go to heaven to be with God forever after we die. This is about being a born-again Christian. Faith in God is a gift from God. You can pray for faith in God. Just speak out and ask God for the faith to believe in Him and to follow Him. Some people find faith in God when they realize the beauty in the world is made by God. Evolution can't explain the world's natural beauty, for example, the parks in the world, animals, flowers, peacocks, sunsets, butterflies, rainbows, etc. After you have your faith on, you can pray a sinner's prayer to be a born-again Christian. This prayer is very important and should be said with a sincere heart and faith in God. This is the prayer: ';Dear God, I know that I am a sinner and that Jesus Christ is the sacrifice for our sins. I have done the following sins (state these out) and I pray to discontinue these sins. I pray to receive Jesus Christ into my life as my Lord and Savior forever. In Jesus' name, amen.'; You can find a
Christian church and try it out. I'm Lutheran and I like the Baptist churches too. Some churches do a weekly Bible study group and these can be a fun way to make friends and learn more about God's will for your life. God bless.
I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
go to a doctor who can identify and treat depression Once you get out of the fog, continue to pursue your religious and other activties.I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
Well, God did this on purpose, sort of to test us. However, if you are ever feeling depressed, you should do something that wastes a lot of ur energy, then u will be much more satisfied. I spent 2 years of my life depressed, and I exercised a lot and that me feel much better everyday when I woke up. It also makes you feel a little sore, but it usually helps!I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
You are probably trying to find acceptance. You can join anything to make you feel good but it comes down to one thing: yourself. Do you accept yourself? Do you love yourself? Once you do that, you will feel a whole lot better.
For years I was reading books, joined religions, and went to self-help seminars. But the only thing that it didn't show me was to love myself. All of them were correct on living a great life and having a roadmap to success, but finding out and appreciating and loving myself was the core of my problems. So start loving yourself. I hope this helps.
You didn't really give us allot to go on. God is a great ally to have but you can't just have God do everything for you.
What is it that you want out of life that you don't have?
Romance? Job? Travel? The first step is to try to figure out what you want out of life. Add more details to this question and maybe we can help.
These feelings may be beyond your control; if so you should think about an antidepressant. They work wonders.
Start by finding a good counselor, even if it's just one at school. A professional counselor would be able to hook you up with a psychiatrist. Plus, a professional, fresh perspective always helps.
because its all in your head. you just tell yourself that you will be alright and take control over yourself....than you'll feel better.
whats going on ill listen.
Well, God did this on purpose, sort of to test us. However, if you are ever feeling depressed, you should do something that wastes a lot of ur energy, then u will be much more satisfied. I spent 2 years of my life depressed, and I exercised a lot and that me feel much better everyday when I woke up. It also makes you feel a little sore, but it usually helps!I'm just not happy with my life even after I found God, I'm still depressed...any advice?
You are probably trying to find acceptance. You can join anything to make you feel good but it comes down to one thing: yourself. Do you accept yourself? Do you love yourself? Once you do that, you will feel a whole lot better.
For years I was reading books, joined religions, and went to self-help seminars. But the only thing that it didn't show me was to love myself. All of them were correct on living a great life and having a roadmap to success, but finding out and appreciating and loving myself was the core of my problems. So start loving yourself. I hope this helps.
You didn't really give us allot to go on. God is a great ally to have but you can't just have God do everything for you.
What is it that you want out of life that you don't have?
Romance? Job? Travel? The first step is to try to figure out what you want out of life. Add more details to this question and maybe we can help.
These feelings may be beyond your control; if so you should think about an antidepressant. They work wonders.
Start by finding a good counselor, even if it's just one at school. A professional counselor would be able to hook you up with a psychiatrist. Plus, a professional, fresh perspective always helps.
because its all in your head. you just tell yourself that you will be alright and take control over yourself....than you'll feel better.
whats going on ill listen.
Need advice please on my life story?
i am 38 years old and have been living with my parents for most of my life seems like i have been not able to get my life straight for many years.i feel alot of this is due to my family's manipulation and trying to control me because everytime i have listened to their advice i wind up worse then i was before i thought everybody could trust their own blood before anything else.i even moved with my mother after my father passed away in may to a smaller city where there are hardly any jobs where compared to where i was living before their was a variety of jobs opened.i have listened to others before listening to my own self first and i feel i am in a worse position then i was ever before.
please dont tell me i need counseling because that line doesnt work with me anymore i need advice what to do about it and stop talking about it.any advice or suggestions please? thank youNeed advice please on my life story?
Don't listen to what others has to say. Do what you really want to do.Need advice please on my life story?
1. Quit blaming others for your life.
2. Decide what you want, how you want to live.
3. Write out every step you need to take to create that life for yourself.
4. Start following those steps, even if they are just very small ones.
5. If you do this, then someday you will have the life of your dreams.
Don't give up!
Well.. NOOO heck no you dont need counseling your fine but just swim in a pool at night then calmly float and think about it. once you got it in your mind and you have it in your hand then reach it and crush it then think about the positive side! nothings ALWAYS bad ;]
I THINK YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK TO WERE U HAD A GOOD LIFE N START TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE,,N MAKING GOOD FRIENDS AND DONT LISTEN TO NO ONE BUT U,,,,LIFES TO SHORT B HAPPY! LIVE !LOVE,!,,PEACE
Get away from your family. Don't ask them for any advice.
please dont tell me i need counseling because that line doesnt work with me anymore i need advice what to do about it and stop talking about it.any advice or suggestions please? thank youNeed advice please on my life story?
Don't listen to what others has to say. Do what you really want to do.Need advice please on my life story?
1. Quit blaming others for your life.
2. Decide what you want, how you want to live.
3. Write out every step you need to take to create that life for yourself.
4. Start following those steps, even if they are just very small ones.
5. If you do this, then someday you will have the life of your dreams.
Don't give up!
Well.. NOOO heck no you dont need counseling your fine but just swim in a pool at night then calmly float and think about it. once you got it in your mind and you have it in your hand then reach it and crush it then think about the positive side! nothings ALWAYS bad ;]
I THINK YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK TO WERE U HAD A GOOD LIFE N START TAKING CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE,,N MAKING GOOD FRIENDS AND DONT LISTEN TO NO ONE BUT U,,,,LIFES TO SHORT B HAPPY! LIVE !LOVE,!,,PEACE
Get away from your family. Don't ask them for any advice.
I need advice about the life path I should take!?
Ok, so my mum is Filipina and my father is Australian.. I was born in Australia but I really want to move to the Philippines to live because all of my family are there! Here in Australia I only have my parents as I am a only child.
My mum doesn't want to move there because she thinks there are more opportunities here but I met a manager of a talent agency who thinks I could be a star there or model! I want to finish year 10 here and then finish the rest of my school there with my family! I am currently in year 9.
Our family in the Philippines are above middle class and if my mum and dad moved to the Philippines we would be living a good life there. Probably even better than we are here.
I really need advice! What would you do in my situation?
Would you take the path of living a normal life alone in Australia and maybe having my own family one day? OR
Living a fun life with my big, close family in the Philippines, starting my own family there one day and taking a shot at stardom while I'm still young?
I want to live my life to the fullest and not have any regrets.. I don't want to die wondering ';what if...?';I need advice about the life path I should take!?
i guess u shud go to Phillipines though do try having a real conversation with your parents talk over your choices and then make the decision. dont forget ur parents love you since u r d only child so cheersI need advice about the life path I should take!?
One thing I have learned over the years is to not trust ';modeling agency'; people.
Your young, your family is well to do, get an education and make your own life fun and exciting without relying on some perv who might just want in your pants.
If I were you (and I have been you), I wouldn't go in with modeling until you know what your really getting into.
I would try to get you parents to come with you to the Philippines and see what happens. But you know it could be your parents know some thing about the place you want to go and they are trying to keep you safe. I don't know man I would ask them and see if they are willing. And see ask them if it's to dangerous for you that could be the reason.
1. Finish school
2. Talk to your mum, she lived there she would know
3. Be careful with the talent agency
4. Talk to your mum
5. Talk to your mum
Just think twice man. your in 9th year so I would agree with one of the above post. Finish school then talk to your mother about it. That is what I would do and what I suggest you to do.
Only you can decide what choice is best for you. It's good you are thinking about it now, but just wait a few years. You're still young
you talent agent want to sell you into slave trade run forrest run!
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My mum doesn't want to move there because she thinks there are more opportunities here but I met a manager of a talent agency who thinks I could be a star there or model! I want to finish year 10 here and then finish the rest of my school there with my family! I am currently in year 9.
Our family in the Philippines are above middle class and if my mum and dad moved to the Philippines we would be living a good life there. Probably even better than we are here.
I really need advice! What would you do in my situation?
Would you take the path of living a normal life alone in Australia and maybe having my own family one day? OR
Living a fun life with my big, close family in the Philippines, starting my own family there one day and taking a shot at stardom while I'm still young?
I want to live my life to the fullest and not have any regrets.. I don't want to die wondering ';what if...?';I need advice about the life path I should take!?
i guess u shud go to Phillipines though do try having a real conversation with your parents talk over your choices and then make the decision. dont forget ur parents love you since u r d only child so cheersI need advice about the life path I should take!?
One thing I have learned over the years is to not trust ';modeling agency'; people.
Your young, your family is well to do, get an education and make your own life fun and exciting without relying on some perv who might just want in your pants.
If I were you (and I have been you), I wouldn't go in with modeling until you know what your really getting into.
I would try to get you parents to come with you to the Philippines and see what happens. But you know it could be your parents know some thing about the place you want to go and they are trying to keep you safe. I don't know man I would ask them and see if they are willing. And see ask them if it's to dangerous for you that could be the reason.
1. Finish school
2. Talk to your mum, she lived there she would know
3. Be careful with the talent agency
4. Talk to your mum
5. Talk to your mum
Just think twice man. your in 9th year so I would agree with one of the above post. Finish school then talk to your mother about it. That is what I would do and what I suggest you to do.
Only you can decide what choice is best for you. It's good you are thinking about it now, but just wait a few years. You're still young
you talent agent want to sell you into slave trade run forrest run!
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I get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Enjoy yourself! Some people might say don't forget to smile but with me I couldn't stop smiling all day! It really is the happiest day of your life.
Good luck!I get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Don't do it! hahahaI get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Make sure you invite God into your marrige and that he blesses your union. Otherwise it's just another business partnership with one of you being the controlling partner.
God Bless
COOL hope you enjoy your day.
my advice is be friends as well as lovers, talk your problems throu, ALWAYS say goodnight before you go to sleep, and keep he romance alive with little cards or txt so you both no you apreciate each other, make time to spend together at least once a week
Relax do not worry about the things that you cannot control, make sure you have someone to step in if anything happens to sort it out for you.
You should not get pulled into sorting out the nitty gritty details on the actual day, it's your day to enjoy.
Most of all try and soak it all in, my biggest surprise was how quick it went. It was literally the best day of my life and just flashed by. So take in as much as you can.
As a married woman myself, I can honestly say that you should not look at your wedding day being the best day of your life, as this hopfully will be one of many special days that you have. The reason I say this is only because so many feel as though their whole entire marriage is supposed to be like their wedding day, full of excitment, fresh, your the center of attraction,etc, you get my point? Your wedding day is gonna be wonderful, but remember marriage is no cake walk, that person your marrying is gonna be the one with whom you will tire of in a few years, he will get on your nerves, theirs gonna be bills and so many other issues, but keep in mind, this is the guy that you are picking to spend the rest of your life with, so make sure that he is the one! So make every day the best day of your life, with your new spouse!
Just relax and go with the flow. Don't worry about every little thing and just enjoy spending the day with your friends and family.
Enjoy it to the full!
Be happy!xxxx
make sure you take time out for yourself and don't forget to gets lots of pics and video, definitely video as it goes so quickly and you get lost in the aura. Congrats!
relax and let things fall into their rightful places. good luck and have a happy marriage
Relax and don't let anyone ruin your day! Best wishes!
just savior every single minute of it and all the best for the day darlin xx
hi beth congratualtions, i got married 8 weeks ago. all i can say is enjoy the day as it goes so quickly. I was ill on my wedding day but by the time the service came i was a lot brighter., im also quite a confident person but on my day i was nervous, but just go with the flow and im sure it will be the best day of both of your lives. With good luck for the rest of your lives. Both u and ur hubby have a fab marriage and day.
Read this book together before you get married. Then every year around yuor anniversary read it again. It's the best book for advice on how to be a happy married committed couple,
best wishes for a long happy life together.
Try and stay relaxed I know it will be difficult as it can be really stressful with everything going on around you. Try and take as much in as you can because the day just flies by and it will be over before you know it.
Congratulations and enjoy your very special day xx
I think ';the best day of my life'; expectation can cause serious upset! You have to expect the possibility of rain, broken high heels, and spilled drinks- no day is ever perfect. If you go into the day expecting perfection, you will be disappointed. Stuff happens. Go into the day with an open mind- a little flexibility can go a long way towards helping you cope with a potentially stressful day, and you'll be happier at the end of the evening if you don't have the opportunity for a melt down.
Oh how exciting! Relax (Rescue Remedy is fantastic for this) don't drink too much and just soak up the admiration. It's so much fun being the centre of attention just for one day. And make sure friends and family take plenty of photos - they're often better than the professional ones. Congratulations to you!
Oh Good luck. I'm getting married soon myself. I want to see what everyone has to say xox
be happy have fun it's your wedding
plan for the worst , hope for the best. Don't let little things wreck your day. Weather, car breaking down, people late, ...there will be something there always is. So plan on it happening that way when it does it wont be a big deal and your day should go great.
Remember its your day, don't let any one wreck it for you, hold your ground and do what you want to do.
Have a great day.
Freak out over every little thing, forget like five important things you need...film, a lighter for the candles, the rings, one shoe, music...cry and fret, panic and get hysterical. Be sure and slap someone if you can. Eat like a pig at the reception and get cake all over your dress. Drink until you can't walk much less dance and pass out in the back of the limo. Then have a lovely honeymoon...Juss kiddin'. I have a friend who did this..so I will advise you to do what I did at my wedding. The exact opposite and I still had a lovely honeymoon. We kept is simple cuz the more crap you add the more you either have to be in charge of or have someone else be in charge of who will lord over you the whole way. Do make a check list though...SMILE! Congratulations! Love in Christ, ~J~
Relax, relax, and relax. Take lots of pictures with your mind and cherish them for the rest of your life.
Congrats! The best advice I can give is to remember that this day is for you and your husband--not other family or friends. And let someone else sweat the details!
The important part is the getting married bit. The rest of it is just a way of announcing to the world that this has taken place. Take the important part seriously and have fun after that. Remember too that the first year of marriage can be tough as you get used to everything. Do not panic or run at the first hurdle. Its worth sticking it out. After year 3, you will be settled and happy. Good luck. And have a wonderful day.
Don't stress out about everything. Make sure you take time to look back and remember the special parts. The day will go by so quick that before you know it, it's over. So, just take time to enjoy the moment.
Congratulations
If something does go wrong, try not to worry about it because chances are no-one will notice anyway
Most of all ENJOY YOUR DAY. Believe me, it will go by so, so quickly
Don't let little things annoy you. Even if something disastrous happens, you'll laugh about it later in life, so why not enjoy it now too.
I had a laid back wedding and we had fun, no stress, and time to enjoy each other and our guests.
Relax, enjoy, and live in that moment. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!
just be your self........
this is suppose to be the best day of your life,
so live it up
get up have a warm bath, grab a glass of red wine,
eat some eggs %26amp; toast ,and look forward to the big day
you only get one chance at this, so make it happen
and dont forget , its his day as well
Close your ears to any negativity and ensure that your family support you.
BREATHE... that is the best thing i can offer you..
keep faith in your relationship. Congratulations
Good luck!I get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Don't do it! hahahaI get married a week tomorrow. What's the best advice you can give me to have the best day of my life?
Make sure you invite God into your marrige and that he blesses your union. Otherwise it's just another business partnership with one of you being the controlling partner.
God Bless
COOL hope you enjoy your day.
my advice is be friends as well as lovers, talk your problems throu, ALWAYS say goodnight before you go to sleep, and keep he romance alive with little cards or txt so you both no you apreciate each other, make time to spend together at least once a week
Relax do not worry about the things that you cannot control, make sure you have someone to step in if anything happens to sort it out for you.
You should not get pulled into sorting out the nitty gritty details on the actual day, it's your day to enjoy.
Most of all try and soak it all in, my biggest surprise was how quick it went. It was literally the best day of my life and just flashed by. So take in as much as you can.
As a married woman myself, I can honestly say that you should not look at your wedding day being the best day of your life, as this hopfully will be one of many special days that you have. The reason I say this is only because so many feel as though their whole entire marriage is supposed to be like their wedding day, full of excitment, fresh, your the center of attraction,etc, you get my point? Your wedding day is gonna be wonderful, but remember marriage is no cake walk, that person your marrying is gonna be the one with whom you will tire of in a few years, he will get on your nerves, theirs gonna be bills and so many other issues, but keep in mind, this is the guy that you are picking to spend the rest of your life with, so make sure that he is the one! So make every day the best day of your life, with your new spouse!
Just relax and go with the flow. Don't worry about every little thing and just enjoy spending the day with your friends and family.
Enjoy it to the full!
Be happy!xxxx
make sure you take time out for yourself and don't forget to gets lots of pics and video, definitely video as it goes so quickly and you get lost in the aura. Congrats!
relax and let things fall into their rightful places. good luck and have a happy marriage
Relax and don't let anyone ruin your day! Best wishes!
just savior every single minute of it and all the best for the day darlin xx
hi beth congratualtions, i got married 8 weeks ago. all i can say is enjoy the day as it goes so quickly. I was ill on my wedding day but by the time the service came i was a lot brighter., im also quite a confident person but on my day i was nervous, but just go with the flow and im sure it will be the best day of both of your lives. With good luck for the rest of your lives. Both u and ur hubby have a fab marriage and day.
Read this book together before you get married. Then every year around yuor anniversary read it again. It's the best book for advice on how to be a happy married committed couple,
best wishes for a long happy life together.
Try and stay relaxed I know it will be difficult as it can be really stressful with everything going on around you. Try and take as much in as you can because the day just flies by and it will be over before you know it.
Congratulations and enjoy your very special day xx
I think ';the best day of my life'; expectation can cause serious upset! You have to expect the possibility of rain, broken high heels, and spilled drinks- no day is ever perfect. If you go into the day expecting perfection, you will be disappointed. Stuff happens. Go into the day with an open mind- a little flexibility can go a long way towards helping you cope with a potentially stressful day, and you'll be happier at the end of the evening if you don't have the opportunity for a melt down.
Oh how exciting! Relax (Rescue Remedy is fantastic for this) don't drink too much and just soak up the admiration. It's so much fun being the centre of attention just for one day. And make sure friends and family take plenty of photos - they're often better than the professional ones. Congratulations to you!
Oh Good luck. I'm getting married soon myself. I want to see what everyone has to say xox
be happy have fun it's your wedding
plan for the worst , hope for the best. Don't let little things wreck your day. Weather, car breaking down, people late, ...there will be something there always is. So plan on it happening that way when it does it wont be a big deal and your day should go great.
Remember its your day, don't let any one wreck it for you, hold your ground and do what you want to do.
Have a great day.
Freak out over every little thing, forget like five important things you need...film, a lighter for the candles, the rings, one shoe, music...cry and fret, panic and get hysterical. Be sure and slap someone if you can. Eat like a pig at the reception and get cake all over your dress. Drink until you can't walk much less dance and pass out in the back of the limo. Then have a lovely honeymoon...Juss kiddin'. I have a friend who did this..so I will advise you to do what I did at my wedding. The exact opposite and I still had a lovely honeymoon. We kept is simple cuz the more crap you add the more you either have to be in charge of or have someone else be in charge of who will lord over you the whole way. Do make a check list though...SMILE! Congratulations! Love in Christ, ~J~
Relax, relax, and relax. Take lots of pictures with your mind and cherish them for the rest of your life.
Congrats! The best advice I can give is to remember that this day is for you and your husband--not other family or friends. And let someone else sweat the details!
The important part is the getting married bit. The rest of it is just a way of announcing to the world that this has taken place. Take the important part seriously and have fun after that. Remember too that the first year of marriage can be tough as you get used to everything. Do not panic or run at the first hurdle. Its worth sticking it out. After year 3, you will be settled and happy. Good luck. And have a wonderful day.
Don't stress out about everything. Make sure you take time to look back and remember the special parts. The day will go by so quick that before you know it, it's over. So, just take time to enjoy the moment.
Congratulations
If something does go wrong, try not to worry about it because chances are no-one will notice anyway
Most of all ENJOY YOUR DAY. Believe me, it will go by so, so quickly
Don't let little things annoy you. Even if something disastrous happens, you'll laugh about it later in life, so why not enjoy it now too.
I had a laid back wedding and we had fun, no stress, and time to enjoy each other and our guests.
Relax, enjoy, and live in that moment. Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!
just be your self........
this is suppose to be the best day of your life,
so live it up
get up have a warm bath, grab a glass of red wine,
eat some eggs %26amp; toast ,and look forward to the big day
you only get one chance at this, so make it happen
and dont forget , its his day as well
Close your ears to any negativity and ensure that your family support you.
BREATHE... that is the best thing i can offer you..
keep faith in your relationship. Congratulations
I need advice on my life?
i know its not really a quetion but i just need advice .
im 14 years old and seem to get ';depressed '; a lot
i dont think my family would take me serious if i told them..
but like when i was around the age 5 my mom had a brain anarisum and had been in the hospital till i was 6 and till this day she is still unable to talk . so since im the youngest one ( both my brothers are grown) i do all her buisness work cause my brothers have there own lifes.
and okay well the story bout my dad is that when my mom was in the hospital he just like escaped all his problems by drinking so it wasnt even like he was there. and about every three years i move around with mom ( cause i live with her) and its just so hard and complicated cause im sick of meeting new people ; before i used to love meeting new peoples but now i just want to sit home and say just forget everything , i have had bad thoughts before. cause as of today my dad is in jail my mom is still not talking and my brothers are here and there. i just think its noit fair for me ! please help me ?I need advice on my life?
No honey its not fair that you have to go through all that so young and you and your mom are all by yourselves. talk to your parents or an aunt someone you could talk to. or if u have a family doctor when you go talk to your doctor and maybe you can get a referral to talk to someone. your a good daughter for helping your mom because i'm sure its hard for her to. i'm sure your can talk to someone you can always talk to your counselor at school and they can help you if your afraid of talking to your parents. you are a good person and one day you will be compensated by life and your will be a very happy person and life will be better. but remember your not alone alot of people go through bad things in life just be thankful that your mom survived that aneurysm and that you still have her with you. be strong and good luck!I need advice on my life?
i wanna start off by sayin im very sorry...i know its hard now but years from now u will loook back n say i made..i really cant tell u wat to do cause its your life all i can say is be strong n be there for your fam. as much as u can..n it may seem like its not fair but as u get older you will see wat im talikn bout..things will get better
you are right. it is not fair, but you have to keep on with helping her.
and tell your brothers that they could pitch in and help too.
they seem to be letting you do it all. let them know that you need a break every now and then. and i am Truly sorry about what happened to your mom. tell your brothers that they need to spend 1 week a month each to help. that is not asking for too much. i mean damn, it is their mother too.
as for the bad thoughts you are having, just be strong. you are doing something most people could only imagine having to do. you are the strong one in the family. remember that.
i pray that you will get the help you need soon.
good luck.
i'm so sorry. you made me cry:''( i feel so horrible. something bad(not as bad as you) happened in my life. i found this girl on youtube.com. her name is kina grannis. i love her music soo much. i cried. she just made everything in my life soo much better. and she even inspired me to start playing the guitar:) so, well, what im trying to say is that, find something you love, or love to do. do u like skateboarding, painting, swimming, music, etc.??
:) have fun with yourself. even if you have to cry. it;s ok. dont worry. you will be ok:)
i'm praying for you:D
:)
14 is a really hard year I recall, the hormones are something like 300% what they will be later on wreaking havoc with your emotions. You simply have to push through it mentally some how knowing it gets better, or see a doc if you can and get a script for a depression med to see you through. Your dad sounds like he's going through a looser phase and I wouldn't worry about him at all, like many unfortunate households it sounds like you will have to look after yourself here. I agree that if you are able to remember or at least re-evaluate how important this business is for your mother (perhaps it isn't and there's another solution for income) you will always be confident in yourself having done good by her and the family. Very good. So remember the good in life and tell the bad to go away, you have the right to do that. It's not a perfect world but many of us suffer and we find a way to overcome.
im 14 years old and seem to get ';depressed '; a lot
i dont think my family would take me serious if i told them..
but like when i was around the age 5 my mom had a brain anarisum and had been in the hospital till i was 6 and till this day she is still unable to talk . so since im the youngest one ( both my brothers are grown) i do all her buisness work cause my brothers have there own lifes.
and okay well the story bout my dad is that when my mom was in the hospital he just like escaped all his problems by drinking so it wasnt even like he was there. and about every three years i move around with mom ( cause i live with her) and its just so hard and complicated cause im sick of meeting new people ; before i used to love meeting new peoples but now i just want to sit home and say just forget everything , i have had bad thoughts before. cause as of today my dad is in jail my mom is still not talking and my brothers are here and there. i just think its noit fair for me ! please help me ?I need advice on my life?
No honey its not fair that you have to go through all that so young and you and your mom are all by yourselves. talk to your parents or an aunt someone you could talk to. or if u have a family doctor when you go talk to your doctor and maybe you can get a referral to talk to someone. your a good daughter for helping your mom because i'm sure its hard for her to. i'm sure your can talk to someone you can always talk to your counselor at school and they can help you if your afraid of talking to your parents. you are a good person and one day you will be compensated by life and your will be a very happy person and life will be better. but remember your not alone alot of people go through bad things in life just be thankful that your mom survived that aneurysm and that you still have her with you. be strong and good luck!I need advice on my life?
i wanna start off by sayin im very sorry...i know its hard now but years from now u will loook back n say i made..i really cant tell u wat to do cause its your life all i can say is be strong n be there for your fam. as much as u can..n it may seem like its not fair but as u get older you will see wat im talikn bout..things will get better
you are right. it is not fair, but you have to keep on with helping her.
and tell your brothers that they could pitch in and help too.
they seem to be letting you do it all. let them know that you need a break every now and then. and i am Truly sorry about what happened to your mom. tell your brothers that they need to spend 1 week a month each to help. that is not asking for too much. i mean damn, it is their mother too.
as for the bad thoughts you are having, just be strong. you are doing something most people could only imagine having to do. you are the strong one in the family. remember that.
i pray that you will get the help you need soon.
good luck.
i'm so sorry. you made me cry:''( i feel so horrible. something bad(not as bad as you) happened in my life. i found this girl on youtube.com. her name is kina grannis. i love her music soo much. i cried. she just made everything in my life soo much better. and she even inspired me to start playing the guitar:) so, well, what im trying to say is that, find something you love, or love to do. do u like skateboarding, painting, swimming, music, etc.??
:) have fun with yourself. even if you have to cry. it;s ok. dont worry. you will be ok:)
i'm praying for you:D
:)
14 is a really hard year I recall, the hormones are something like 300% what they will be later on wreaking havoc with your emotions. You simply have to push through it mentally some how knowing it gets better, or see a doc if you can and get a script for a depression med to see you through. Your dad sounds like he's going through a looser phase and I wouldn't worry about him at all, like many unfortunate households it sounds like you will have to look after yourself here. I agree that if you are able to remember or at least re-evaluate how important this business is for your mother (perhaps it isn't and there's another solution for income) you will always be confident in yourself having done good by her and the family. Very good. So remember the good in life and tell the bad to go away, you have the right to do that. It's not a perfect world but many of us suffer and we find a way to overcome.
Need some advice on this life situation!?
So basics... I'm 18 yrs old.. currently i live with my mom and my brother in Mi. As many know the economy in MI sucks right now! So my mom decided that even though it pains her to leave me and my brother behind.. Shes moving to a different state for a job to be able to pay the bills for me and my brother (Hes 20) and the apartment we will be moving into shortly. (Our house is up for sale) And if that wasn't scary enough for me living with just my brother. My brother is highly likely to be moving to another state also with his girlfriend. So now I'm gonna be in MI living in an apartment of my own with the closest family living an hour from the new apartment.. In my opinion i am very mature for my age i have 2 jobs going to school full time, And even though i feel I'm much more mature than most other 18 yr old's, I'm not gonna lie, I'm kinda nervous.
Any advice would be amazing. Thanks
(Sorry if i made this a bit long to read)Need some advice on this life situation!?
maybe you could try to find a roomate or something like that so you wounldn't have to me aloneNeed some advice on this life situation!?
u need to relax. as long as u remember to pay the bills ur responsible for, u will be fine. get a roomate if ur worried about being lonely.
Any advice would be amazing. Thanks
(Sorry if i made this a bit long to read)Need some advice on this life situation!?
maybe you could try to find a roomate or something like that so you wounldn't have to me aloneNeed some advice on this life situation!?
u need to relax. as long as u remember to pay the bills ur responsible for, u will be fine. get a roomate if ur worried about being lonely.
Birth control advice - New marry Life?
Hi Im 27 year man, im going to marry! we have planned birth control for 2 years. Pls advice us for safe intercourse and birth control!!!( what is pills actually? Is it tablets?? many Q %26amp; A have this word ';Pills';)Birth control advice - New marry Life?
Pills are tablets that contain the hormones estrogens and/or progesterones. These are the female hormones produced by ovaries whoes specific levels at different intervals in the menstural cycle cause ovulation and so pregnancy if intercourse happens.
Giving them as pills supresses the body's normal hormonal balance and so ovulation is inhibited. But the pills are not without side effects. There are many. They may cause a woman to be infertile for a long time after their withdrawal. So be careful. Once you have atleast one or two children then you can try them of.
For now I would suggest barrier methods of contraception. Like diaphram for women or condoms etc. A copper-T kept in the uterus is also a good idea but does cause a bit of discomfort to the woman.
Good luck with your marriage.Birth control advice - New marry Life?
I plan on getting my tubes tied (called tubal ligation) after my baby is born. It's a really easy outpatient surgery and can be reversed if you should ever decide to have a baby! I personally feel that it's a lot safer than putting a bunch of chemicalsa and hormones in your body! Might just be my personal opinion, though! There are all sorts of options out there. Congratulations on your wedding! :)
I think that an IUD is the best if you want long tern BC. The Mirena last for 5 years, that's 5 years of not worrying about having to take a pill everyday, or doing something before sex. and its more effective that having your tubes tied.
I'm going to assume that you are in an undeveloped country that is unfamiliar with ';the pill.';
Birth control can be used to prevent pregnancy. Many forms exist. There is natural birth control that involves charting a woman's cycles and abstaining on the days she is most likely to conceive. Very unreliable.
There are condoms (also known as rubbers or prophylactics). If worn properly (by the man), they are fairly reliable.
There is the sponge and the IUD. Both are fairly reliable as well.
There is also the pill. When properly taken, this is the most reliable form of birth control. But no form is 100% reliable.
You %26amp; your fiancee should speak to a health-care professional and have your questions properly answered.
if she takes the BC as specified you both should be BABYLESS for 2 yrs. Remember BC is only 97% effective against pregnancy.
They are tablets, which are taken everyday, in a set of 28 or more, I believe. They usually are blue (for the first 21 days) and when the period comes will be red(for the 7-day period). Her cycle will change once she start taking the pills, so don't be alarmed. If you want touse contraceptives still that is fine, if not, it is up to you. Birth control lessens the chance of having children, that's one thing you need to understand, but doesn't prevent it.
Congratulations on the Wedding!!!
I'll be completely honest with you. I was on the pill will I got pregnant the first time. I later miscarried and then I got on the depo prevera shot. I got pregnant on that with my son. For years birth control worked for me and then it just didn't. I always took it correctly (ei; never missing a pill/shot, never being late on taking it). I guess what I'm trying to say is don't be surprised if you're blessed with a child before you planned. My husband and I wanted to be married for four years before having children. Nine days after we said ';I do';, we found out I was pregnant. Just be prepared for birth control not to work.
well they are tablets you will take to prevent you from getting pregant. good luck.
theres so many birth control methods. its most effective if you take 2 at the same time. for example the pill and using a condom. there is also the injections, patches, implants and the coil. all arent 100% fool proof so using a condom aswell is a good idea.
tell your fiance to go to her gynocologist and get birth control pills. these pills are taken daily and prevent ovulation, thusly preventing pregnancy!!! your fiance can get any questions she has answered by her dr.
Depo Provera is an exceptionally good long term method. It is a shot that she will get every 3 months. She will have the freedom of not taking a pill everyday, and she will more likely than not stop having her period while taking it.
Pills are tablets that contain the hormones estrogens and/or progesterones. These are the female hormones produced by ovaries whoes specific levels at different intervals in the menstural cycle cause ovulation and so pregnancy if intercourse happens.
Giving them as pills supresses the body's normal hormonal balance and so ovulation is inhibited. But the pills are not without side effects. There are many. They may cause a woman to be infertile for a long time after their withdrawal. So be careful. Once you have atleast one or two children then you can try them of.
For now I would suggest barrier methods of contraception. Like diaphram for women or condoms etc. A copper-T kept in the uterus is also a good idea but does cause a bit of discomfort to the woman.
Good luck with your marriage.Birth control advice - New marry Life?
I plan on getting my tubes tied (called tubal ligation) after my baby is born. It's a really easy outpatient surgery and can be reversed if you should ever decide to have a baby! I personally feel that it's a lot safer than putting a bunch of chemicalsa and hormones in your body! Might just be my personal opinion, though! There are all sorts of options out there. Congratulations on your wedding! :)
I think that an IUD is the best if you want long tern BC. The Mirena last for 5 years, that's 5 years of not worrying about having to take a pill everyday, or doing something before sex. and its more effective that having your tubes tied.
I'm going to assume that you are in an undeveloped country that is unfamiliar with ';the pill.';
Birth control can be used to prevent pregnancy. Many forms exist. There is natural birth control that involves charting a woman's cycles and abstaining on the days she is most likely to conceive. Very unreliable.
There are condoms (also known as rubbers or prophylactics). If worn properly (by the man), they are fairly reliable.
There is the sponge and the IUD. Both are fairly reliable as well.
There is also the pill. When properly taken, this is the most reliable form of birth control. But no form is 100% reliable.
You %26amp; your fiancee should speak to a health-care professional and have your questions properly answered.
if she takes the BC as specified you both should be BABYLESS for 2 yrs. Remember BC is only 97% effective against pregnancy.
They are tablets, which are taken everyday, in a set of 28 or more, I believe. They usually are blue (for the first 21 days) and when the period comes will be red(for the 7-day period). Her cycle will change once she start taking the pills, so don't be alarmed. If you want touse contraceptives still that is fine, if not, it is up to you. Birth control lessens the chance of having children, that's one thing you need to understand, but doesn't prevent it.
Congratulations on the Wedding!!!
I'll be completely honest with you. I was on the pill will I got pregnant the first time. I later miscarried and then I got on the depo prevera shot. I got pregnant on that with my son. For years birth control worked for me and then it just didn't. I always took it correctly (ei; never missing a pill/shot, never being late on taking it). I guess what I'm trying to say is don't be surprised if you're blessed with a child before you planned. My husband and I wanted to be married for four years before having children. Nine days after we said ';I do';, we found out I was pregnant. Just be prepared for birth control not to work.
well they are tablets you will take to prevent you from getting pregant. good luck.
theres so many birth control methods. its most effective if you take 2 at the same time. for example the pill and using a condom. there is also the injections, patches, implants and the coil. all arent 100% fool proof so using a condom aswell is a good idea.
tell your fiance to go to her gynocologist and get birth control pills. these pills are taken daily and prevent ovulation, thusly preventing pregnancy!!! your fiance can get any questions she has answered by her dr.
Depo Provera is an exceptionally good long term method. It is a shot that she will get every 3 months. She will have the freedom of not taking a pill everyday, and she will more likely than not stop having her period while taking it.
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