Can i be happy in sex and marrige life if i married at 40 years old life. Expreence people Please advice with no jokes.Can i be happy in sex and marrige life if i married at 40 years old life. Expreence people Please advice with?
IT IS LATE MARRIAGE MAY OR MAY NOT SUCCESSFUL.Can i be happy in sex and marrige life if i married at 40 years old life. Expreence people Please advice with?
At age 40 you will be mature to choose the right partner. Surely you know what you want by now and there is no reason why you both should not be very, very happy . Personally I do not know anybody who had the brains to wait until they were fit to get married. Everyone married in haste and regretted at leisure . LOL
So you are a whole lot better of than most folks .
Of course you will have some hard times. That comes with the territory. Just don't forget to always laugh together and have fun . I'll be married 59 years soon and we are still having a ball.
The very best to you both .
no why did you marry first of all.
If you truly love that person I don't see what the age matters, as long as you get along and that yes you will be happy.
Well life start at 40 so that's a good age to get married. And sex and and marriage life can be good enough to make a young couple feel jealous. SO if go for it and enjoy life from sex in the bed to sex on the shower but make it a happy life and always go out together and have fun together. But marrying at a late age is always good depending on the couple. Need to chat with someone just IM me or e-mail me anytime.
Yes, if you remember that communication is the key
Your conjugal happiness would depend on you and your spouse and your mutual compatibility and not your respective ages. Sexually you would definitely be less vigorous than a person in his/her 20s or early 30s. But still you would be able to enjoy physically, if both of you want to. Age is more in the mind than it is in the body. And 40 is not too advanced an age for marriage and sex as you think it to be. As they say, life begins at 40. Best of luck.
Yes. When two souls and hearts are bond together spiritually, emotionally and physically as one by unconditional love; naturally intimacy on all levels will be achieved because of the passion, caring, trust, respect and excitement of sharing your lives together. Age doesn't discriminate on achieving happiness, therefore it's not the age but the two people involved. Marriage is a symbol of all of the above except when marriage is arranged due to other reasons, like marrying for money, professional status, or finanical status, etc. then the connection between the two individuals would be unhappy.
If u married at 40 years old.
U feel it like hell
yes you can make a woman happy if you can get a big hard on at your age of 40 and can give her orgasm in sex
It doesn't matter how old you are as long as you are wearing a condom and if you have kids make sure they are at school or somewhere else.
If you truly love each other and communicate that is very important to keep the lines of communication open...
Why not? you obviously waited for the right person!
Friday, January 8, 2010
Advice on choices in life how do u make the right ones when at a crossroads in life??
Toughie.
Seek out people you trust and don't have a vested interest in your outcome other than to see you happy. For example, if you are trying to decide what college to attend, sometimes parents don't make the best advocates, because they let their own desires get in the way.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Good luckAdvice on choices in life how do u make the right ones when at a crossroads in life??
HEY GIRL!!! Well,you do the best that you can,with the information that you have,that's always important.Don't you get it.....that's part of the challenge of life,the spark,the reason to get up in the mornings.You are going to do swell,because you sound bright,you know about those decsions we have to make everyday,little ones and great big ones.BE WELL SWEETS!!!!Advice on choices in life how do u make the right ones when at a crossroads in life??
Balance patience with common sense and intitution. Sit back a bit and get a clear picture of what lies ahead for each road to be taken. From there: make your best choice and good luck.
Life is hit and miss...don't waste time w/ past regrets. Positively move forward.
pray and ask god for directions you will recive the answer
Read the Bible, pray, be patient. Don't worry about making the choice, let God fo it for you.
I recommend educating yourself on what all of your options are and what the choice will mean. Then look inside yourself. Try journaling or writing down all of your thoughts, feelings, etc. regarding the choice. List the pros and cons you can see for each option. When it comes to it, though, you're still going to have to choose. Hopefully all of this prep work will make things a little easier for you.
FR
Gut feeling, is it something that means a lot to you, take a chance.Most of the time people know if they have second thoughts about something or either they don't.Weight it or the pros and cons.
Flip a coin.
I never was good at choices in my life untill i found some one i could put alot of trust in my best friend now i am always going to her for advice and she helps to keep me on the right path ask your best friend for advice it helps
Seek out people you trust and don't have a vested interest in your outcome other than to see you happy. For example, if you are trying to decide what college to attend, sometimes parents don't make the best advocates, because they let their own desires get in the way.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Good luckAdvice on choices in life how do u make the right ones when at a crossroads in life??
HEY GIRL!!! Well,you do the best that you can,with the information that you have,that's always important.Don't you get it.....that's part of the challenge of life,the spark,the reason to get up in the mornings.You are going to do swell,because you sound bright,you know about those decsions we have to make everyday,little ones and great big ones.BE WELL SWEETS!!!!Advice on choices in life how do u make the right ones when at a crossroads in life??
Balance patience with common sense and intitution. Sit back a bit and get a clear picture of what lies ahead for each road to be taken. From there: make your best choice and good luck.
Life is hit and miss...don't waste time w/ past regrets. Positively move forward.
pray and ask god for directions you will recive the answer
Read the Bible, pray, be patient. Don't worry about making the choice, let God fo it for you.
I recommend educating yourself on what all of your options are and what the choice will mean. Then look inside yourself. Try journaling or writing down all of your thoughts, feelings, etc. regarding the choice. List the pros and cons you can see for each option. When it comes to it, though, you're still going to have to choose. Hopefully all of this prep work will make things a little easier for you.
FR
Gut feeling, is it something that means a lot to you, take a chance.Most of the time people know if they have second thoughts about something or either they don't.Weight it or the pros and cons.
Flip a coin.
I never was good at choices in my life untill i found some one i could put alot of trust in my best friend now i am always going to her for advice and she helps to keep me on the right path ask your best friend for advice it helps
Life Crisis, I need some advice?
I have spent my life dreaming of being an astronaut and when i finally get a job at nasa I couldn't have been happier. The time has finally come for me to go into space but I have a problem. You see, during the last trip, one of the other astronauts came into contact with and swore allegiance to an alien overlord. I'm the only one he told. If I tell the other astronauts, they will surely cancel my trip into space, but if I don't tell, who knows what plan this other man is doing for the alien overlord. The results could be catastrophic. Do I give up my dream to possibly prevent a world calamity?Life Crisis, I need some advice?
No babe, you just keep smokin' what you're smokin'.Life Crisis, I need some advice?
No, get the alien and other astronaut drunk. Then take your magic wand and turn them into toads. Remember take your medication as the doctor prescribed.
LIAR!
Why would he ONLY tell you???
Wouldn't he be afraid YOU would tell??
And why would an astronaut be on Yahoo! answers??
Don't you have better things to do with your time?
no! i think that it is nice to follow your dream because your really wanna know how it fells when you finally reach it. You are lucky that you have reach to your dream already. I haven't yet but some day i will and i can tell you all about it bye for now.
Does NASA don't have the test for the returned astronauts...?Can't you be just dreaming...?
PLEASE SAVE THE WORLD ON SECOND THOUGHT, NEVER MIND
Go back to sleep.
This sounds serious. Here's what you should do. Don't say anything and let them send you off into space. Once you get to the space station, ask to speak with the head doctor aka Pcyh. ward doc. He/she may be able to help you. Don't try to handle this all on your own.
he probably just told you this to psych you out, don't let it get the better of you.
i think you are in finally in your way see new dream
Aparently they have comptures in mental hospitals.
Of course!!!!
You have a vivid imagination. Do something else with your life, like writing science fiction stories.
I thought people had to pass extensive psychological testing to go into space. Apparently, not. I'm just not sure which one of you shouldn't have passed. Don't try to save the world alone. Please, get some help.
Just go. But spare me and I shall serve you well. And I will help route out the resistance and help incarcerate the unruly humans for your enjoyment.
perhaps you should contact Fox Mulder at the FBI! Spooky always knows what to do!
My friend there is no live form of any kind that is in our solar system.The other astronaut was messing with you pal. Everything you see on Tv and there being life forms on mars is rediculas. Oh wait there is life forms on mars bactieria. Thats about it! Go to space have a good time enjoy the ride. If this is your life dream do it why throw it away your rollin on a ship fool go. Don't know if this is really a life crisis or just butterflies hope that helps
Is your job picking up road kill so they stop hitting vultures on the way up? I think you might have caught something from the squished vermin see the Doc ASAP!
The Overlord is but a mortal fragment of a greater universal force. It is beyond any man to assist or deter the direction of that force. Should you give up your dream for the sake of humanity, when it is humanity which will benefit from the overlord? I think not, so please enter space with the secure knowledge that no harm will come of it.
You know they send out messages into space using Dark Matter transfer and that can travel at faster than the speed of light.
And as you know we humans sense at the speed of light and the Universe has a round situation so the messages they sent out 3 day from now they are getting back today.
So anything you will do they will know about 3 days before you do it.
The trick was to be able to develop a device that can sense the messages being returned in dark matter before they are sent. Hard to understand but it works
Maybe your Alien taught them this.
The key is you have to do something that gives you more/less than that 3 day window.
Good Luck.
They can not touch me because they know I am dead anyway and will leave them alone. We made a trade. I don't bother them and they leave me alone.
RIGHT NOW ON FOX NEWS the Space Shuttle is seeing UFOs. Check it out on google news.
don't tell they'll just think you're crazy
Get a life.
Fly
if its a joke(which I know it is...)...then im not buying it....XD
if its real...do what you want to do.....XD
No, never give up your dreams! The world calamity is going to happen whether you go or not (G.W.!). The world will be o.k.!
Humanity is in for a rough ride no matter what you do.
Go be an astronaut (space case).
Happy trails!
It depends. Is this alien overlord friendly, or hostile? You might just want to be honest with the alien overlord and state your reasons for wanting to go into space. It couldn't hurt, could it?
Good luck!
No babe, you just keep smokin' what you're smokin'.Life Crisis, I need some advice?
No, get the alien and other astronaut drunk. Then take your magic wand and turn them into toads. Remember take your medication as the doctor prescribed.
LIAR!
Why would he ONLY tell you???
Wouldn't he be afraid YOU would tell??
And why would an astronaut be on Yahoo! answers??
Don't you have better things to do with your time?
no! i think that it is nice to follow your dream because your really wanna know how it fells when you finally reach it. You are lucky that you have reach to your dream already. I haven't yet but some day i will and i can tell you all about it bye for now.
Does NASA don't have the test for the returned astronauts...?Can't you be just dreaming...?
PLEASE SAVE THE WORLD ON SECOND THOUGHT, NEVER MIND
Go back to sleep.
This sounds serious. Here's what you should do. Don't say anything and let them send you off into space. Once you get to the space station, ask to speak with the head doctor aka Pcyh. ward doc. He/she may be able to help you. Don't try to handle this all on your own.
he probably just told you this to psych you out, don't let it get the better of you.
i think you are in finally in your way see new dream
Aparently they have comptures in mental hospitals.
Of course!!!!
You have a vivid imagination. Do something else with your life, like writing science fiction stories.
I thought people had to pass extensive psychological testing to go into space. Apparently, not. I'm just not sure which one of you shouldn't have passed. Don't try to save the world alone. Please, get some help.
Just go. But spare me and I shall serve you well. And I will help route out the resistance and help incarcerate the unruly humans for your enjoyment.
perhaps you should contact Fox Mulder at the FBI! Spooky always knows what to do!
My friend there is no live form of any kind that is in our solar system.The other astronaut was messing with you pal. Everything you see on Tv and there being life forms on mars is rediculas. Oh wait there is life forms on mars bactieria. Thats about it! Go to space have a good time enjoy the ride. If this is your life dream do it why throw it away your rollin on a ship fool go. Don't know if this is really a life crisis or just butterflies hope that helps
Is your job picking up road kill so they stop hitting vultures on the way up? I think you might have caught something from the squished vermin see the Doc ASAP!
The Overlord is but a mortal fragment of a greater universal force. It is beyond any man to assist or deter the direction of that force. Should you give up your dream for the sake of humanity, when it is humanity which will benefit from the overlord? I think not, so please enter space with the secure knowledge that no harm will come of it.
You know they send out messages into space using Dark Matter transfer and that can travel at faster than the speed of light.
And as you know we humans sense at the speed of light and the Universe has a round situation so the messages they sent out 3 day from now they are getting back today.
So anything you will do they will know about 3 days before you do it.
The trick was to be able to develop a device that can sense the messages being returned in dark matter before they are sent. Hard to understand but it works
Maybe your Alien taught them this.
The key is you have to do something that gives you more/less than that 3 day window.
Good Luck.
They can not touch me because they know I am dead anyway and will leave them alone. We made a trade. I don't bother them and they leave me alone.
RIGHT NOW ON FOX NEWS the Space Shuttle is seeing UFOs. Check it out on google news.
don't tell they'll just think you're crazy
Get a life.
Fly
if its a joke(which I know it is...)...then im not buying it....XD
if its real...do what you want to do.....XD
No, never give up your dreams! The world calamity is going to happen whether you go or not (G.W.!). The world will be o.k.!
Humanity is in for a rough ride no matter what you do.
Go be an astronaut (space case).
Happy trails!
It depends. Is this alien overlord friendly, or hostile? You might just want to be honest with the alien overlord and state your reasons for wanting to go into space. It couldn't hurt, could it?
Good luck!
Question involving a dissolved marriage, the love of my life and Iraq. Any advice?
I've been married to my husband for almost two years. I've been unhappy and the only one trying nearly the entire time. We will be separating in January when I can go home to my family 5 states away. There has been a severe lack of intellectual stimulation throughout, and he's been violent at times. I've been cheated on and lied to. One of my friends from highschool got stationed here, and after spending some time together he told me he's in love with me and wants to do everything he can to make sure things get better for me. This friend knows me better than almost anyone, while my husband I'm separating can't even remember I'm lactose intolerant. I honestly feel that my friend is my soulmate. He left yesterday for Iraq and will be gone 15 months. In the meantime I'm having to rebuild my life from scratch, but when he gets back he wants us to be together. My question is what are the chances I'm feeling like this just because I'm running from an abusive marriage? Please help.Question involving a dissolved marriage, the love of my life and Iraq. Any advice?
YOU ARE VULNERABLE NOW, YOU ARE.
Ivy, getting out of that hell of a marriage is good for you, but RUSHING into another engagement could be of grave consequences. No matter how long you had known your friend in high school, it was in the past; he knows you better than anyone else as you claimed, but how much of him do you know NOW? My dear, you aren't emotionally and psychologically fit to make the RIGHT choice of a life partner in your present situation NOW.
Please, get off the cage of a marriage you are now, take your time to be stable emotionally and psychologically; make friends, but don't start a relationship yet. Because, facts have proven that relationships built as a solace when heartbroken are often a fiasco. They don't satnd the test time, they are often short-termed; so, be wise my dear.
You need to build a genuine friendship for nothing less than six months or a year before you could start a relationship. Not friendship or relationship in ABSCENTIAL. And I tell you, it will be difficult for you to make the wrong choice then because you'll have been much stronger. Be wise my dear,YOU ARE VERY VULNERABLE NOW.
On the whole, pray hard before taking your next step, it could MAR or MAKE your marital status for a lifetime.Question involving a dissolved marriage, the love of my life and Iraq. Any advice?
1st run from the abuse!!!! Second take the 15 months seriously and rebuild yourself and keep in touch w/this friend the 15 months may help you realize what you really want is right in front of you or maybe not---GOOD LUCK =)
If you're not happy and are being abused, then move on. Perhaps while he is away, it is the best time to do so, if you two can't do it in a civil manner.
I'd be careful on getting into a rebound relationship. While it sucks to be alone, be careful how you approach your new man. You make your husband sound like a big jerk and the new guy ';perfect.'; Remember, something attracted you to your husband in the first place. It may be gone, and you want to move on, but is this new guy the knight in shining armor you make him out to be?
While it's nice to follow your heart, be sure to think with your head.
If you want the disso, then get it, but move slow before you jump into a new relationship. If the new guy is really into you (and is not just about getting into your pants), then he will be willing to give you time and space to get over your current situation first.
15 Months will be a good test! Get out now and get yourself healthy in those 15 months!
it looks like your mind is made up to leave your husband in January ... and with your friend away for 15 months id say use that time to find yourself and what you want out of life , its sad to see a marriage end but if you have tried everything to make it work but it still hasnt ... then take a deep breath and move on ... abuse is a very bad thing to have to deal with , but dont let your friend become a crutch , get out in the world and decide what you want to do , rather it be get a job in a field that you like or go back to school ... take time for you and if you want write back and forth to your friend but you may need to tell him you are not ready for commitment so soon after leaving your husband ... give yourself time to heal after the divorce before jumping into another relationship ... good luck .
You'll know if it's meant to be in 15 months. Take it slow and don't jump into a serious relationship right away. Everyone seems to rush into marriage these days and in the end it pays to wait.
Spend the 15 months he is gone getting your life straightened out and getting yourself on your feet. Definately file for divorce as soon as possible.
Keep in close touch with your friend. When he comes back to the U.S., try dating and see where it goes.
Yes, you could be feeling this way due to rebound. However, it could also be the real thing. I had a miserable first marriage when I was 19 because I had dated him since 16 and we had a child together. I thought getting married was the right thing to do at the time. By the time I was 24, I knew it was over and I wanted out. I met a wonderful guy and we just clicked. I finally left my ex, got divorced and married my Mr. Right. We've been together for nearly 8 years and married for nearly 6 of those years.
I worried it might be rebound, but it turns out that I had just gotten lucky enough to find my perfect mate.
the bad marriage has a little to do with it. you like feeling appreciated and respected. Something you haven't felt in a long time. Just take things slow and you will know for sure how you really feel after him being gone for 15 months. Plus that gives you time to focus on you. be strong and don't worry. God has a plan for you.baby sunscreen
YOU ARE VULNERABLE NOW, YOU ARE.
Ivy, getting out of that hell of a marriage is good for you, but RUSHING into another engagement could be of grave consequences. No matter how long you had known your friend in high school, it was in the past; he knows you better than anyone else as you claimed, but how much of him do you know NOW? My dear, you aren't emotionally and psychologically fit to make the RIGHT choice of a life partner in your present situation NOW.
Please, get off the cage of a marriage you are now, take your time to be stable emotionally and psychologically; make friends, but don't start a relationship yet. Because, facts have proven that relationships built as a solace when heartbroken are often a fiasco. They don't satnd the test time, they are often short-termed; so, be wise my dear.
You need to build a genuine friendship for nothing less than six months or a year before you could start a relationship. Not friendship or relationship in ABSCENTIAL. And I tell you, it will be difficult for you to make the wrong choice then because you'll have been much stronger. Be wise my dear,YOU ARE VERY VULNERABLE NOW.
On the whole, pray hard before taking your next step, it could MAR or MAKE your marital status for a lifetime.Question involving a dissolved marriage, the love of my life and Iraq. Any advice?
1st run from the abuse!!!! Second take the 15 months seriously and rebuild yourself and keep in touch w/this friend the 15 months may help you realize what you really want is right in front of you or maybe not---GOOD LUCK =)
If you're not happy and are being abused, then move on. Perhaps while he is away, it is the best time to do so, if you two can't do it in a civil manner.
I'd be careful on getting into a rebound relationship. While it sucks to be alone, be careful how you approach your new man. You make your husband sound like a big jerk and the new guy ';perfect.'; Remember, something attracted you to your husband in the first place. It may be gone, and you want to move on, but is this new guy the knight in shining armor you make him out to be?
While it's nice to follow your heart, be sure to think with your head.
If you want the disso, then get it, but move slow before you jump into a new relationship. If the new guy is really into you (and is not just about getting into your pants), then he will be willing to give you time and space to get over your current situation first.
15 Months will be a good test! Get out now and get yourself healthy in those 15 months!
it looks like your mind is made up to leave your husband in January ... and with your friend away for 15 months id say use that time to find yourself and what you want out of life , its sad to see a marriage end but if you have tried everything to make it work but it still hasnt ... then take a deep breath and move on ... abuse is a very bad thing to have to deal with , but dont let your friend become a crutch , get out in the world and decide what you want to do , rather it be get a job in a field that you like or go back to school ... take time for you and if you want write back and forth to your friend but you may need to tell him you are not ready for commitment so soon after leaving your husband ... give yourself time to heal after the divorce before jumping into another relationship ... good luck .
You'll know if it's meant to be in 15 months. Take it slow and don't jump into a serious relationship right away. Everyone seems to rush into marriage these days and in the end it pays to wait.
Spend the 15 months he is gone getting your life straightened out and getting yourself on your feet. Definately file for divorce as soon as possible.
Keep in close touch with your friend. When he comes back to the U.S., try dating and see where it goes.
Yes, you could be feeling this way due to rebound. However, it could also be the real thing. I had a miserable first marriage when I was 19 because I had dated him since 16 and we had a child together. I thought getting married was the right thing to do at the time. By the time I was 24, I knew it was over and I wanted out. I met a wonderful guy and we just clicked. I finally left my ex, got divorced and married my Mr. Right. We've been together for nearly 8 years and married for nearly 6 of those years.
I worried it might be rebound, but it turns out that I had just gotten lucky enough to find my perfect mate.
the bad marriage has a little to do with it. you like feeling appreciated and respected. Something you haven't felt in a long time. Just take things slow and you will know for sure how you really feel after him being gone for 15 months. Plus that gives you time to focus on you. be strong and don't worry. God has a plan for you.
Any advice..for this bad life?
I don't know why I'm not happy in this life,almost everything is good but I don't feel good I feel that I don't have anything because I don't see my friends and my life without any love is very empty..please any advice.I want to be happy,but I can't... Sometimes I feel that I have to change everything in my life,to be other human.I feel very bad help...Any advice..for this bad life?
i feel the same way to someday but i know this will sound wrong to some people but i smoke weed and turn to music and i have to say it works hope this helps you out and try the bible there mint be something in there that may help you out and for some people out there that's reads this i do not use the bible papers for rolling papers i use a bongAny advice..for this bad life?
Don't Worry...Be Happy!
Depression can make you feel all these things and worse. Please, do not wait, see your doctor today. There are chemical imbalances in the brain that can cause these horrible feelings, getting them regulated is a large step in the right direction. It will help and you are not alone.
Call your doctor... now!
Zoloft?
Maybe if you be nice and think positive thoughts than you will get more chances to do things in life or if this is all about fiends you should see them more and not bag on yourself as much. Hope this helped!!!!
Gina
from experience id say u need to wee ur gp, u could easily have mild depression and its dead common, the not feeling part of something and feeling almost home sick wen ur home its hard to explain, but it sounds extreme but anti depressants will make u much happier, i was on them for 6 months and im better than i ever have been!! lifes too short to be down go get it sorted
u know... the problem lies in the term ';love';. its the most grossly misunderstood n misinterpreted word.
v think love is only between a girl n boy.
its not that, feel love for ur fnds,for a pet, for a stray animal,for ur neighbour,for nature,for God...
if u really feel helpless, help others.
find an NGO nearby, spend time with children there.
They need more love than you.give them that.
find ur smile in ders, find ur smile in ur good health,
find ur smile in God, find ur smile in rains, find ur smile in a stranger..... :)
itz ok i hav felt that way many a times b4.....and it hurts. try getting involved with your community, like picking up trash at a local park, making a meal for a home-bound neighbor, or walking dogs at the animal shelter. it really makes you feel good when you make others feel good ;)
also, turn to the Biblke for help. God has a lot of encouraging words in there, including stories. dont smoke weed. itz wrong. jest dont!
i feel the same way to someday but i know this will sound wrong to some people but i smoke weed and turn to music and i have to say it works hope this helps you out and try the bible there mint be something in there that may help you out and for some people out there that's reads this i do not use the bible papers for rolling papers i use a bongAny advice..for this bad life?
Don't Worry...Be Happy!
Depression can make you feel all these things and worse. Please, do not wait, see your doctor today. There are chemical imbalances in the brain that can cause these horrible feelings, getting them regulated is a large step in the right direction. It will help and you are not alone.
Call your doctor... now!
Zoloft?
Maybe if you be nice and think positive thoughts than you will get more chances to do things in life or if this is all about fiends you should see them more and not bag on yourself as much. Hope this helped!!!!
Gina
from experience id say u need to wee ur gp, u could easily have mild depression and its dead common, the not feeling part of something and feeling almost home sick wen ur home its hard to explain, but it sounds extreme but anti depressants will make u much happier, i was on them for 6 months and im better than i ever have been!! lifes too short to be down go get it sorted
u know... the problem lies in the term ';love';. its the most grossly misunderstood n misinterpreted word.
v think love is only between a girl n boy.
its not that, feel love for ur fnds,for a pet, for a stray animal,for ur neighbour,for nature,for God...
if u really feel helpless, help others.
find an NGO nearby, spend time with children there.
They need more love than you.give them that.
find ur smile in ders, find ur smile in ur good health,
find ur smile in God, find ur smile in rains, find ur smile in a stranger..... :)
itz ok i hav felt that way many a times b4.....and it hurts. try getting involved with your community, like picking up trash at a local park, making a meal for a home-bound neighbor, or walking dogs at the animal shelter. it really makes you feel good when you make others feel good ;)
also, turn to the Biblke for help. God has a lot of encouraging words in there, including stories. dont smoke weed. itz wrong. jest dont!
Question for christians- How do i live a christian life? what is your advice?
I believe in what the bible says but i am having trouble living the way i am supposed to as a christian.. i stuff up every single day and i am not going to fool myself into thinking that simply believing in jesus and not doing anything about it will save me.
You would think knowing this would make me clean up my act but it feels a lot harder than it sounds, sure i ask for forgiveness but whats the point if i just go out and do the same thing again?..
Any advice on living like i am supposed to?Question for christians- How do i live a christian life? what is your advice?
All of us sin until the day we die. That is why we need the salvation of Jesus. Remember you are a work in progress. You will continue to be refined until you are how God needs you to be. Submit to His will, listen to your heart, pray for guidance, and do your best to live a righteuos life. When you find yourself doing something you feel is wrong, pray about it and strive to be better. Don't be discouraged by moments of weakness, learn from them and pray about them. Don't think that God does not care if you have some problems you can't shake right away. Even the Apostle Paul had a ';thorn in his side'; that God refused to remove. Paul had to learn to live with this affliction (whatever it was) and continue down the right path.Question for christians- How do i live a christian life? what is your advice?
Pray everyday, read the bible, limit your sin.
Live everyday as if Jesus were coming
read what Jesus taught .. His actual words, and apply them ... love yor enemies, dont return evil for evil, dont judge .. so on .. i like the limit your sin idea Captain haha ((((hugs)))
But, it is true that simply believing in Jesus is what gets you into heaven. Salvation is a free gift. You cannot add your works or efforts to Jesus's PERFECT salvation. If you try to add works, then you have a false gospel of works that cannot save you (Galatians 1:6-9).
You're not saved yet.
All saved believers are still sinners. Stop fighting it.
Jesus paid for ALL SINS past, present, and future. Jesus paid for them all on the cross
Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus alone to save you! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
This is from someone still renewing their mind to understand God's salvation, I haven't yet fully moved into these things, but am beginning to understand.
';Justification by faith'; was a truth somewhat neglected that Luther and other protestant reformers brought forward.
But that's just Romans 3.
The Romans letter according to Paul was about salvation, which was by faith from first to last.
Romans 5-8 are about sanctification by faith.
*Romans 5 gives us what we have positionally been given. The ability to ';reign in life'; by being in ';Christ';(new humanity) as opposed to being in ';Adam'; (fallen humanity).
*Romans 6 is about us needing to reckon that our old self died with Christ, and that we were given new life in identification with Christ. If we have faith in that we get sanctified by the Holy Spirit. But by leanring what is right we become more like Christ as time passes.
*Romans 7 gives what is often our experience, in that we can see the ';justification by faith'; idea easily after conversion, but not usually the sanctification by faith. Its also a true comment on noble people striving to do good in other religions.
*Romans 8 declares the triumph as we live according to the law of the Spirit of life as opposed to the law of sin and death. Basically by grace we are given victory over the recalcitrant tendencies of our souls (our spirits get born again, but our souls need the ongoing help of the Holy Spirit to attain to a truly good life). This is through faith as said in Romans 6.
There is also something called the baptism in the Holy Spirit. I've been very close to the Spirit at times, but haven't yet received this, I now think. Basically you get supercharged with God's power to do ministry to other believers and the lost world, and get to experience the fullness of God's love and grace.
As to good teaching on these things, here's some:
On the full faith meaning and baptism in the Holy Spirit I've learnt a lot from some early pentecostals, reading some articles in copies of Latter Rain Evangel magazine (free to view http://ifphc.org) from about 1910 ! Also John G. Lake's writings. The chinese christians Watchman Nee and Witness Lee also teach about this, but I didn't like their presentation. Also this site is good - www.bible-knowledge.com
You would think knowing this would make me clean up my act but it feels a lot harder than it sounds, sure i ask for forgiveness but whats the point if i just go out and do the same thing again?..
Any advice on living like i am supposed to?Question for christians- How do i live a christian life? what is your advice?
All of us sin until the day we die. That is why we need the salvation of Jesus. Remember you are a work in progress. You will continue to be refined until you are how God needs you to be. Submit to His will, listen to your heart, pray for guidance, and do your best to live a righteuos life. When you find yourself doing something you feel is wrong, pray about it and strive to be better. Don't be discouraged by moments of weakness, learn from them and pray about them. Don't think that God does not care if you have some problems you can't shake right away. Even the Apostle Paul had a ';thorn in his side'; that God refused to remove. Paul had to learn to live with this affliction (whatever it was) and continue down the right path.Question for christians- How do i live a christian life? what is your advice?
Pray everyday, read the bible, limit your sin.
Live everyday as if Jesus were coming
read what Jesus taught .. His actual words, and apply them ... love yor enemies, dont return evil for evil, dont judge .. so on .. i like the limit your sin idea Captain haha ((((hugs)))
But, it is true that simply believing in Jesus is what gets you into heaven. Salvation is a free gift. You cannot add your works or efforts to Jesus's PERFECT salvation. If you try to add works, then you have a false gospel of works that cannot save you (Galatians 1:6-9).
You're not saved yet.
All saved believers are still sinners. Stop fighting it.
Jesus paid for ALL SINS past, present, and future. Jesus paid for them all on the cross
Jesus loves you so very much! :D
Salvation is a FREE GIFT that happens in a split second when you believe in Jesus alone to save you! It is impossible to lose or ';leave'; salvation (John 6:39-40, 1 John 5:13).
The truth about Jesus is that the only way to be saved and to get into heaven and avoid being sent to eternal hell, is by believing in faith alone that Jesus, who is God, died for our sins on the cross as FULL PAYMENT for all our sins, and then Jesus rose from the dead (1 Corinthians 15:1-4). Believe this and you will be in heaven, no matter what!
Please pray now: ';Jesus, please forgive me of my sins. I believe that You died on the cross for my sins and You rose from the dead. Thank You for eternal life!'; You will be in heaven with Him forever when you die. :)
This is from someone still renewing their mind to understand God's salvation, I haven't yet fully moved into these things, but am beginning to understand.
';Justification by faith'; was a truth somewhat neglected that Luther and other protestant reformers brought forward.
But that's just Romans 3.
The Romans letter according to Paul was about salvation, which was by faith from first to last.
Romans 5-8 are about sanctification by faith.
*Romans 5 gives us what we have positionally been given. The ability to ';reign in life'; by being in ';Christ';(new humanity) as opposed to being in ';Adam'; (fallen humanity).
*Romans 6 is about us needing to reckon that our old self died with Christ, and that we were given new life in identification with Christ. If we have faith in that we get sanctified by the Holy Spirit. But by leanring what is right we become more like Christ as time passes.
*Romans 7 gives what is often our experience, in that we can see the ';justification by faith'; idea easily after conversion, but not usually the sanctification by faith. Its also a true comment on noble people striving to do good in other religions.
*Romans 8 declares the triumph as we live according to the law of the Spirit of life as opposed to the law of sin and death. Basically by grace we are given victory over the recalcitrant tendencies of our souls (our spirits get born again, but our souls need the ongoing help of the Holy Spirit to attain to a truly good life). This is through faith as said in Romans 6.
There is also something called the baptism in the Holy Spirit. I've been very close to the Spirit at times, but haven't yet received this, I now think. Basically you get supercharged with God's power to do ministry to other believers and the lost world, and get to experience the fullness of God's love and grace.
As to good teaching on these things, here's some:
On the full faith meaning and baptism in the Holy Spirit I've learnt a lot from some early pentecostals, reading some articles in copies of Latter Rain Evangel magazine (free to view http://ifphc.org) from about 1910 ! Also John G. Lake's writings. The chinese christians Watchman Nee and Witness Lee also teach about this, but I didn't like their presentation. Also this site is good - www.bible-knowledge.com
Need advice for my married life...? serious people please?
i m living a 4 years old married life now a days my wife quarrel so much on financial issues, yesterday we had a very harsh argument just because i spent 1000 bucks last month without telling her.Need advice for my married life...? serious people please?
You spent a thousand dollars without talking it over with her???? She should have been mad at you then! That is a BIG NO-NO!Need advice for my married life...? serious people please?
If you guys are trying to save money for some reason than you should have consulted with her 1st before you spent it.
$1000 and you didn't tell her? You and I would have had MORE than a harsh argument. I'd have kicked your a$$. I'm definitely with her on that one.
it would depend on what my husband bought or did, we don't really argue about finances, but no, I would be ticked off about $1000.
Is that a lot of money for you two? If so, then it's something you should consult her with before spending. It's a courtesy that will keep the quarrels to a minimum. What did you spend the cash on?
Everyone quarrels over money. It is true! Sit down and try to have a calm conversation and make out a budget on what needs to be paid and the money you have to play with for luxury. Split the luxury money down the middle and that will be your share. That way there is no complaint on what you spent YOUR amount on. It would be you choice. If things are out of hand take a breather from life. You both go away to a remote place..separate and sort out your thoughts. Good luck.
I think you need to apologize. Marriage is sharing everything. Try to talk %26amp; tell her that you dont like her late behaviour of arguing on everything try to solve this %26amp; do your best to save your couple.
Wish you all the best
If you keep going the way your going I see divorce in your future. What would you spend a grand on? If you thought you were doing the right thing you would have told your wife. Better start comunicating or you won't have a wife. The 2 biggest things that break up any marrage is #1 sex and #2 money.
JUST 1k....well considering i dont know what you are raking in as a monthly income, and dont know if you have a lot of bills, or kids, i dont know whether you have that kind of money to blow. If you do have money to blow, then maybe she is a control freak and you need to sit down and discuss that with her. If you have other obligations and responsibilities such as kids, or a lot of bills, then you should not be recklessly splurging on things you dont need. I noticed you didnt mentino what you baught. That has a lot to do with it too. Did you buy a washer and dryer bc yours was broken?? Or a play station with 12 games. Women like responsible and reliable men. I guarentee you she is trying to build stability, a safty net with the money she is trying to save, just bc it is in there doesnt mean you need to spend it. also, is your wife a spender??? I believe (being married myself) that you should set some boundaries, that way the line is never crossed. You should decide on an ammount to discuss with your spouse that is an ';asking ammount'; like anything over 100$ we ask eachother, that way the other one isnt spending the same ammount if that is all you have in the account andyou go under. It is about boundaries, respect, and the fact that you include her in what you decide on, a lot of that fight i guarentee you had nothing to do with the money, it was that you didnt ask her, she wants to be included. A women will use a topic to argue about something that really means something to her, with hidden messages inside, for some reason women expect men to read between the lines and catch on, but they dont, so women need to work on that. But back to the point.....you were wrong, ask before you spend large ammounts!!
GL
Dunkaroo
Look if you don't really have a extra $1ooo.oo to spend then she has a good reason to be mad. And if your and her agreement is that you discuss your financial with each other and you didn't she has right to be mad too. So own up to it. You need to read proper care of marriage by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger and both of you need to read it.
I just have one question. How would you respond if she went to the mall, and came home with $1000 worth the merchandise, and didn't say a word to you about it?
I think it's fair when you're married for you BOTH to discuss money, especially if you're going to spend that amount of money.
Whatever is hers is yours,whatever is yours is hers.SO i would tell her next time you go spending your guys's Money. WHAT did you BUy??
';Just because you have spent 1000 bucks';? I am not quite sure I understand your question. How much money are you making that makes a 1000 bucks worth hardly anything to you? For most people that does represent something and doing your own business on your own may not be the best way to share life with your wife. Does she spend the same amounts freely without you knowing? Would you mind her doing that and would your finances cope with this?
Guess you forgot the question part but if your going to spend money why not tell her. And tell her your going to spend it anyway but your just letting her know about it. You and her need to talk and both of you'll need to agree on letting the other know when your going to spend a set amount of money and why? Also need to set up a budget and make sure it's done first before spending extra money. But without communication you and her will always agrue. So both of you'll sit down and discuss the situation together, without yelling or fighting because it isn't helping anything.
What did you spend the money on and why didn't you tell her?
I'm not sure I believe this is a serious question. I find it hard to believe that anyone would be surprised that their spouse was upset that they spend $1000 - Unless you're rich or something.
I'd have a freakin coronary if my husband spent that much on himself without telling me. If you consistently spend your money like this, I'm not at all surprised that you argue about it a lot. Your wife has a lot to be pissed at you about.
well everyone argues over issues weather married or not.But you should have told her that because the marriage and everything that comes with it is part of both of you,You can't do anything with out asking your partner especially about money.
You spent $1000 without telling your wife, and you wonder why your having problems?? For starters, spend less money..(unless you spent it on bills or some payment). And tell your wife if your going to spend an amount like that! That is a lot of money...if I was her I'd be pretty mad too. Try marraige counseling. good luck
Why on God's green earth would you spend that much money without discussing it with our partner. I think that you do not have any respect for her, and she will be better off without you.
Well your first mistake was spending that kind of money without her knowledge. You should know by now that you have no mine money everything is shared so when you spend money like this and do not tell her she feels you are stealing from the financial structure of the household.
Really you need to stop keeping secrets from your wife everything must be communicated together as a couple
especially finances. When you marry having seperate accounts is just not right you have a joint account and everything that is spent is discussed first. If I were her I would take your head off too a grand is no small amount of cash.
Dude never spend money without telling. Because if you have finacial issues than you can be spending money like that. Im 12 and i know this....you should toooooo!
Your wife doesn't want collectors knocking at her door repossessing her life because you overspend. It is quite obvious YOU should not have gotten married. You have no sense of responsiblity.
Open up the communication and you wont have this problem. By the way I would love to be able to say that I spent 1000 dollars without telling anyone, making it seem like it wasnt a big deal.
The point is that you did something she obviously has a control issue with, which usually women are the ones that have that problem. They just want to be notified so that if something happens and needs immediate attention, she knows she has the money available.
you both need to agree on what money is being spent over 20 bucks. there's probably been some well she does this and so I'm going to do that. Don't do it. provide an example and you both will stop.
you should never spend money until consulting your other half. of course that would lead to an argument. what if she did that, you would be pissed. put your tail between your legs and apologize. and talk it out before spending money like that again.
The crunch is getting to us all . Don't worry be happy.
So what would you like us to tell you? Spend less money? Make more money? What do you need help with?
You spent a thousand dollars without talking it over with her???? She should have been mad at you then! That is a BIG NO-NO!Need advice for my married life...? serious people please?
If you guys are trying to save money for some reason than you should have consulted with her 1st before you spent it.
$1000 and you didn't tell her? You and I would have had MORE than a harsh argument. I'd have kicked your a$$. I'm definitely with her on that one.
it would depend on what my husband bought or did, we don't really argue about finances, but no, I would be ticked off about $1000.
Is that a lot of money for you two? If so, then it's something you should consult her with before spending. It's a courtesy that will keep the quarrels to a minimum. What did you spend the cash on?
Everyone quarrels over money. It is true! Sit down and try to have a calm conversation and make out a budget on what needs to be paid and the money you have to play with for luxury. Split the luxury money down the middle and that will be your share. That way there is no complaint on what you spent YOUR amount on. It would be you choice. If things are out of hand take a breather from life. You both go away to a remote place..separate and sort out your thoughts. Good luck.
I think you need to apologize. Marriage is sharing everything. Try to talk %26amp; tell her that you dont like her late behaviour of arguing on everything try to solve this %26amp; do your best to save your couple.
Wish you all the best
If you keep going the way your going I see divorce in your future. What would you spend a grand on? If you thought you were doing the right thing you would have told your wife. Better start comunicating or you won't have a wife. The 2 biggest things that break up any marrage is #1 sex and #2 money.
JUST 1k....well considering i dont know what you are raking in as a monthly income, and dont know if you have a lot of bills, or kids, i dont know whether you have that kind of money to blow. If you do have money to blow, then maybe she is a control freak and you need to sit down and discuss that with her. If you have other obligations and responsibilities such as kids, or a lot of bills, then you should not be recklessly splurging on things you dont need. I noticed you didnt mentino what you baught. That has a lot to do with it too. Did you buy a washer and dryer bc yours was broken?? Or a play station with 12 games. Women like responsible and reliable men. I guarentee you she is trying to build stability, a safty net with the money she is trying to save, just bc it is in there doesnt mean you need to spend it. also, is your wife a spender??? I believe (being married myself) that you should set some boundaries, that way the line is never crossed. You should decide on an ammount to discuss with your spouse that is an ';asking ammount'; like anything over 100$ we ask eachother, that way the other one isnt spending the same ammount if that is all you have in the account andyou go under. It is about boundaries, respect, and the fact that you include her in what you decide on, a lot of that fight i guarentee you had nothing to do with the money, it was that you didnt ask her, she wants to be included. A women will use a topic to argue about something that really means something to her, with hidden messages inside, for some reason women expect men to read between the lines and catch on, but they dont, so women need to work on that. But back to the point.....you were wrong, ask before you spend large ammounts!!
GL
Dunkaroo
Look if you don't really have a extra $1ooo.oo to spend then she has a good reason to be mad. And if your and her agreement is that you discuss your financial with each other and you didn't she has right to be mad too. So own up to it. You need to read proper care of marriage by Dr. Laura C. Schlessinger and both of you need to read it.
I just have one question. How would you respond if she went to the mall, and came home with $1000 worth the merchandise, and didn't say a word to you about it?
I think it's fair when you're married for you BOTH to discuss money, especially if you're going to spend that amount of money.
Whatever is hers is yours,whatever is yours is hers.SO i would tell her next time you go spending your guys's Money. WHAT did you BUy??
';Just because you have spent 1000 bucks';? I am not quite sure I understand your question. How much money are you making that makes a 1000 bucks worth hardly anything to you? For most people that does represent something and doing your own business on your own may not be the best way to share life with your wife. Does she spend the same amounts freely without you knowing? Would you mind her doing that and would your finances cope with this?
Guess you forgot the question part but if your going to spend money why not tell her. And tell her your going to spend it anyway but your just letting her know about it. You and her need to talk and both of you'll need to agree on letting the other know when your going to spend a set amount of money and why? Also need to set up a budget and make sure it's done first before spending extra money. But without communication you and her will always agrue. So both of you'll sit down and discuss the situation together, without yelling or fighting because it isn't helping anything.
What did you spend the money on and why didn't you tell her?
I'm not sure I believe this is a serious question. I find it hard to believe that anyone would be surprised that their spouse was upset that they spend $1000 - Unless you're rich or something.
I'd have a freakin coronary if my husband spent that much on himself without telling me. If you consistently spend your money like this, I'm not at all surprised that you argue about it a lot. Your wife has a lot to be pissed at you about.
well everyone argues over issues weather married or not.But you should have told her that because the marriage and everything that comes with it is part of both of you,You can't do anything with out asking your partner especially about money.
You spent $1000 without telling your wife, and you wonder why your having problems?? For starters, spend less money..(unless you spent it on bills or some payment). And tell your wife if your going to spend an amount like that! That is a lot of money...if I was her I'd be pretty mad too. Try marraige counseling. good luck
Why on God's green earth would you spend that much money without discussing it with our partner. I think that you do not have any respect for her, and she will be better off without you.
Well your first mistake was spending that kind of money without her knowledge. You should know by now that you have no mine money everything is shared so when you spend money like this and do not tell her she feels you are stealing from the financial structure of the household.
Really you need to stop keeping secrets from your wife everything must be communicated together as a couple
especially finances. When you marry having seperate accounts is just not right you have a joint account and everything that is spent is discussed first. If I were her I would take your head off too a grand is no small amount of cash.
Dude never spend money without telling. Because if you have finacial issues than you can be spending money like that. Im 12 and i know this....you should toooooo!
Your wife doesn't want collectors knocking at her door repossessing her life because you overspend. It is quite obvious YOU should not have gotten married. You have no sense of responsiblity.
Open up the communication and you wont have this problem. By the way I would love to be able to say that I spent 1000 dollars without telling anyone, making it seem like it wasnt a big deal.
The point is that you did something she obviously has a control issue with, which usually women are the ones that have that problem. They just want to be notified so that if something happens and needs immediate attention, she knows she has the money available.
you both need to agree on what money is being spent over 20 bucks. there's probably been some well she does this and so I'm going to do that. Don't do it. provide an example and you both will stop.
you should never spend money until consulting your other half. of course that would lead to an argument. what if she did that, you would be pissed. put your tail between your legs and apologize. and talk it out before spending money like that again.
The crunch is getting to us all . Don't worry be happy.
So what would you like us to tell you? Spend less money? Make more money? What do you need help with?
I need advice for newborn twins and a 20 month old, any suggestions to make life a bit easier, please...?
the only thing i can suggest is organization and the realization that u r only human and can only do so much ! while caring 4 ur twins make sure ur 20mnth old has something to keep them amused ( drawing, colouring, a special toy ) it's very difficult with twins and other children. or you could get your 20 mnth old involved in the care of the twins: getting mum the nappies or nappie wipes, helping with bathtime by getting the soap ready or the washers . even though 20 mnths is still very young by this age they also want your praise and attention .....this way they get your praise because they are helping mummy and they get to understand that once the babies are cared for then the older child can spend a lil time with mum .... if they help it gets done quicker and they get mums cuddles sooner .I need advice for newborn twins and a 20 month old, any suggestions to make life a bit easier, please...?
It sounds like you need help. Call on family and friends and try to keep the kids on a schedule as much as possible. This is a hectic time for you no matter what.
Maybe someone could keep the 20 month old for a few hours a day a few times a week.I need advice for newborn twins and a 20 month old, any suggestions to make life a bit easier, please...?
hire a nanny if at all possible.
It sounds like you need help. Call on family and friends and try to keep the kids on a schedule as much as possible. This is a hectic time for you no matter what.
Maybe someone could keep the 20 month old for a few hours a day a few times a week.I need advice for newborn twins and a 20 month old, any suggestions to make life a bit easier, please...?
hire a nanny if at all possible.
I need advice, my boyfriend is trying to run my life.?
My bf is 71 I'm 26. I'm a college senior and I want to finish school. I also want to have a career. My bf doesn't want me to do either. He wants me to stay home with him all the time. What should I do?I need advice, my boyfriend is trying to run my life.?
';My bf is 71';
Wait whatI need advice, my boyfriend is trying to run my life.?
I think you should dump him and find someone about your age because he is like 71 and sooner or later he will die so is better to let him go and if you continue to be with him then tell him you dn't want to stay home and get a career and if he said no dump him
71?! well if you love him i say who cares
do what YOU want to do...don't let him control you...how will you live without a job? i say dump 'im
okay the 1st guy is really stupid...the girls should never have to do what the guy wants...thats stupid
The girl is ALWAYS supposed to do as the guy says. Stay at home with him and service him in any way that he demands.
Dump his old ***
';My bf is 71';
Wait whatI need advice, my boyfriend is trying to run my life.?
I think you should dump him and find someone about your age because he is like 71 and sooner or later he will die so is better to let him go and if you continue to be with him then tell him you dn't want to stay home and get a career and if he said no dump him
71?! well if you love him i say who cares
do what YOU want to do...don't let him control you...how will you live without a job? i say dump 'im
okay the 1st guy is really stupid...the girls should never have to do what the guy wants...thats stupid
The girl is ALWAYS supposed to do as the guy says. Stay at home with him and service him in any way that he demands.
Dump his old ***
Why am I so good at giving advice on answers when I can't even run my own life?
LOL! About 75% of the people here can make this statement.Why am I so good at giving advice on answers when I can't even run my own life?
It is easy to glance into people's lives here on Yahoo! answers and give them advice, but it is much harder to look at the situations you are in and think about it objectively. That's why you ask other people for their advice, so you have different perspectives from people not so involved.Why am I so good at giving advice on answers when I can't even run my own life?
I agree with butterfly. WAY easier to look at someone else's problems objectively, because you're not so emotionally involved. You have no real stake in someone else's issues, other than being a fellow human being, so your head would be more clear to answer their questions. I SO totally love this section of Yahoo!
coz u get 2 points...
I have wondered myself why I dont take my own advise sometimes. I've given some pretty good info that I sometimes think i shoould apply to my own life. But it's always easier to tell someone else than to do yourself....Like to tell a child on their first day of school...';Dont be nervous..'; Yeah, easy for us to say, we arent going, right?....
Who said your so good? You have never received best answer.
THIS UR problem . try to be more serious and imagine urslf at age of 60 without doing anything to make urself
It is easier to observe and state then it is to live.baby sunscreen
It is easy to glance into people's lives here on Yahoo! answers and give them advice, but it is much harder to look at the situations you are in and think about it objectively. That's why you ask other people for their advice, so you have different perspectives from people not so involved.Why am I so good at giving advice on answers when I can't even run my own life?
I agree with butterfly. WAY easier to look at someone else's problems objectively, because you're not so emotionally involved. You have no real stake in someone else's issues, other than being a fellow human being, so your head would be more clear to answer their questions. I SO totally love this section of Yahoo!
coz u get 2 points...
I have wondered myself why I dont take my own advise sometimes. I've given some pretty good info that I sometimes think i shoould apply to my own life. But it's always easier to tell someone else than to do yourself....Like to tell a child on their first day of school...';Dont be nervous..'; Yeah, easy for us to say, we arent going, right?....
Who said your so good? You have never received best answer.
THIS UR problem . try to be more serious and imagine urslf at age of 60 without doing anything to make urself
It is easier to observe and state then it is to live.
HELP! guys or girls i need some advice! please on life right not. heres whats goin on. . . . .?
ok well im 14 and well a while ago i went to the movies with a guy and i ended up likeing him alot. at first he liked me back. Then he started growing distnt. he made this thing up that he doesnt text anyone ever first. (he hold to it) and now all he likes to do is talk bout sex. and i do it. but i really wnat him to come over and like but he wants stuff. (you know) and idk wat to do. ive tryed to forget bout him but its proving to be difficlut. And did i mention im 14 and hes 18? is that badd?????HELP! guys or girls i need some advice! please on life right not. heres whats goin on. . . . .?
Gay or not - YOU'RE 14 AND SHOULDN'T BE HAVING SEX!HELP! guys or girls i need some advice! please on life right not. heres whats goin on. . . . .?
My best advice is to talk to an adult in your life whom you respect, hopefully your parents. When you're only 14, there's a lot you don't know and it is wise to go to your parents for help.
whatever your sexuality preference is....
14yrs[you] %26amp; 18yrs[him] umm that's illegal.
plus eww no way, perves like that are not worthy.
you deserve better!
He is a loser, so please run. He ';wants things'; because you are making yourself available. It is illegal, and NOT a good thing to do. Stop talking to him.
Yes, that is bad. He probably only wanted sex to begin with , you are too young. If you're going to be having sex at least do it with someone your own age.
wait your 14 and gay ?!
whoaaa lmaoo??
you're a kid in a gay relationship with an adult? does that even sound right????
you need to find a good woman
Hey it happens, to be turthfully it is normal for someone of 13 or 14 to test being gay or having feeling for the same sex, I did and I ended up liking males better ( women are nuts), mostly because its something you are more use to then girls vis the '; hanging with fellows '; movement. But I would ask you to wait on having sex or whatever you would like to call it, because you don't seem to be sure about, you guys seem like close buddies and that can be mistaken as sexal feelings when really its just something yourself need to attach too.
AND top it all, AND THIS IS A BIG ONE: 'kid, he's 18, that is know a rape and he shouldn't be taking the youthfully feelings you are having and using it for he's own sick demands. And by the look of it ( and I would know its happened to me before ) thats what he's doing.trust me it will be hard to forget him but you'll be happier in the long run.
if you need someone to talk about it add me to your yahoo.
Nick: Dreamdragongirl
or
Msn Nick: Dragoongirl@hotmail.com
are you gay?
Gay or not - YOU'RE 14 AND SHOULDN'T BE HAVING SEX!HELP! guys or girls i need some advice! please on life right not. heres whats goin on. . . . .?
My best advice is to talk to an adult in your life whom you respect, hopefully your parents. When you're only 14, there's a lot you don't know and it is wise to go to your parents for help.
whatever your sexuality preference is....
14yrs[you] %26amp; 18yrs[him] umm that's illegal.
plus eww no way, perves like that are not worthy.
you deserve better!
He is a loser, so please run. He ';wants things'; because you are making yourself available. It is illegal, and NOT a good thing to do. Stop talking to him.
Yes, that is bad. He probably only wanted sex to begin with , you are too young. If you're going to be having sex at least do it with someone your own age.
wait your 14 and gay ?!
whoaaa lmaoo??
you're a kid in a gay relationship with an adult? does that even sound right????
you need to find a good woman
Hey it happens, to be turthfully it is normal for someone of 13 or 14 to test being gay or having feeling for the same sex, I did and I ended up liking males better ( women are nuts), mostly because its something you are more use to then girls vis the '; hanging with fellows '; movement. But I would ask you to wait on having sex or whatever you would like to call it, because you don't seem to be sure about, you guys seem like close buddies and that can be mistaken as sexal feelings when really its just something yourself need to attach too.
AND top it all, AND THIS IS A BIG ONE: 'kid, he's 18, that is know a rape and he shouldn't be taking the youthfully feelings you are having and using it for he's own sick demands. And by the look of it ( and I would know its happened to me before ) thats what he's doing.trust me it will be hard to forget him but you'll be happier in the long run.
if you need someone to talk about it add me to your yahoo.
Nick: Dreamdragongirl
or
Msn Nick: Dragoongirl@hotmail.com
are you gay?
Thinking about moving to big city...Any advice on dating, life?
I live in a small city, I don't have much options with women. It's just ridiculously hard to meet someone who is 25 to 30. I'm in my thirties and feel I am waisting and have waisted too much time. I want to experience the life of a big city. The economy sucks. But I think I can find something. Any different in a big city? I'm sure if you have a decent job and look pretty good you can have your choice in women? I can't meet anyone here. There's about 200 K people here but it's mostly young women, white trash, or single moms (nothing wrong with that but I want my own kids). Can you give me some advice on big cities?Thinking about moving to big city...Any advice on dating, life?
I dont live in one but I wouldn't mind. The best way to get girls is where there favorite calougne .....money!!!!! Good chicks don't really exist anymore so you should take what you can get. Oh my bad your just looking for chicks Im looking for ones that at least think theyre good.Thinking about moving to big city...Any advice on dating, life?
ya, dont get raped
actually it's pretty hard to meet some1 in a very big city...but maybe in your office there are single ladies but actually, using the internet is much better! ^^)
A bigger city won't be any better. A city with a population of 200K isn't THAT small considering that some cities have only 10K people(honestly, I would DIE of being bored).
I grew up in Houston and in Houston, 2.2 million people live in the city. I now live in Cincinnati and there is only about 350K in the city, and yet I didn't see a difference woman wise. You have the same results just about in every city.
Yeah there is more selection to choose from, but that means there is more competition as well. Take new york for example. Millions of women...but most are stuck up and go after rich guys who can offer them the most amount of money. Honestly, do you really want to end up with someone like that?
I dont live in one but I wouldn't mind. The best way to get girls is where there favorite calougne .....money!!!!! Good chicks don't really exist anymore so you should take what you can get. Oh my bad your just looking for chicks Im looking for ones that at least think theyre good.Thinking about moving to big city...Any advice on dating, life?
ya, dont get raped
actually it's pretty hard to meet some1 in a very big city...but maybe in your office there are single ladies but actually, using the internet is much better! ^^)
A bigger city won't be any better. A city with a population of 200K isn't THAT small considering that some cities have only 10K people(honestly, I would DIE of being bored).
I grew up in Houston and in Houston, 2.2 million people live in the city. I now live in Cincinnati and there is only about 350K in the city, and yet I didn't see a difference woman wise. You have the same results just about in every city.
Yeah there is more selection to choose from, but that means there is more competition as well. Take new york for example. Millions of women...but most are stuck up and go after rich guys who can offer them the most amount of money. Honestly, do you really want to end up with someone like that?
Please help me!! i need help and advice!!! its about life.?
im 18 and today i had an interview for a job so after a two hour interview.. i got the job.
only problem is i dont no if i want this job now.
first they can make me work until midnight, problem with that is i live 2 hours away from the job and have to catch two trains just to get to my job. so if i finish work at midnight i have to wait an hour on one train station for one train than 45mins on the other so ill be getting hme at 3:30am.
plus i dnt no the area well... and were my job is a rough area.
also my job is helping ppl fix the internet problem and will be working 8hours a day.
im so worried and scared.......
my mum and bf do not reckon i shld take the job cause of travelling.
plz can sum1 help mePlease help me!! i need help and advice!!! its about life.?
The way I see it, you have two options. Turn the job down and look for something closer and better. 2. Take the job and start looking for something else. When you find it, bolt. Remember, we are in a tough economy and you never know when you'll find another job. The commute may be a pain but at least you'll have money coming in and you'll have something to fall back on in case you don't find something else. And don't feel too bad about quitting early. Remember, companies won't hesitate to lay you off when it suits them so don't be afraid to do the same when it suits you.Please help me!! i need help and advice!!! its about life.?
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I agree with your mom. You can surely get a job closer to home and traveling at that hour on the train does not sound safe to me. Actually, nothing about this job sounds good. In your field you can do better for sure. Good luck!
I wouldn't take the job, 2 hours is way too far. But it's completely up to you.. =)
The 2-hour commute is ridiculous. Pass on this job.
Good luck!
If you really need it, take it or else just find another one
I recommend u shud nt take this job....besides travelling u have 8 days working...which could kinda stress u!
only problem is i dont no if i want this job now.
first they can make me work until midnight, problem with that is i live 2 hours away from the job and have to catch two trains just to get to my job. so if i finish work at midnight i have to wait an hour on one train station for one train than 45mins on the other so ill be getting hme at 3:30am.
plus i dnt no the area well... and were my job is a rough area.
also my job is helping ppl fix the internet problem and will be working 8hours a day.
im so worried and scared.......
my mum and bf do not reckon i shld take the job cause of travelling.
plz can sum1 help mePlease help me!! i need help and advice!!! its about life.?
The way I see it, you have two options. Turn the job down and look for something closer and better. 2. Take the job and start looking for something else. When you find it, bolt. Remember, we are in a tough economy and you never know when you'll find another job. The commute may be a pain but at least you'll have money coming in and you'll have something to fall back on in case you don't find something else. And don't feel too bad about quitting early. Remember, companies won't hesitate to lay you off when it suits them so don't be afraid to do the same when it suits you.Please help me!! i need help and advice!!! its about life.?
Hi, if you want to earn part time, you can earn thru, INCOME BY SMS, Send SMS - Earn Money, Get Rs. 200 per active SMS. Just Visit- http://www.smsindia.cjb.net and http://www.incomebysms.co.nr , http://www.career.cjb.net
I agree with your mom. You can surely get a job closer to home and traveling at that hour on the train does not sound safe to me. Actually, nothing about this job sounds good. In your field you can do better for sure. Good luck!
I wouldn't take the job, 2 hours is way too far. But it's completely up to you.. =)
The 2-hour commute is ridiculous. Pass on this job.
Good luck!
If you really need it, take it or else just find another one
I recommend u shud nt take this job....besides travelling u have 8 days working...which could kinda stress u!
I need serious advice people! I need to get my life together!?
I am 19 yr. old female who turning 20 in a couple of weeks. I have a really bad past. I used to drink alot, smoked all the time spend my money recklessly whatever it was I did it. When I was 18 I got a credit card that had a $200 limit and I have yet to pay it off... back then I didn't care... needless to say the principle and interest are sky high. Now that I'm trying clean up my life and be responsible... I have two jobs while going to school full time...I need help. I have to move out cause I can't live with mother any more, so I went with a friend to get an apartment. It is tax credit housing... I have money to pay rent but I'm not sure if they will approve. What can I do clean up the financial mess that I have made and make myself financially independent from my parents and financially stable and secure for the future? How do I clean up credit by the time I'm 22? Do you think the housing people will reject me?I need serious advice people! I need to get my life together!?
Call the card company and beg if this is debt you created within 7 years. No really if you can get irrate enough about the fees, they will remove some or all of them for the promise of paying off the balance. a tleast in my case it worked for one card, which I DID pay off but they keep charging me fees on payment s that weren't even late, the fee was more than the payment but o top it off I never got bills from them just kept paying it on-line through my bank beofre the due date.
I think it's completily deliberate to not send you bills when you're close to paid off,and to claim a payment arrived late in order to charge a fee cause you can't force them to get your payment in their system but they cut off time.
If yo pay it off it's not going to help you within even a year to get housing. If it's been many years I'd wait it out it's illegal after 7 years to continue reporting it and believe me they sold the debt to someone else a long time ago. Soem states have less than 7 years so check the law. Don't ever give them a payment if it's been that long because you than renew the debt and give them a right to rereport it on your credit report and yu have in essence admitted to the debt amount in full and it will haunt you for a long time, some may even try to keep charging you fees on the balance even though your account isn't open!
I would say for housing say look I had bad credit/ no credit but I do have money enough to pay rent, if your bank statement looks good I'd bring that with you to show you have money in the bank. If you're really worried and have the money offer to pay an extra month of rent in advance( I would avoid extra deposit cause you won't have access to that money until you moved out, thentoo it's all to tempting for the landlord to try very hard to find ways to keep most of that money for damages repairs paint jobs that they may not be entitled to).I need serious advice people! I need to get my life together!?
Sorry to tell you, but I think credit reports will stay with you for 7 years. Credit and Driving Records are the two important things in the United States. Bad credit? That's going to hurt - Bad Driving Records .. that will hurt too. Good luck and you should
call the Credit Bureau.
You are only young and have lots of time to recoup losses, $200.00 is not a lot of money. Education is the key to a better future, a good job and stability. Self discipline is a positive factor in everything and if you didn't have it you would not care. You already have a great head start on life..a caring, positive attitude!
Pay then down
but do not .. and I repeat DO NOT close your credit card... it will damage your FICO score and you do not want that
at 22 i was $60,000 in debt and hadn't worked in two years. don't worry about it...life is good when You are messed up.
The best place to start for you will be some sort of service that lets you get a free copy of your credit report. (There are several places online like freecreditreport.com that will let you have one if you sign up for a 30 day trial for some BS service that you have to pay out the nose for if you forget to cancel it so DON'T FORGET!) Get your credit report and then take it to your bank (or your mam's bank if you don't have one) and ask someone there to help you look at it. Most banks, and especially credit unions, offer a free consultation to help customers read their credit report. This person is the absolute BEST person to ask how to start on the road to better credit. It doesn't have to take years!!! It can improve by over 100 points (credit score) in about a month with a few smart moves. One thing to ask about at the bank is a secured credit card. It works like this: You put at least $250 in a ';locked'; account and the bank gives you a bonafide credit card with a limit of the same dollar amount. You use the card just like a normal credit card and it builds your credit, but with no risk for the bank.
Start there, and follow the other advice the bank counseler gives you, and you'll have OK credit in no time. You might not qualify for housing that requires a credit check, but keep looking for housing that doesn't require it. If you can't find any, ask at DSHS and they can help you find some.
Good Luck!
First off, with your credit card. Find out how much you owe. Get that money together, call them up and tell them you want to pay off the balance. Then simply as to close the account and ask ';do you delete?';
9 out of 10 will say yes if you agree to pay of the balance right then and there. If they say yes, tell them you want a letter stating this emailed to you, or faxed before you pay, so you have proof. Then once they give you your info, pay them off. They will report to the creditors to take it off your report, but make sure you get that paper before you pay. Saying, ';they said so on the phone'; doesn't work. If you have that paper, you have the proof they said it.
And also, someone above said Lexington law. they will do the job, but if you only have 1 thing, you can take care of this yourself.
Also, if they reported you to a collection agency, you can contest that with your letter from the original company and they have to take their claim off as well. That's why you need that letter.
its only a 200$ credit card limit and you only had one fault. so its not that bad as you think.
Call them up and make arrangements to make the payment in full. Make sure you talk about them sending you a letter of paid in full. Send that out to all the credit agencies and then they will place that it was paid on your credit report.
From there just apply for two or three cards at the mall and use them once only when you have the money for the item. And then buy it on the cards and pay them before the bill even gets to you so that you dont spend the money ahead of time.
As far as the housing problem trust me one credit card with a $200 limit will not hurt your chance's. for two reasons one you dont have real credit established. And two you were young and it was such a low credit limit. They wont judge you on that. They might think you dont have adiquit credit meaning alot more credit. So just apply for all them cards i said and DONT USE THEM until you can pay them off in full. Then get rid of them if you are bad with that stuff.
take care
P.S. the person DUUH that posted is wrong its not 7 years anymore now they report for 10 years Im pretty sure of. I just read somewhere that they changed all them years along with the Chapter 7 laws and whom can file and lengths of years.
As well they can report all the way till then and if you reopen the can of worms with them right before the cut of line they can continue from there on to report again. But again this is not a big deal
knock off youre crap youre giving youre parents you think you know it all 19-20 you dont know sh t . pay off card listen to mom , go to school, stay @ moms till you have dough to do a good move w/ her blesing other wise youll be screwed later.she loves you very much . quit the jobs you dont need them right? say again take the cotton out of youre ears and put it in youre mouth
The real question is why can't you live with mother anymore?
You don't have the credit to live away from home, right now.
You need to get your life together BEFORE leaving maminem's house!
Is she too controlling or is she still waiting for you to act your age and not your shoe size?
You need to stay with maminem until at least 22 because, based on your previous actions, you are no where near grown.
You need at least 24 months to prove to creditors and yourself that you can handle ';rent'; if you had problems with a $200 credit card at age 18.
Here is what you do
1) List your income
2) List your normal recurring expenses (rent, utilitities, gas for car, food, entertainment, cell phone, auto insurance and the like).
3) Subtract expenses from your income.
4) If the number is negative --%26gt; stop --%26gt; remain at Mom's house until you find a job that makes Income - Expenses a positive #.
If the number is positive --%26gt; stick to the budget.
5) Pay your bills (keep them in a hanging file folder divided by creditor).
6) Pay your bills on time (write the due date on the front of each envelope and check your hanging file on a periodic basis -- e.g. weekly).
7) Tell yourself ';hell no'; when you want to buy something that you really, really want, but really, really don't need. This is called self-control and growing up.
8)If you ever find that you can't pay a bill on time --%26gt; call creditor first and work out payment arrangement -- let me be clear on this --%26gt; would be a good idea to call as soon as you realize that you can't pay the bill ==%26gt; do not wait until the bill is PAST DUE to reach this realization ==%26gt; that is what trifling folk do.
After 24 months of timely payments, apply for your apartment with your friend(s) and thank your mama endlessly for the FREE RENT she gave over age 18!
And lastly, you didn't get into this mess in one month's time and you ain't gonna rehabilitate your FICO score in one month either. Pipe dreams are for crack addicts, not for folk who are serious about getting on the right track!
I don't know it sounds that you had bad credit or you make you credit look bad. You were young and seriously I have heard that it is really hard to clean your credit. Everything that we do we have to pay it of with life, now you have to live with your mother. Next time be more care full, but don't feel bad you have learned your lesson I am pretty sure you are doing well know. Seriously it is nice that you have taken you life in a good way. You are putting your life together, but it don't have to be perfect the important thing is that you are trying and the effort and bad experiences you are suffering one day will be paid. Life can't be change in one day or months or even for many years, but if you continue trying one day you will reach your goal. Try to pay anything that you have on credit now, if you have a high interest just get another credit card that offers 0% for transferred balances, or get a loan and paid all those credit cards and then pay your loan on time.
i don't know about cleaning up yr credit, but if you have trouble with housing, you can do one of two things:
- request a cosigner who has decent credit so that the llord will feel more secure in his/her decision to rent. this doesn't affect you, per se, but it basically makes the other person liable if you flake out on rent.
- consider rooming in a house with other people. doesn't require a credit check , usually, and people usually just want a work reference to check you out.. it's usually cheaper and you can meet good people. and that way you can start building your credit back....
you can build your credit back, to the best of my understanding -- you just need to be consistent about paying bills in full and on time, etc.
hope this helps some
sounds like your problems branch off substance abuse... get to AA or NA before you end up w/ nothing
Are you living in US? $200? if you have realised yourself have spent too much, try to cut the Credit card. (force yourself not to spend too much over budget). Find a job of course can help you. Do u study at the same time? You can do something like ';tutor'; to lower grade classmate, earn the tutor fee. Give up smoke, drink which are not essential expensive. if you really wanna clear all the debt, it is never too late. and for the problem of housing, i can't suggest you. it is hard to estimate the decision fm government. Good luck
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Go online and register with one of those credit companiest that contest things on your credit report.
I dont know if you can do it in 2 years but make sure you always pay everything on time is the best advice.Try to pay down high balances.
I don't know how much I can help. Keep your head up. From this moment forward every positive thing that you do will come back to you. Karma is not just a river valley in Tapanga.
Call the card company and beg if this is debt you created within 7 years. No really if you can get irrate enough about the fees, they will remove some or all of them for the promise of paying off the balance. a tleast in my case it worked for one card, which I DID pay off but they keep charging me fees on payment s that weren't even late, the fee was more than the payment but o top it off I never got bills from them just kept paying it on-line through my bank beofre the due date.
I think it's completily deliberate to not send you bills when you're close to paid off,and to claim a payment arrived late in order to charge a fee cause you can't force them to get your payment in their system but they cut off time.
If yo pay it off it's not going to help you within even a year to get housing. If it's been many years I'd wait it out it's illegal after 7 years to continue reporting it and believe me they sold the debt to someone else a long time ago. Soem states have less than 7 years so check the law. Don't ever give them a payment if it's been that long because you than renew the debt and give them a right to rereport it on your credit report and yu have in essence admitted to the debt amount in full and it will haunt you for a long time, some may even try to keep charging you fees on the balance even though your account isn't open!
I would say for housing say look I had bad credit/ no credit but I do have money enough to pay rent, if your bank statement looks good I'd bring that with you to show you have money in the bank. If you're really worried and have the money offer to pay an extra month of rent in advance( I would avoid extra deposit cause you won't have access to that money until you moved out, thentoo it's all to tempting for the landlord to try very hard to find ways to keep most of that money for damages repairs paint jobs that they may not be entitled to).I need serious advice people! I need to get my life together!?
Sorry to tell you, but I think credit reports will stay with you for 7 years. Credit and Driving Records are the two important things in the United States. Bad credit? That's going to hurt - Bad Driving Records .. that will hurt too. Good luck and you should
call the Credit Bureau.
You are only young and have lots of time to recoup losses, $200.00 is not a lot of money. Education is the key to a better future, a good job and stability. Self discipline is a positive factor in everything and if you didn't have it you would not care. You already have a great head start on life..a caring, positive attitude!
Pay then down
but do not .. and I repeat DO NOT close your credit card... it will damage your FICO score and you do not want that
at 22 i was $60,000 in debt and hadn't worked in two years. don't worry about it...life is good when You are messed up.
The best place to start for you will be some sort of service that lets you get a free copy of your credit report. (There are several places online like freecreditreport.com that will let you have one if you sign up for a 30 day trial for some BS service that you have to pay out the nose for if you forget to cancel it so DON'T FORGET!) Get your credit report and then take it to your bank (or your mam's bank if you don't have one) and ask someone there to help you look at it. Most banks, and especially credit unions, offer a free consultation to help customers read their credit report. This person is the absolute BEST person to ask how to start on the road to better credit. It doesn't have to take years!!! It can improve by over 100 points (credit score) in about a month with a few smart moves. One thing to ask about at the bank is a secured credit card. It works like this: You put at least $250 in a ';locked'; account and the bank gives you a bonafide credit card with a limit of the same dollar amount. You use the card just like a normal credit card and it builds your credit, but with no risk for the bank.
Start there, and follow the other advice the bank counseler gives you, and you'll have OK credit in no time. You might not qualify for housing that requires a credit check, but keep looking for housing that doesn't require it. If you can't find any, ask at DSHS and they can help you find some.
Good Luck!
First off, with your credit card. Find out how much you owe. Get that money together, call them up and tell them you want to pay off the balance. Then simply as to close the account and ask ';do you delete?';
9 out of 10 will say yes if you agree to pay of the balance right then and there. If they say yes, tell them you want a letter stating this emailed to you, or faxed before you pay, so you have proof. Then once they give you your info, pay them off. They will report to the creditors to take it off your report, but make sure you get that paper before you pay. Saying, ';they said so on the phone'; doesn't work. If you have that paper, you have the proof they said it.
And also, someone above said Lexington law. they will do the job, but if you only have 1 thing, you can take care of this yourself.
Also, if they reported you to a collection agency, you can contest that with your letter from the original company and they have to take their claim off as well. That's why you need that letter.
its only a 200$ credit card limit and you only had one fault. so its not that bad as you think.
Call them up and make arrangements to make the payment in full. Make sure you talk about them sending you a letter of paid in full. Send that out to all the credit agencies and then they will place that it was paid on your credit report.
From there just apply for two or three cards at the mall and use them once only when you have the money for the item. And then buy it on the cards and pay them before the bill even gets to you so that you dont spend the money ahead of time.
As far as the housing problem trust me one credit card with a $200 limit will not hurt your chance's. for two reasons one you dont have real credit established. And two you were young and it was such a low credit limit. They wont judge you on that. They might think you dont have adiquit credit meaning alot more credit. So just apply for all them cards i said and DONT USE THEM until you can pay them off in full. Then get rid of them if you are bad with that stuff.
take care
P.S. the person DUUH that posted is wrong its not 7 years anymore now they report for 10 years Im pretty sure of. I just read somewhere that they changed all them years along with the Chapter 7 laws and whom can file and lengths of years.
As well they can report all the way till then and if you reopen the can of worms with them right before the cut of line they can continue from there on to report again. But again this is not a big deal
knock off youre crap youre giving youre parents you think you know it all 19-20 you dont know sh t . pay off card listen to mom , go to school, stay @ moms till you have dough to do a good move w/ her blesing other wise youll be screwed later.she loves you very much . quit the jobs you dont need them right? say again take the cotton out of youre ears and put it in youre mouth
The real question is why can't you live with mother anymore?
You don't have the credit to live away from home, right now.
You need to get your life together BEFORE leaving maminem's house!
Is she too controlling or is she still waiting for you to act your age and not your shoe size?
You need to stay with maminem until at least 22 because, based on your previous actions, you are no where near grown.
You need at least 24 months to prove to creditors and yourself that you can handle ';rent'; if you had problems with a $200 credit card at age 18.
Here is what you do
1) List your income
2) List your normal recurring expenses (rent, utilitities, gas for car, food, entertainment, cell phone, auto insurance and the like).
3) Subtract expenses from your income.
4) If the number is negative --%26gt; stop --%26gt; remain at Mom's house until you find a job that makes Income - Expenses a positive #.
If the number is positive --%26gt; stick to the budget.
5) Pay your bills (keep them in a hanging file folder divided by creditor).
6) Pay your bills on time (write the due date on the front of each envelope and check your hanging file on a periodic basis -- e.g. weekly).
7) Tell yourself ';hell no'; when you want to buy something that you really, really want, but really, really don't need. This is called self-control and growing up.
8)If you ever find that you can't pay a bill on time --%26gt; call creditor first and work out payment arrangement -- let me be clear on this --%26gt; would be a good idea to call as soon as you realize that you can't pay the bill ==%26gt; do not wait until the bill is PAST DUE to reach this realization ==%26gt; that is what trifling folk do.
After 24 months of timely payments, apply for your apartment with your friend(s) and thank your mama endlessly for the FREE RENT she gave over age 18!
And lastly, you didn't get into this mess in one month's time and you ain't gonna rehabilitate your FICO score in one month either. Pipe dreams are for crack addicts, not for folk who are serious about getting on the right track!
I don't know it sounds that you had bad credit or you make you credit look bad. You were young and seriously I have heard that it is really hard to clean your credit. Everything that we do we have to pay it of with life, now you have to live with your mother. Next time be more care full, but don't feel bad you have learned your lesson I am pretty sure you are doing well know. Seriously it is nice that you have taken you life in a good way. You are putting your life together, but it don't have to be perfect the important thing is that you are trying and the effort and bad experiences you are suffering one day will be paid. Life can't be change in one day or months or even for many years, but if you continue trying one day you will reach your goal. Try to pay anything that you have on credit now, if you have a high interest just get another credit card that offers 0% for transferred balances, or get a loan and paid all those credit cards and then pay your loan on time.
i don't know about cleaning up yr credit, but if you have trouble with housing, you can do one of two things:
- request a cosigner who has decent credit so that the llord will feel more secure in his/her decision to rent. this doesn't affect you, per se, but it basically makes the other person liable if you flake out on rent.
- consider rooming in a house with other people. doesn't require a credit check , usually, and people usually just want a work reference to check you out.. it's usually cheaper and you can meet good people. and that way you can start building your credit back....
you can build your credit back, to the best of my understanding -- you just need to be consistent about paying bills in full and on time, etc.
hope this helps some
sounds like your problems branch off substance abuse... get to AA or NA before you end up w/ nothing
Are you living in US? $200? if you have realised yourself have spent too much, try to cut the Credit card. (force yourself not to spend too much over budget). Find a job of course can help you. Do u study at the same time? You can do something like ';tutor'; to lower grade classmate, earn the tutor fee. Give up smoke, drink which are not essential expensive. if you really wanna clear all the debt, it is never too late. and for the problem of housing, i can't suggest you. it is hard to estimate the decision fm government. Good luck
Visit the ';get out of debt'; section of leading financial website ';The Motley Fool';, and it'll give you all the help you need.
US Version
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UK Version
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Go online and register with one of those credit companiest that contest things on your credit report.
I dont know if you can do it in 2 years but make sure you always pay everything on time is the best advice.Try to pay down high balances.
I don't know how much I can help. Keep your head up. From this moment forward every positive thing that you do will come back to you. Karma is not just a river valley in Tapanga.
I'm a food addict. THIS has ruined my whole life! HELP! I need advice especially on motivation!?
hang clothes youd like to fit into on back of wardrobe
brush teeth or drink water instead of snacking
think about this...
your life is very short
do you want to waste it being unhappy with your weight?
or do you want to make the most of it being happy with yourself?
finally, look at this every time you feel like snacking...
http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b314/t鈥?/a>I'm a food addict. THIS has ruined my whole life! HELP! I need advice especially on motivation!?
Do something else. Play sport. Get your mind off foods.I'm a food addict. THIS has ruined my whole life! HELP! I need advice especially on motivation!?
I am a sugar addict and bought the book the sugar addicts total recovery program. I lost 86 lbs and feel great. It has totally changed my life. I went from a size 20 to a size 8.
been there. I know exactly what you are talking about. A lot of it is the physical addictions and imbalances. TAKE bifidus or acidophilus, as your intestinal flora will certainly be shot, and that is where the 'empty space' feelings come from. Also start drinking water regularly, 2 litres a day (not all at once) as this helps to detox the system. And a good colonic therapist is invaluable for this condition, as fecal matter gathers in deposits on the colon walls increasingly with increased overeating and the associated emotions and sluggishness. This will also increase the level of nutrients you get from your food as the blocked and (currently) toxic colon walls impede the passage of minerals into the blood as well as hijacking the immune system. I don't know where you are; I know good uns in the UK. http://www.cathartic-health-clinic.co.uk鈥?/a>
http://www.colonic-association.com/
ALSO a number of Flower Essence makers address this condition. Australian Bush Calm and Clear combo has a number of essences in it that aid proper digestion, and the single essences Bottle Brush (clearing toxins and patterns, mother issues also), Wild Potato Bush (detox, feelings of heaviness), Dagger Hakea (detox,) and Billy Goat Plum (bad feelings about body and about addiction).
You can get these from a store or a website and make them up yourself; the proper dosage for these is 7 drops; but dilute the stock (single essences) first as directed on the bottle.
I've always used complementary medicine, these work. That's why I trained as a practitioner a few years ago. There are medical doctors at least in the UK and Germany who use them primarily, having discovered how effective they are.
A good homeopath (and they vary) will do a huge amount, as will an effective 5-element acupuncturist, to balance the energy and put your wheels back on the road.
Also look at Mark Lovendale's website for information about food allergies/addictions. he is very experienced and knowledgeable and has a clinic in LA.
http://www.preventivecare.com/
I know how miserable and horrible it is; it is not your fault; it is your responsibility and I could wish I'd asked as you have, I couold have gained a few years; it took up most of my 20s.
I wish you well, and a happy and productive life!
you need to get the book ';The Glycemic Load Diet';. It has changed my life. I eat only organic dairy, non-starchy fruits and veggies, nuts and anything with a face (protein). My 40 years of acne has vanished, I have lost weight and I'm not hungry. Out of control eating is caused by your body's reaction to starch (potatoes, corn, grains). I was bulimic and out of control with my eating and my life (for almost 30 years) until I changed my diet AND it was easy to give up the foods that were making me crazy.
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brush teeth or drink water instead of snacking
think about this...
your life is very short
do you want to waste it being unhappy with your weight?
or do you want to make the most of it being happy with yourself?
finally, look at this every time you feel like snacking...
http://i22.photobucket.com/albums/b314/t鈥?/a>I'm a food addict. THIS has ruined my whole life! HELP! I need advice especially on motivation!?
Do something else. Play sport. Get your mind off foods.I'm a food addict. THIS has ruined my whole life! HELP! I need advice especially on motivation!?
I am a sugar addict and bought the book the sugar addicts total recovery program. I lost 86 lbs and feel great. It has totally changed my life. I went from a size 20 to a size 8.
been there. I know exactly what you are talking about. A lot of it is the physical addictions and imbalances. TAKE bifidus or acidophilus, as your intestinal flora will certainly be shot, and that is where the 'empty space' feelings come from. Also start drinking water regularly, 2 litres a day (not all at once) as this helps to detox the system. And a good colonic therapist is invaluable for this condition, as fecal matter gathers in deposits on the colon walls increasingly with increased overeating and the associated emotions and sluggishness. This will also increase the level of nutrients you get from your food as the blocked and (currently) toxic colon walls impede the passage of minerals into the blood as well as hijacking the immune system. I don't know where you are; I know good uns in the UK. http://www.cathartic-health-clinic.co.uk鈥?/a>
http://www.colonic-association.com/
ALSO a number of Flower Essence makers address this condition. Australian Bush Calm and Clear combo has a number of essences in it that aid proper digestion, and the single essences Bottle Brush (clearing toxins and patterns, mother issues also), Wild Potato Bush (detox, feelings of heaviness), Dagger Hakea (detox,) and Billy Goat Plum (bad feelings about body and about addiction).
You can get these from a store or a website and make them up yourself; the proper dosage for these is 7 drops; but dilute the stock (single essences) first as directed on the bottle.
I've always used complementary medicine, these work. That's why I trained as a practitioner a few years ago. There are medical doctors at least in the UK and Germany who use them primarily, having discovered how effective they are.
A good homeopath (and they vary) will do a huge amount, as will an effective 5-element acupuncturist, to balance the energy and put your wheels back on the road.
Also look at Mark Lovendale's website for information about food allergies/addictions. he is very experienced and knowledgeable and has a clinic in LA.
http://www.preventivecare.com/
I know how miserable and horrible it is; it is not your fault; it is your responsibility and I could wish I'd asked as you have, I couold have gained a few years; it took up most of my 20s.
I wish you well, and a happy and productive life!
you need to get the book ';The Glycemic Load Diet';. It has changed my life. I eat only organic dairy, non-starchy fruits and veggies, nuts and anything with a face (protein). My 40 years of acne has vanished, I have lost weight and I'm not hungry. Out of control eating is caused by your body's reaction to starch (potatoes, corn, grains). I was bulimic and out of control with my eating and my life (for almost 30 years) until I changed my diet AND it was easy to give up the foods that were making me crazy.
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Whats your best advice for people that have no money but want to get their life on the right track?
Depends on what you mean by right track, but if you mean financially, the best thing to do is to start saving. Even if its $1/day. More important than the money you save, the self-imposed discipline will help you get your life back together in other ways. You'll start to appreciate the little things in life, and life will also slow down. Then you can start planning for the long term, like going back to school so you can get trained for another higher paying job.Whats your best advice for people that have no money but want to get their life on the right track?
nothing can block the ways of hard workWhats your best advice for people that have no money but want to get their life on the right track?
It's hard to not have money, but the thing they should do is find a job that will be a start. Even if its hard, they have to try and find other ways to make money. To get their life on the right track is going to take awhile but they will have to work hard. Also they need to belive that they can do it.baby sunscreen
nothing can block the ways of hard workWhats your best advice for people that have no money but want to get their life on the right track?
It's hard to not have money, but the thing they should do is find a job that will be a start. Even if its hard, they have to try and find other ways to make money. To get their life on the right track is going to take awhile but they will have to work hard. Also they need to belive that they can do it.
Life changing decision??? any advice?
Im a senior in high school. my parents were thinking about moving back to their country after i finish collage but they mentioned that if i wanted to go after 2 years i could. i was born in America but i visited my country during winter break and it wasn't till this time that i liked it a lot. i have been there 2 times prior to this visit and i guess i was to young to like it. well now i have a decision to make. do 2 years of collage here and transfer over in my country, or finish school here and live here. i will be losing alot of people i know but at the same time i have moved alot so i dont have really close friends. i have been hesitant in this decision because i would love to live over there because of all the family i have and i like being around people that are like me. but moving away from a place i have lived for for such a long time seems like a drastic thing to do... any advice would be greatly appreciatedLife changing decision??? any advice?
what is your country?Life changing decision??? any advice?
It seemed drastic for your parents to move to America as well, but they've done it for your sake, I'm so sure of that..
You have the chance to experiment the way they felt in the first place.
It's also a very good thing to compare the education and living conditions in other country. Do not hesitate to be with your parents in their original country..all family will be truly happy. It was your parents long time dream..don't interrupt it, you have everything to gain.
Tell your parents that if you move you cant do whatever you want and if you move you get to see your parents. And ask them to explain to you the positive and negative things of what will happen if you make your final decision. But think hard about it because your decision counts how the rest of your life will turn out.
i would do the 2 years of colledge in ur country. it seems like you love it there and like you said, u dont have too many close frinds in ur place so why not you know? its not like ur never gonna go back there. you can always visit.
well i would live here...but would really help to know what your country is..if its a really poor place i don't suggest moving there. at least in America you would have a pretty high standard of living.
Go back and visit for a bit. If you like it, go. If not, stay. And if your not sure, well, you have four years to think about it.
you're spelling collage wrong, it's college.
your decision depends on what you would rather do. my advice to you is to think about it.
you have lots of time, so use it wisely.
GOOD LUCK. Things always happens for a reason. do w.e. you think is right for your career path and etc.
idk
none of us can make this answer for you... sorry
just think about it alot nd do what u want to do if i was in ur position i would stay cause uve lived her ur whole life thats just my oppinion
Another option would be to finish school here, then travel over there to live for a couple of years.You don't have to give up your American Citizenship to live in another country for awhile. It could be an adventure. You could only benefit by the bi-cultural experience. It doesn't have to be viewed as permanent. But it could be as permanent as you decide you want it to be. You could always come back home, to the good ole US of A any time your little heart desires. No matter what you choose, your options are always open. The world is a much ';smaller'; place now then it used to be. Travel from place is easier and less time consuming, and people do it all the time.
The world is your oyster, young person. Experience all you can, everywhere you can.
Well, it's mostly up to how you feel. Are your roots stronger in your country or here? Where do you think you'd be happiest? Consider those things when deciding. Picture your future in each place. where do you think you'll go in life there or here. Hope this helps =]
what is your country?Life changing decision??? any advice?
It seemed drastic for your parents to move to America as well, but they've done it for your sake, I'm so sure of that..
You have the chance to experiment the way they felt in the first place.
It's also a very good thing to compare the education and living conditions in other country. Do not hesitate to be with your parents in their original country..all family will be truly happy. It was your parents long time dream..don't interrupt it, you have everything to gain.
Tell your parents that if you move you cant do whatever you want and if you move you get to see your parents. And ask them to explain to you the positive and negative things of what will happen if you make your final decision. But think hard about it because your decision counts how the rest of your life will turn out.
i would do the 2 years of colledge in ur country. it seems like you love it there and like you said, u dont have too many close frinds in ur place so why not you know? its not like ur never gonna go back there. you can always visit.
well i would live here...but would really help to know what your country is..if its a really poor place i don't suggest moving there. at least in America you would have a pretty high standard of living.
Go back and visit for a bit. If you like it, go. If not, stay. And if your not sure, well, you have four years to think about it.
you're spelling collage wrong, it's college.
your decision depends on what you would rather do. my advice to you is to think about it.
you have lots of time, so use it wisely.
GOOD LUCK. Things always happens for a reason. do w.e. you think is right for your career path and etc.
idk
none of us can make this answer for you... sorry
just think about it alot nd do what u want to do if i was in ur position i would stay cause uve lived her ur whole life thats just my oppinion
Another option would be to finish school here, then travel over there to live for a couple of years.You don't have to give up your American Citizenship to live in another country for awhile. It could be an adventure. You could only benefit by the bi-cultural experience. It doesn't have to be viewed as permanent. But it could be as permanent as you decide you want it to be. You could always come back home, to the good ole US of A any time your little heart desires. No matter what you choose, your options are always open. The world is a much ';smaller'; place now then it used to be. Travel from place is easier and less time consuming, and people do it all the time.
The world is your oyster, young person. Experience all you can, everywhere you can.
Well, it's mostly up to how you feel. Are your roots stronger in your country or here? Where do you think you'd be happiest? Consider those things when deciding. Picture your future in each place. where do you think you'll go in life there or here. Hope this helps =]
I've tried to describe this $80 worst haircut of my life but keep getting advice for split ends...?
My long, very carefully (Kerastace, leave in conditioners, always protected with conditioning mask at the beach) and expensively(!) maintained hair (long layered 12 -18';) was cut in some way that it looks like a roto rooter ate it! I have a fuzzy halo of ends sticking out from the crown down. The salon says its ';layers!'; All that it looks like is a person who doesn't eat right or condition. Is this a style?!! Why?!!! How do I grow out this mess and protect these several vertical inches of ends that snag on everything?!! (How do I stay sane? I am at my wits end - so depressed. I know it will be years...)I've tried to describe this $80 worst haircut of my life but keep getting advice for split ends...?
You sound like you are in the same situation as me. Is your hair straight? Is it fine in texture? It sounds like the hair dresser cut your hair with a razor or point cut the ends.Let me tell you,A hair dresser used a razor on my hair without my permission and ruined all of my long hair. My hair was way to thinned out and it had pieces sticking out that gave my hair a frayed look,it looked like some small animal had been chewing on my hair. I had to wait almost a year for some new growth and then have all the old hair cut off.The girl did a cr-ppy cut also,then I waited a few more months to go to another salon to have that cut fixed. That girl did exactly what I told her not to do. She point cut my layers,once again making my hair to thin and stringgy,has some pieces sticking up,not like the razor cut,but it is still bad. I hate it and I'm really depressed. I don't plan on letting anyone touch my hair for a long time. If you think you might be able to trust another stylist maybe wait a couple months and then have some of it trimmed off. You have layers ,but then there is shorter hair in the layer,those are the hairs that stick up,right? Tell them to cut it with regular scissors, NO RAZOR,NO POINT CUTTING, NO TEXTURIZING SHEARS, all those things can ruin your hair. Sorry this happened to you. Good luck P.S. no one above me knows what they are talking about. I highly doubt that your hair looks like that becuase you don't know how to style it. I know how to style hair and layers,it looks bad no matter what I do. allot of stylist these days are so ';texturize'; happy and it looks like SH-T. You can have layers that blend without texturizing. I've been trying to get my hair to look like hair for almost two years and they keep screwing it up. Believe me I have cried many times because of this.I feel so bad for you, I know exactly what your going through. Just keep trimming it and use products that will smooth some of those hairs down. For example (Matrix Sleek in the orange bottle).I've tried to describe this $80 worst haircut of my life but keep getting advice for split ends...?
I have gasoline and matches.
Do we use them on your hair of your hairdresser?
:::::One hairdresser, up in smoke:::::
Go to a different salon and tell them you want it unfrizzed.
:::Gets a fork... hmmm, this hairdresser tastes like CHICKEN!:::
For frizzy hair I use 1 Tablespoon of Pure Aloe Vera Gel mixed with 1-2 drops of Jojoba oil. Put it on sopping wet hair and leave it. You may have to try different amounts for the ingrediants to find the right combination for you.
Sounds like the stylist ';texturized'; you. Often, a stylist will see someone with long hair and either think or are told that the client wants body, but wants to keep the length. In order to acheive the body, they cut layers into the hair so it isn't weighed down by all the hair being one length. For someone like you who probably isn't used to styling their hair (I'm talking mousse or gel, teasing or flatironing, and then finishing with a wax or pomade), that might be why the layers look frizzy. Layers are great, but they require styling, like round brushing and using a styling wax or paste to make it piecey and chunky.
My advice would be to go back to the salon, ask for the stylist to recut or reshape the hair. This will require cutting off length, but that's going to have to happen if you want to minimize the layers. I had to do that when I had a similar cut. It looked great on a friend, but not on me. I took off several inches, cutting the length up to the third longest layer so I could just let everything grow out together. Either that, or you'll have to let the top layers grow out and get just the ends trimmed regularly to allow the layers to catch up.
If you've got split ends you need to get your hair cut more regularly %26amp; get a new conditioner...
girls and their hair
Go back and insist that someone recut it at no charge. Freaking ridiculous! Please do not eat the $80.
try taking some prenatal vitamins it will make it grow faster and be alot healthy strong and it will not be fuzzy at the end. carrot oil is good for your hair. FIRE your hair dresser! good luck
dont get depressed.massage your scalp with wheatgerm oil.
You sound like you are in the same situation as me. Is your hair straight? Is it fine in texture? It sounds like the hair dresser cut your hair with a razor or point cut the ends.Let me tell you,A hair dresser used a razor on my hair without my permission and ruined all of my long hair. My hair was way to thinned out and it had pieces sticking out that gave my hair a frayed look,it looked like some small animal had been chewing on my hair. I had to wait almost a year for some new growth and then have all the old hair cut off.The girl did a cr-ppy cut also,then I waited a few more months to go to another salon to have that cut fixed. That girl did exactly what I told her not to do. She point cut my layers,once again making my hair to thin and stringgy,has some pieces sticking up,not like the razor cut,but it is still bad. I hate it and I'm really depressed. I don't plan on letting anyone touch my hair for a long time. If you think you might be able to trust another stylist maybe wait a couple months and then have some of it trimmed off. You have layers ,but then there is shorter hair in the layer,those are the hairs that stick up,right? Tell them to cut it with regular scissors, NO RAZOR,NO POINT CUTTING, NO TEXTURIZING SHEARS, all those things can ruin your hair. Sorry this happened to you. Good luck P.S. no one above me knows what they are talking about. I highly doubt that your hair looks like that becuase you don't know how to style it. I know how to style hair and layers,it looks bad no matter what I do. allot of stylist these days are so ';texturize'; happy and it looks like SH-T. You can have layers that blend without texturizing. I've been trying to get my hair to look like hair for almost two years and they keep screwing it up. Believe me I have cried many times because of this.I feel so bad for you, I know exactly what your going through. Just keep trimming it and use products that will smooth some of those hairs down. For example (Matrix Sleek in the orange bottle).I've tried to describe this $80 worst haircut of my life but keep getting advice for split ends...?
I have gasoline and matches.
Do we use them on your hair of your hairdresser?
:::::One hairdresser, up in smoke:::::
Go to a different salon and tell them you want it unfrizzed.
:::Gets a fork... hmmm, this hairdresser tastes like CHICKEN!:::
For frizzy hair I use 1 Tablespoon of Pure Aloe Vera Gel mixed with 1-2 drops of Jojoba oil. Put it on sopping wet hair and leave it. You may have to try different amounts for the ingrediants to find the right combination for you.
Sounds like the stylist ';texturized'; you. Often, a stylist will see someone with long hair and either think or are told that the client wants body, but wants to keep the length. In order to acheive the body, they cut layers into the hair so it isn't weighed down by all the hair being one length. For someone like you who probably isn't used to styling their hair (I'm talking mousse or gel, teasing or flatironing, and then finishing with a wax or pomade), that might be why the layers look frizzy. Layers are great, but they require styling, like round brushing and using a styling wax or paste to make it piecey and chunky.
My advice would be to go back to the salon, ask for the stylist to recut or reshape the hair. This will require cutting off length, but that's going to have to happen if you want to minimize the layers. I had to do that when I had a similar cut. It looked great on a friend, but not on me. I took off several inches, cutting the length up to the third longest layer so I could just let everything grow out together. Either that, or you'll have to let the top layers grow out and get just the ends trimmed regularly to allow the layers to catch up.
If you've got split ends you need to get your hair cut more regularly %26amp; get a new conditioner...
girls and their hair
Go back and insist that someone recut it at no charge. Freaking ridiculous! Please do not eat the $80.
try taking some prenatal vitamins it will make it grow faster and be alot healthy strong and it will not be fuzzy at the end. carrot oil is good for your hair. FIRE your hair dresser! good luck
dont get depressed.massage your scalp with wheatgerm oil.
Life is garbage, any advice on cleaning it up will be appreciated.?
Im an absolute failure.
Things were fine untill somewhere in grade 10 when i was 16(i think?). I was always shy and quiet, but i suddenly started coming home at lunch and not going back, i rarely attended from then on, eventually dropping out. Diagnosed with 'Depression' from doctor whoever, I did alot of nothing for the next few years.
Right now im 21 and feel im still failing at life, I have not gotten my grade 12, I rarely go out anywhere, Apparently i have social anxiety and am on some medication, I see a pschologist sometimes, but he does nothing helpful if you ask me, just gives pills.
My mom doesent know what to do (just me and her), Im slowly working on grade12 classes but with horrible marks considering i was a 90s student untill this.
I have very few friends that dont come around often. Im lonely almost all the time, I feel as if my Cat is my only friend.
Im Fat/ugly/shy/failure and im open to suggestions, not that ill do them because im too chicken.....Life is garbage, any advice on cleaning it up will be appreciated.?
Cleaning Life Garbage
1. Make the decision that you will start putting effort to change. Make a contract with your MOM to help you keep it and give you positive rewards when you accomplish a short term goal. Start with small goals and then with long term goals.
1. Throw all your garbage away by throwing all those toxic people in your life. THROW THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
STAND FIRM ON YOUR DECISIONS.
2. Stay with your medications and find a good therapist or support group in your city.
3. Put effort in your studies, because your are so young.
4. Start walking for exercise plus its good for depression. Make great effort to do it.
5. Do volunteer work to learn self-esteem.
6. If you fail on a first try; try and try again until you get it right. Don't give up.
7. Learn how to be positive about life. Always remember to be positive, this is something you have to keep in your head and never forget. Be positive; AVOID NEGATIVISM.
8. The most important of all, PRAY TO GOD FOR HELP.
Pray every night, and maybe you and your mom can start reading the bible and discussions.
GOD BLESS! AMEN! SHALOM!Life is garbage, any advice on cleaning it up will be appreciated.?
If you want your life to get better you have to ';want'; it. I try to live by the philosophy ';you get out of life what you put into it';,
';if you don't put anything into it, you don't get anything out of it';. You have to apply yourself if you want the positive in your life. Right now you aren't doing anything so nothing is happening to change it. I'm sure you are trying as much as you can, but you have to be able to step outside of yourself and look at your situation from another perspective. What would you tell somebody else who was in your shoes? What advise would you give them? You sound very smart and you haven't given up yet, just keep taking it day by day.
Okay. We got our hands full. First, find a hobby. Not warcraft but something like hiking, walking, do some carpenter work on the side to gain skills and money. And commit to this. Don't do it half ash like high school. Force yourself to a schedule and always follow thru. If you said you were going to walk 2 miles, finish it. don't quit in the middle. Make friends at work and have good work ethics. Your co workers can be great friends. Listen to other people's trouble. People always want to talk. Just listen and it will help you gain knowledge about problems we all face. Good luck. No one cares about what you look like after they get to know you.
life is a garbage and you have to eat that garbage all by yourself to get rid of id..
just relax some more time.. Things wud better in its own way..
Guess what?? This life we're living is it. It's now or never. YOU have made these choices for yourself. DO NOT blame your anxiety disorder or your depression. That just gives you an excuse not to succeed. Get out there and make a contribution to this world.
I understand. I have bi polar, socialphobia too. Youre not a failure. You are sick. And these feelings and thoughts you have are not your real personality. Please trust me with this I know exactly where you are at. Your meds seem ineffective as does your psychologist. Good help is hard to find but you must persevere. Find a psychologist you can relate too and tell your Dr you want to try different meds. Ive seen many different Drs and tried many different drugs. A good book is Feeling good by Dr David Burns. Its on cognitive therapy. It helped me. This really is treatable so please,please,please don't give up.
Things were fine untill somewhere in grade 10 when i was 16(i think?). I was always shy and quiet, but i suddenly started coming home at lunch and not going back, i rarely attended from then on, eventually dropping out. Diagnosed with 'Depression' from doctor whoever, I did alot of nothing for the next few years.
Right now im 21 and feel im still failing at life, I have not gotten my grade 12, I rarely go out anywhere, Apparently i have social anxiety and am on some medication, I see a pschologist sometimes, but he does nothing helpful if you ask me, just gives pills.
My mom doesent know what to do (just me and her), Im slowly working on grade12 classes but with horrible marks considering i was a 90s student untill this.
I have very few friends that dont come around often. Im lonely almost all the time, I feel as if my Cat is my only friend.
Im Fat/ugly/shy/failure and im open to suggestions, not that ill do them because im too chicken.....Life is garbage, any advice on cleaning it up will be appreciated.?
Cleaning Life Garbage
1. Make the decision that you will start putting effort to change. Make a contract with your MOM to help you keep it and give you positive rewards when you accomplish a short term goal. Start with small goals and then with long term goals.
1. Throw all your garbage away by throwing all those toxic people in your life. THROW THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
STAND FIRM ON YOUR DECISIONS.
2. Stay with your medications and find a good therapist or support group in your city.
3. Put effort in your studies, because your are so young.
4. Start walking for exercise plus its good for depression. Make great effort to do it.
5. Do volunteer work to learn self-esteem.
6. If you fail on a first try; try and try again until you get it right. Don't give up.
7. Learn how to be positive about life. Always remember to be positive, this is something you have to keep in your head and never forget. Be positive; AVOID NEGATIVISM.
8. The most important of all, PRAY TO GOD FOR HELP.
Pray every night, and maybe you and your mom can start reading the bible and discussions.
GOD BLESS! AMEN! SHALOM!Life is garbage, any advice on cleaning it up will be appreciated.?
If you want your life to get better you have to ';want'; it. I try to live by the philosophy ';you get out of life what you put into it';,
';if you don't put anything into it, you don't get anything out of it';. You have to apply yourself if you want the positive in your life. Right now you aren't doing anything so nothing is happening to change it. I'm sure you are trying as much as you can, but you have to be able to step outside of yourself and look at your situation from another perspective. What would you tell somebody else who was in your shoes? What advise would you give them? You sound very smart and you haven't given up yet, just keep taking it day by day.
Okay. We got our hands full. First, find a hobby. Not warcraft but something like hiking, walking, do some carpenter work on the side to gain skills and money. And commit to this. Don't do it half ash like high school. Force yourself to a schedule and always follow thru. If you said you were going to walk 2 miles, finish it. don't quit in the middle. Make friends at work and have good work ethics. Your co workers can be great friends. Listen to other people's trouble. People always want to talk. Just listen and it will help you gain knowledge about problems we all face. Good luck. No one cares about what you look like after they get to know you.
life is a garbage and you have to eat that garbage all by yourself to get rid of id..
just relax some more time.. Things wud better in its own way..
Guess what?? This life we're living is it. It's now or never. YOU have made these choices for yourself. DO NOT blame your anxiety disorder or your depression. That just gives you an excuse not to succeed. Get out there and make a contribution to this world.
I understand. I have bi polar, socialphobia too. Youre not a failure. You are sick. And these feelings and thoughts you have are not your real personality. Please trust me with this I know exactly where you are at. Your meds seem ineffective as does your psychologist. Good help is hard to find but you must persevere. Find a psychologist you can relate too and tell your Dr you want to try different meds. Ive seen many different Drs and tried many different drugs. A good book is Feeling good by Dr David Burns. Its on cognitive therapy. It helped me. This really is treatable so please,please,please don't give up.
Life Problems. Please Give Advice.?
I have a problem. My mom and dad are getting divorced, because my dad cheated. Anyways, My dad cheated on my mom over like 13 times. Oh, I forgot to tell you my mom and dad has been together for about 19 years. My mom had sex at 16 and couldn't finish high school or college. So, Finally my mom is going to college to get a few degrees in medicine. She's picking up on her life, and I'm proud of her. We moved in my grandma's house, so my mom can save up money for a new house and a new car. She's going out with a 42 year old man. In the navy, slim, and very funny. So, He is making her extremely happy. And I don't have to worry about my mom getting pregent, because she got her tubes tied.
Now on my dad. He's sweet, but a man who makes wrong dissions. Currently he has one girlfriend. [Who I haven't met yet] I was going through his phone. [To find his games on his phone] And I saw text messages to a girl to the name of Jenny Malitia. My dad smokes and drinks beer. And he has been smoking ever since he was 15. And he is 35, so he has a short life ahead of him. He never spends time with me. I only see him about 2 times in a month, but I don't worry about it, because he is a bad person and he can't hurt my feelings. I'm stronger than him even though he's older. He was never a father to me. My mom is getting a lawyer to divorce my father. Every soon she will divorce him, marry her boyfriend, get a swell good, and get about 3 degrees in medicine.
I need advice. I know that the reason they broke up wasn't me. It was their poor relationship. And the unability to express their feelings and stop being attracted to other people. I just need someone wise to guide me through it. And keep me safe. I'm not going to commit suicide and I'm not going to cut myself. I have self control. I need a friend. A soulmate. A person. A ..... Fa...mi....ly..... That I will never have. A complete unbreakable, lovely, unstoppable, unbelievable, wonder family. This is my story, My life.
Send me advice.Life Problems. Please Give Advice.?
My parents wetre married for 25 yrs when my dad met someone else and decided he wanted to marry her instead. He did, 1 month after the divorce was final. I have yet to meet her. My mom was broken after this and has slowly come out of her black abyss and has her first job since i was 4 (i am now 28). She has her own place with my younger sister for the first time in her life. She married at 16. My father and i have a very strained relationship and my sister won't even talk to him. Now that you know where i come from, i'll tell ya how i got through it. You need to confront your parents about how you are feeling. You need to realize that you do have a family, even if they are not always what you need them to be. Adults can be very blind when it comes to how their dramatic life affects their kids. i am sure both your parents love you and want what is best for you. You didn't mention how YOU got along with your moms bf. If your mom is serious about him, he should be building a relationship with you too. He won't replace your dad or anything, but he could be a family just as much. My new father-in-law has made me feel like i have a dad there for me when my own father is 8 states away and barely talks to me. I have had friends parents be there for me in ways my own couldn't have been. You need to look outside the box when defining family. Anyone who listens, and loves you and values you is family. Anyone who makes you feel good about yourself is family. You will be ok.It takes time and i am sure you will find your way. If you need someone to talk to about it, feel free to e-mail me or message me. Good luck hun.Life Problems. Please Give Advice.?
you don't say how old you are but if ur father was never a father to you then don't worry about him and focus on your mom. if she took you with her it only means she loves you. And you know what? She IS your FAMILY. Talk about your feelings with your mom let her know that need a safe haven and that you are proud of her and her new relationship. Moms need our kids support too. As long as you have each other it will be all right. Good Luck!
there is a place for you,
God has a free gift of salvation, that will put you into
the
eternal, Born again Christian family.
God being who he is, wishes you to never be on your own,
and with the Salvation,
and guidance,
will place you into a
Bible honouring Christian group.
......
but wait there is more,
you want a completely unbreakable family...
A complete unbreakable, lovely, unstoppable, unbelievable, wonder family......
Then this is the person that you need to become,
God will help you,
and perhaps lead you in a direction, that you overlook frequently.
Now on my dad. He's sweet, but a man who makes wrong dissions. Currently he has one girlfriend. [Who I haven't met yet] I was going through his phone. [To find his games on his phone] And I saw text messages to a girl to the name of Jenny Malitia. My dad smokes and drinks beer. And he has been smoking ever since he was 15. And he is 35, so he has a short life ahead of him. He never spends time with me. I only see him about 2 times in a month, but I don't worry about it, because he is a bad person and he can't hurt my feelings. I'm stronger than him even though he's older. He was never a father to me. My mom is getting a lawyer to divorce my father. Every soon she will divorce him, marry her boyfriend, get a swell good, and get about 3 degrees in medicine.
I need advice. I know that the reason they broke up wasn't me. It was their poor relationship. And the unability to express their feelings and stop being attracted to other people. I just need someone wise to guide me through it. And keep me safe. I'm not going to commit suicide and I'm not going to cut myself. I have self control. I need a friend. A soulmate. A person. A ..... Fa...mi....ly..... That I will never have. A complete unbreakable, lovely, unstoppable, unbelievable, wonder family. This is my story, My life.
Send me advice.Life Problems. Please Give Advice.?
My parents wetre married for 25 yrs when my dad met someone else and decided he wanted to marry her instead. He did, 1 month after the divorce was final. I have yet to meet her. My mom was broken after this and has slowly come out of her black abyss and has her first job since i was 4 (i am now 28). She has her own place with my younger sister for the first time in her life. She married at 16. My father and i have a very strained relationship and my sister won't even talk to him. Now that you know where i come from, i'll tell ya how i got through it. You need to confront your parents about how you are feeling. You need to realize that you do have a family, even if they are not always what you need them to be. Adults can be very blind when it comes to how their dramatic life affects their kids. i am sure both your parents love you and want what is best for you. You didn't mention how YOU got along with your moms bf. If your mom is serious about him, he should be building a relationship with you too. He won't replace your dad or anything, but he could be a family just as much. My new father-in-law has made me feel like i have a dad there for me when my own father is 8 states away and barely talks to me. I have had friends parents be there for me in ways my own couldn't have been. You need to look outside the box when defining family. Anyone who listens, and loves you and values you is family. Anyone who makes you feel good about yourself is family. You will be ok.It takes time and i am sure you will find your way. If you need someone to talk to about it, feel free to e-mail me or message me. Good luck hun.Life Problems. Please Give Advice.?
you don't say how old you are but if ur father was never a father to you then don't worry about him and focus on your mom. if she took you with her it only means she loves you. And you know what? She IS your FAMILY. Talk about your feelings with your mom let her know that need a safe haven and that you are proud of her and her new relationship. Moms need our kids support too. As long as you have each other it will be all right. Good Luck!
there is a place for you,
God has a free gift of salvation, that will put you into
the
eternal, Born again Christian family.
God being who he is, wishes you to never be on your own,
and with the Salvation,
and guidance,
will place you into a
Bible honouring Christian group.
......
but wait there is more,
you want a completely unbreakable family...
A complete unbreakable, lovely, unstoppable, unbelievable, wonder family......
Then this is the person that you need to become,
God will help you,
and perhaps lead you in a direction, that you overlook frequently.
Life issues...Need REAL advice, have a heart, don't get offended easily??? Help?
Okay, I am in my early 20s. I don't like living at home with my parents. They were usually on and off with each other and my dad moved back in when I was away at college.
Since, I've come home at first it was okay, I was glad to be home. Then he started treating me bad and yelling at me over dishes and stuff.
I left my college in my junior yr, because I wanted to transfer, but I wanted to take some time off. Now, I have problems with debt. Which I plan on taking care of. I need to know about my credit status, too. I need to start fixing it, because I plan on opening a firm and another business.
The thing about my family is that they really don't help me advance in life. I've been asking for years if someone would teach me to drive and they always put me off. My dad is retired and he works at a church part time. My mom works at a health insurance co, so she is tired when she comes home.
They always help my sister and her 4 kids, because her husband is a jerk. My brother, no one really helps him like that, because, well, he's a guy, And he can pretty much take care of himself.
I don't really hang out with my friends that much because I don't drive. People get sick of aways having to go out of their way to pick me up, because I live on another side of town than them.
It is really hard to talk to people around where I live, like even white people sometimes, because I'm broke and I look broke. It hasn't always been that way, because I used to have jobs and able to keep myself up. But, when I don't have a job you can tell. My parents don't give me much money, They may give some to my sister more.
It kind of annoys me right now, because I am into fashion design and retail, and people around me say, oh she's not really into clothes like that, or you don't seem like, when they don't know me. People who know me know I love clothes...It's so frustrating. It seems like no one wants to help you when you're broke. But, when I have jobs I work VERY hard.
It's frustrating too, because no one around me gives me advice about college and all this other stuff, and they wont take time to help me with anything, even though I am willing to learn.
Any websites, or suggestions???
Life really sucks right now.
My family doesn't seem as hungry for success. and other people look down on me so much that they don't even want to help me, even though I am trying to better myself and my life.
Help please...Life issues...Need REAL advice, have a heart, don't get offended easily??? Help?
I would enroll in school again. Financial aid is available and colleges also offer work-study jobs that are on campus. When you re-enroll, choose to stay on campus instead of at home. It's probably cheaper and more convenient. Find a job, any job, even if it's not your dream job and save as much as you can. Like he other said, it's going to be harder because you, like myself and a lot of other, don't have anyone paying your way. I know from experience. My parents couldn't even afford my textbooks when I enrolled freshman year.
Feel free to message me if you need any more advice.Life issues...Need REAL advice, have a heart, don't get offended easily??? Help?
No one is going to hand you a million dollars hon.
You are going to have to find someone(perhaps at church) who will teach you to drive.Next get a job if you can find one and start saving for a car and paying off loans.Finish your education if at all possible.
You have figured out you can not depend on your family, so you are going to have to pull yourself up by your boot straps and do something else and it is not going to be easy.It CAN be done IF you'll endure.
hey, its me. you answered my question thanks by the way. I'm a direct person, always have been, always will be.
Here's what ive got for you. The first thing you need to do is learn how to drive. You can go get your permit first cuz that's what you gotta do. then every time one of your parents is going somewhere ask if you can Drive them. just keep bugging them. maybe ask your sister, she seems like she would be in a good place to help you out. Then get a job and start saving up money. then apply for grants and scholarships and all the free money for college you can and go to college. It will be a long hard frustrating road but you can do it.
Well, i say try to take a bus or a really good friend who could help you and they know your problem and issues with your family. but you need a job for real like if you have a friend who have a job like as to ride with her to save economy!(:baby sunscreen
Since, I've come home at first it was okay, I was glad to be home. Then he started treating me bad and yelling at me over dishes and stuff.
I left my college in my junior yr, because I wanted to transfer, but I wanted to take some time off. Now, I have problems with debt. Which I plan on taking care of. I need to know about my credit status, too. I need to start fixing it, because I plan on opening a firm and another business.
The thing about my family is that they really don't help me advance in life. I've been asking for years if someone would teach me to drive and they always put me off. My dad is retired and he works at a church part time. My mom works at a health insurance co, so she is tired when she comes home.
They always help my sister and her 4 kids, because her husband is a jerk. My brother, no one really helps him like that, because, well, he's a guy, And he can pretty much take care of himself.
I don't really hang out with my friends that much because I don't drive. People get sick of aways having to go out of their way to pick me up, because I live on another side of town than them.
It is really hard to talk to people around where I live, like even white people sometimes, because I'm broke and I look broke. It hasn't always been that way, because I used to have jobs and able to keep myself up. But, when I don't have a job you can tell. My parents don't give me much money, They may give some to my sister more.
It kind of annoys me right now, because I am into fashion design and retail, and people around me say, oh she's not really into clothes like that, or you don't seem like, when they don't know me. People who know me know I love clothes...It's so frustrating. It seems like no one wants to help you when you're broke. But, when I have jobs I work VERY hard.
It's frustrating too, because no one around me gives me advice about college and all this other stuff, and they wont take time to help me with anything, even though I am willing to learn.
Any websites, or suggestions???
Life really sucks right now.
My family doesn't seem as hungry for success. and other people look down on me so much that they don't even want to help me, even though I am trying to better myself and my life.
Help please...Life issues...Need REAL advice, have a heart, don't get offended easily??? Help?
I would enroll in school again. Financial aid is available and colleges also offer work-study jobs that are on campus. When you re-enroll, choose to stay on campus instead of at home. It's probably cheaper and more convenient. Find a job, any job, even if it's not your dream job and save as much as you can. Like he other said, it's going to be harder because you, like myself and a lot of other, don't have anyone paying your way. I know from experience. My parents couldn't even afford my textbooks when I enrolled freshman year.
Feel free to message me if you need any more advice.Life issues...Need REAL advice, have a heart, don't get offended easily??? Help?
No one is going to hand you a million dollars hon.
You are going to have to find someone(perhaps at church) who will teach you to drive.Next get a job if you can find one and start saving for a car and paying off loans.Finish your education if at all possible.
You have figured out you can not depend on your family, so you are going to have to pull yourself up by your boot straps and do something else and it is not going to be easy.It CAN be done IF you'll endure.
hey, its me. you answered my question thanks by the way. I'm a direct person, always have been, always will be.
Here's what ive got for you. The first thing you need to do is learn how to drive. You can go get your permit first cuz that's what you gotta do. then every time one of your parents is going somewhere ask if you can Drive them. just keep bugging them. maybe ask your sister, she seems like she would be in a good place to help you out. Then get a job and start saving up money. then apply for grants and scholarships and all the free money for college you can and go to college. It will be a long hard frustrating road but you can do it.
Well, i say try to take a bus or a really good friend who could help you and they know your problem and issues with your family. but you need a job for real like if you have a friend who have a job like as to ride with her to save economy!(:
Advice and ideas to help me get the most from my sex life.?
have sex with someone you care about and turns you on inside and out of the bed. don't just make it a sex life. If you just want a sex life and nothing more, then i don't know what to tell you.Advice and ideas to help me get the most from my sex life.?
it depends, what are you already doing? what's your interests?Advice and ideas to help me get the most from my sex life.?
You should rephrase the question.. Its kind of confusin..
it depends, what are you already doing? what's your interests?Advice and ideas to help me get the most from my sex life.?
You should rephrase the question.. Its kind of confusin..
If u have a dream about some1 that died & theyre giving u advice on ur life, did their spirit visit u?
i met this guy a couple months ago %26amp; the very 1st day we met we started 2 like each other. we're not going out yet but we're getting 2 know each other 1st. the scary thing is that his dad passed away 2 years ago. i never met him, but he's told me about him. %26amp; last month i had a dream, where his mom and dad were talking 2 my parents, and his dad looked really happy and he told me that i was a very special girl and that he would've loved 4 me 2 b part of the family. does any1 think that he was trying 2 communciate with me??If u have a dream about some1 that died %26amp; theyre giving u advice on ur life, did their spirit visit u?
I don't believe that the other side does contact us, but that is not to say they don'tIf u have a dream about some1 that died %26amp; theyre giving u advice on ur life, did their spirit visit u?
you just really want to be with this guy so your having these weird dreams
I don't believe that the other side does contact us, but that is not to say they don'tIf u have a dream about some1 that died %26amp; theyre giving u advice on ur life, did their spirit visit u?
you just really want to be with this guy so your having these weird dreams
Ever feel so alone? What do you think about my poem? Any advice to make life changes?
People all thru the building
yet I feel so alone
I sit at my desk
My mind wanders into the darkest places
My heart cries out
Searchin the net to silence the beast
Reaching for the friends
typing and waiting
Hoping for quick responses
Something to numb the hurt
Too much time to be idle
my heart aches
my mind deceives me
Religon calls it the devil
my mind knows it's the poison
wishing for drugs to numb
Hoping someone responds
Checking, double checking
How could they not know
I'm drowning in front of the lifeguard
My depression, my loneliness
Only seen as neediness to
Friends and foes that are living life
Partaking in the beauty that
Has been ripped away from me
Wondering what I did so wrong
To have my family gone in an instance
Settling worked for so long
Now I sit lonely and idle
Crying out, checked again no response
They say stick out your hand when your falling
What if noone is there to catch you?
A time when everyone is too busy to deal
Your demons become their burdons
I see their annoyance when i speak and sob
They spew out quick fixes and judge
Wondering why you put yourself thru it all
They don't know I'm doing the best with what I have
Being in a much better place then I
Hard for them to imagine what it's like in my shoes
Checking double checking no response
Emailed an hour ago still no response.
I sigh, looking for more
Yearning for love and acceptance
Wishing to have someone to hold me at night
Hoping for validation to show I'm alive
My daughter is my angel yet she is young
She brings me joy I never imagined possible
At least I have her, but I'm still hoping for more
Feeling so wrong with all of my thoughts
Knowing it's not right and I need to toughen up
Now you have a novel..........Ever feel so alone? What do you think about my poem? Any advice to make life changes?
Lonliness is catastrophic, a foe to be aware,
At times you may feel as if theres not one soul,
In the world who would ever care,
Your heart is heavy, your mind is weak,
As the distance takes it's toll,
On the way you look at yourself,
You begin to lose control.
All at once, the sadness subsides,
In an instant you're back on track.....
Because someone who cares for you,
Places a warm hand upon your back.
You turn to see who the person is,
But your eyes see no one new,
Who was it? you ask yourself....
It's GOD, and he LOVES you.
You'll never be alone in life,
You'll always have a friend,
He's there for you even as you sleep,
From your beginning and past your end.
Hope this brightened your day a bit. SMILE!!!!!Ever feel so alone? What do you think about my poem? Any advice to make life changes?
You have fairly well captured what is otherwise called ';Life';.
None of us will really fill that hole that resides within each of us, that we seek friendships to fill, or acquisitions to fill, or visiting various places to fill... and nothing ever does seem to fill what seems to be missing within us.
What is missing is the acknowledgment of ones Soul. And what makes this so difficult is that ones Soul is composed of a super subtle Energy that ones brain cannot perceive. What makes it even more difficult is that ones MIND actually fears ones Soul as well, because ones MIND cannot perceive the Energy of ones Soul and misperceives it to be a monster hidden within oneself.
Friends, new things, new places, etc., temporarily takes our attention away from this nagging pain that we feel just as soon as our attention returns to oneself.
Does it help to know that this sense of loss or that something is missing is within us to drive us through Life? Not much, right? But how about if you realize that it is your Soul longing for God? And that rather than being a bad or bothersome thing, it is actually a wonderful acquaintance one must make. Learn to live with and use this longing to grieve for God. when you fell this pain of separation smile on the outside [and shed a tear within] and realize that it is God's Love that you are felling... and embrace it with joy.
In the evening, just before falling asleep... allow yourself to fully embrace this longing and loneliness and use it to stimulate a full-on grief for the life you must plow through each day. I have done this for years, and my sleep is sound and my days are a bit lighter because of it.
Peace
Well, don't feel alone, I've been there. I was in high school when my mom finally took me to the dr because she didn't know what else to do, but knew that I was an absolute wreck. He gave me a quiz type thing on paper, and from my answers knew that I was extremely depressed and prescribed Prozac. When I left his office that day I felt like I could breath again, there was an answer as to why I felt the way I did. That was in 1993, and I took it for many years after that. It was a God-send, depression is not always something you can get talked out of, it's a chemical imbalance and until that is fixed, you have no control. It was the best thing for me.
Go to the dr and if he won't listen find one that will, and figure out if something like that would help.
This is exactly how I feel, minus the daughter part (no kids for me yet). I love it.
yet I feel so alone
I sit at my desk
My mind wanders into the darkest places
My heart cries out
Searchin the net to silence the beast
Reaching for the friends
typing and waiting
Hoping for quick responses
Something to numb the hurt
Too much time to be idle
my heart aches
my mind deceives me
Religon calls it the devil
my mind knows it's the poison
wishing for drugs to numb
Hoping someone responds
Checking, double checking
How could they not know
I'm drowning in front of the lifeguard
My depression, my loneliness
Only seen as neediness to
Friends and foes that are living life
Partaking in the beauty that
Has been ripped away from me
Wondering what I did so wrong
To have my family gone in an instance
Settling worked for so long
Now I sit lonely and idle
Crying out, checked again no response
They say stick out your hand when your falling
What if noone is there to catch you?
A time when everyone is too busy to deal
Your demons become their burdons
I see their annoyance when i speak and sob
They spew out quick fixes and judge
Wondering why you put yourself thru it all
They don't know I'm doing the best with what I have
Being in a much better place then I
Hard for them to imagine what it's like in my shoes
Checking double checking no response
Emailed an hour ago still no response.
I sigh, looking for more
Yearning for love and acceptance
Wishing to have someone to hold me at night
Hoping for validation to show I'm alive
My daughter is my angel yet she is young
She brings me joy I never imagined possible
At least I have her, but I'm still hoping for more
Feeling so wrong with all of my thoughts
Knowing it's not right and I need to toughen up
Now you have a novel..........Ever feel so alone? What do you think about my poem? Any advice to make life changes?
Lonliness is catastrophic, a foe to be aware,
At times you may feel as if theres not one soul,
In the world who would ever care,
Your heart is heavy, your mind is weak,
As the distance takes it's toll,
On the way you look at yourself,
You begin to lose control.
All at once, the sadness subsides,
In an instant you're back on track.....
Because someone who cares for you,
Places a warm hand upon your back.
You turn to see who the person is,
But your eyes see no one new,
Who was it? you ask yourself....
It's GOD, and he LOVES you.
You'll never be alone in life,
You'll always have a friend,
He's there for you even as you sleep,
From your beginning and past your end.
Hope this brightened your day a bit. SMILE!!!!!Ever feel so alone? What do you think about my poem? Any advice to make life changes?
You have fairly well captured what is otherwise called ';Life';.
None of us will really fill that hole that resides within each of us, that we seek friendships to fill, or acquisitions to fill, or visiting various places to fill... and nothing ever does seem to fill what seems to be missing within us.
What is missing is the acknowledgment of ones Soul. And what makes this so difficult is that ones Soul is composed of a super subtle Energy that ones brain cannot perceive. What makes it even more difficult is that ones MIND actually fears ones Soul as well, because ones MIND cannot perceive the Energy of ones Soul and misperceives it to be a monster hidden within oneself.
Friends, new things, new places, etc., temporarily takes our attention away from this nagging pain that we feel just as soon as our attention returns to oneself.
Does it help to know that this sense of loss or that something is missing is within us to drive us through Life? Not much, right? But how about if you realize that it is your Soul longing for God? And that rather than being a bad or bothersome thing, it is actually a wonderful acquaintance one must make. Learn to live with and use this longing to grieve for God. when you fell this pain of separation smile on the outside [and shed a tear within] and realize that it is God's Love that you are felling... and embrace it with joy.
In the evening, just before falling asleep... allow yourself to fully embrace this longing and loneliness and use it to stimulate a full-on grief for the life you must plow through each day. I have done this for years, and my sleep is sound and my days are a bit lighter because of it.
Peace
Well, don't feel alone, I've been there. I was in high school when my mom finally took me to the dr because she didn't know what else to do, but knew that I was an absolute wreck. He gave me a quiz type thing on paper, and from my answers knew that I was extremely depressed and prescribed Prozac. When I left his office that day I felt like I could breath again, there was an answer as to why I felt the way I did. That was in 1993, and I took it for many years after that. It was a God-send, depression is not always something you can get talked out of, it's a chemical imbalance and until that is fixed, you have no control. It was the best thing for me.
Go to the dr and if he won't listen find one that will, and figure out if something like that would help.
This is exactly how I feel, minus the daughter part (no kids for me yet). I love it.
Help ! i need advice i'm going to study in france for the 1st time in my life out of my country?
i need advice about things to do before i go, and things to do when i get there . Tell me everything u gained from ur experience abroad,out of ur home town.I'm hesitating about that step and i need someone to encourage me to go for it!!Help ! i need advice i'm going to study in france for the 1st time in my life out of my country?
You can do this. Think about all the exciting things you will learn and people you will meet. Remember to get all the proper shots you will need for an over seas trip,passport,and try looking online the places that you can go visit while you are in the area you are going. They also have some great site seeing trips in groups if you are traveling alone. Make sure to not go looking at it so gloom like but instead tell yourself all the good things about the trip. Sounds like something to be really excited about and I hope its all youve ever imagined it to be. :) Have fun!Help ! i need advice i'm going to study in france for the 1st time in my life out of my country?
you must know French language, and that's important.
You can do this. Think about all the exciting things you will learn and people you will meet. Remember to get all the proper shots you will need for an over seas trip,passport,and try looking online the places that you can go visit while you are in the area you are going. They also have some great site seeing trips in groups if you are traveling alone. Make sure to not go looking at it so gloom like but instead tell yourself all the good things about the trip. Sounds like something to be really excited about and I hope its all youve ever imagined it to be. :) Have fun!Help ! i need advice i'm going to study in france for the 1st time in my life out of my country?
you must know French language, and that's important.
Now what?? I followed your advice and now my life is dodo......?
I'd start listening to myself.Now what?? I followed your advice and now my life is dodo......?
I know you didn't follow MY advice.Now what?? I followed your advice and now my life is dodo......?
Like the bird?
I know you didn't follow MY advice.Now what?? I followed your advice and now my life is dodo......?
Like the bird?
I am so depressed and hate my current life.. i need your advice please?
i am stuck in the biggest rut in my life (it's a big **** hole, actually). I am 34 and single...live n nyc.....work as a secretary. studied art and acting in school -- but failed so now i am a loser secretary. i wake up everyday dreading the day. go through the day angry and upset. go home tired and watch TV. go to bed -- can't sleep because I am upset about my life (contemplate death). get up and start the next day the same way. i am seeing a therapist but it hasn't helped (just expensive). i am sure a BF would help but i never meet anyone. I am told that I am attractive but I never get asked out. now the economy is **** so i can't take any risks (and i am supposed to now feel happy for the bad job i have). I don't know what to do. i can't live like this anymore. can anyone relate? i need some serious advice, please. what can i proactively do??I am so depressed and hate my current life.. i need your advice please?
I'm sorry everything is so bad right now.
I'm almost 17 and wile I obviously can't relate to you completely, the past 3 years, especially the past year has been really hard for me too. I've been on one and half dates total. I have insomnia, and I get up and follow the same routine, school, homework, exercise, get everything ready and go to bed, get up. I don't have much of a social life because I'm studying all the time. I've focused hard on school, but I test poorly, so I went get into the collages I want to.
Sorry, I'm not trying to complain to you, just trying to relate.
I get really depressed to. I think what you should do, is talk to your friends. Mine help me. Go out on week ends, try to have fun. If you do that you'll probably meet someone and even if you don't, it'll be good to just relax and have fun.
If you don't like your job, maybe you could go back to school. It's expensive, but if you saved a bit maybe you could, and then you could get a job you like better, but there's nothing wrong with being a secretary, so don't feel like you've failed. If you love art or acting, I'm sure there are lots of jobs that involve them.
(I just googled art jobs)
Architect | Art Appraiser | Art Buyer | Art Conservator | Art Gallery Conservator | Museum Conservator | Art Critic/Writer
Art Director | Art Historian | Artist | Portrait Painter | Art Therapist | Art Teacher
Fashion Designer | Copy Writer | Jewelery Designer | Flower Arrangement | Illustrator | Graphic Designer
Industrial Designer | Toy Designer | Game Designer | Art Lecturer | Gallery Director | Gallery Assistant | Framer | Conservation Framer | Canvas Stretcher
Art Curator | Photographer | Tattoo Artist | Interior Designer | Sculptor
Signwriter | Makeup Artist | Artists Model | Cartoonist | Art Hanger | Marketing Director
Costume Designer | Hair Stylist | Glass Blower | Animator | Web Designer
Typesetter | Set Designer | Production Designer | Scenic Designer | Scenic Painter | Stonemason | Mosaic Artist
Book Designer | Cake Decorator | Food Stylist | Food Photographer | Furniture Conservator | Furniture Restorer | Furniture Designer
Don't give up, it's tough right now, but you'll get through it. But really, talk to your friends and people around you, don't just hold it in.
I hope everything gets better :)I am so depressed and hate my current life.. i need your advice please?
Getting through life is one of the toughest things that a person can do. Feeling trapped is also not a good thing as people either shell up or come out swinging.
Visiting with a therapist is a good idea, but just like anything else there are good and bad therapist out there. Personally I would switch up my therapist if you are not getting the service that you feel is adequate.
A therapist should be helping you through your ordeals and providing some light at the end of the tunnel.
Do some changes in your life like moving to a new city, get a new job something you wanting to do for a long time, go back to school (your never to old to go back to school), go and meet new people find someone out there to start dating don't hold back do something now take chances and go out there and strut your stuff!
i am onely 23 but have simalar life
have been (suicidal) since i was 14
the onely thing that has cept me alive this long is a gilr that now hats me and has canser
am curantly planing a camping trip to just get away for a week
i fined that when things get there werst you need a change or just to step back and take a breth
i'm on myspace if you need someone to talk to
i think i'm intoresting
you could try to gather all the good things about you and your enviroment and then try to make them better
easy to say but hard to accomplish(even foe me ;P
move out of the town... go live in the arab world..
Hi there,
You are not the only one.
I am a Panic Attack sufferer due to my current life style, I have too much worried, sadness and disappointment.
I am a Lady Clerical Staff, I hate my colleagues because I am being bullied and they take advantage of me. (They think I am junior). I try hard seeking for a new job one year ago but till now I can't find any.
Many times, I feel like quit the job but I can't, I have a family. I don't know how long I can torarate. I am very depress.
Wake up every morning, I am moodless, thinking of going to a unpleasant office. The working environment really affected my mood badly. It is also bad for my mental health (panic attack).
I seek for a therapist recently. She gave me a non-constructive comments. I was telling her I being bullied but she said I am calculative, I am giving the senior staff problem.
I can't give you any advice just wanted to share my experience with you. Just think of me, I am worst than you, at least you don't have a Panic Attack, you don't have a family.baby sunscreen
I'm sorry everything is so bad right now.
I'm almost 17 and wile I obviously can't relate to you completely, the past 3 years, especially the past year has been really hard for me too. I've been on one and half dates total. I have insomnia, and I get up and follow the same routine, school, homework, exercise, get everything ready and go to bed, get up. I don't have much of a social life because I'm studying all the time. I've focused hard on school, but I test poorly, so I went get into the collages I want to.
Sorry, I'm not trying to complain to you, just trying to relate.
I get really depressed to. I think what you should do, is talk to your friends. Mine help me. Go out on week ends, try to have fun. If you do that you'll probably meet someone and even if you don't, it'll be good to just relax and have fun.
If you don't like your job, maybe you could go back to school. It's expensive, but if you saved a bit maybe you could, and then you could get a job you like better, but there's nothing wrong with being a secretary, so don't feel like you've failed. If you love art or acting, I'm sure there are lots of jobs that involve them.
(I just googled art jobs)
Architect | Art Appraiser | Art Buyer | Art Conservator | Art Gallery Conservator | Museum Conservator | Art Critic/Writer
Art Director | Art Historian | Artist | Portrait Painter | Art Therapist | Art Teacher
Fashion Designer | Copy Writer | Jewelery Designer | Flower Arrangement | Illustrator | Graphic Designer
Industrial Designer | Toy Designer | Game Designer | Art Lecturer | Gallery Director | Gallery Assistant | Framer | Conservation Framer | Canvas Stretcher
Art Curator | Photographer | Tattoo Artist | Interior Designer | Sculptor
Signwriter | Makeup Artist | Artists Model | Cartoonist | Art Hanger | Marketing Director
Costume Designer | Hair Stylist | Glass Blower | Animator | Web Designer
Typesetter | Set Designer | Production Designer | Scenic Designer | Scenic Painter | Stonemason | Mosaic Artist
Book Designer | Cake Decorator | Food Stylist | Food Photographer | Furniture Conservator | Furniture Restorer | Furniture Designer
Don't give up, it's tough right now, but you'll get through it. But really, talk to your friends and people around you, don't just hold it in.
I hope everything gets better :)I am so depressed and hate my current life.. i need your advice please?
Getting through life is one of the toughest things that a person can do. Feeling trapped is also not a good thing as people either shell up or come out swinging.
Visiting with a therapist is a good idea, but just like anything else there are good and bad therapist out there. Personally I would switch up my therapist if you are not getting the service that you feel is adequate.
A therapist should be helping you through your ordeals and providing some light at the end of the tunnel.
Do some changes in your life like moving to a new city, get a new job something you wanting to do for a long time, go back to school (your never to old to go back to school), go and meet new people find someone out there to start dating don't hold back do something now take chances and go out there and strut your stuff!
i am onely 23 but have simalar life
have been (suicidal) since i was 14
the onely thing that has cept me alive this long is a gilr that now hats me and has canser
am curantly planing a camping trip to just get away for a week
i fined that when things get there werst you need a change or just to step back and take a breth
i'm on myspace if you need someone to talk to
i think i'm intoresting
you could try to gather all the good things about you and your enviroment and then try to make them better
easy to say but hard to accomplish(even foe me ;P
move out of the town... go live in the arab world..
Hi there,
You are not the only one.
I am a Panic Attack sufferer due to my current life style, I have too much worried, sadness and disappointment.
I am a Lady Clerical Staff, I hate my colleagues because I am being bullied and they take advantage of me. (They think I am junior). I try hard seeking for a new job one year ago but till now I can't find any.
Many times, I feel like quit the job but I can't, I have a family. I don't know how long I can torarate. I am very depress.
Wake up every morning, I am moodless, thinking of going to a unpleasant office. The working environment really affected my mood badly. It is also bad for my mental health (panic attack).
I seek for a therapist recently. She gave me a non-constructive comments. I was telling her I being bullied but she said I am calculative, I am giving the senior staff problem.
I can't give you any advice just wanted to share my experience with you. Just think of me, I am worst than you, at least you don't have a Panic Attack, you don't have a family.
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